What's with the "dinner dates"?

[Bud Plug]

I was recently at a SC and the girl, who I had taken to the VIP many times before, asked "When are we going out to dinner"? After a few questions, I understood:

1) She wanted me to take her to a nice restaurant for dinner,
2) We should get a hotel room for after,
3) Take-out would be available at the hotel.

Is it just me, or do the rest of your also find it strange that an dancer/SP would expect to be taken out for a nice dinner in addition to her take-out fee? To my way of thinking, even taking a "civilian" date out to dinner in order to get laid is pretty pathetic. I'm happy to treat a woman to a nice dinner if I enjoy her company, but not for any other reason.

Her offer made me think she'd labelled me as a loser who would do anything, and pay anything, to get laid. That's not the sort of sales pitch that would hook me (not that I think take-out from a stripper is ever worthwhile compared to the other options)!

Do you guys think she was actually trying to offer me some sort of "treat" (notwithstanding I don't view it as one)?

 

[stang]

Give us her contact info and we'll let you know in a couple of days.

 

[Mongrel4u]

I was recently at a SC and the girl, who I had taken to the VIP many times before, asked "When are we going out to dinner"? After a few questions, I understood:

1) She wanted me to take her to a nice restaurant for dinner,
2) We should get a hotel room for after,
3) Take-out would be available at the hotel.

Is it just me, or do the rest of your also find it strange that an dancer/SP would expect to be taken out for a nice dinner in addition to her take-out fee? To my way of thinking, even taking a "civilian" date out to dinner in order to get laid is pretty pathetic. I'm happy to treat a woman to a nice dinner if I enjoy her company, but not for any other reason.

Her offer made me think she'd labelled me as a loser who would do anything, and pay anything, to get laid. That's not the sort of sales pitch that would hook me (not that I think take-out from a stripper is ever worthwhile compared to the other options)!

Do you guys think she was actually trying to offer me some sort of "treat" (notwithstanding I don't view it as one)?

I wouldnt say loser..more like pigeon...

shes just trying to milk you as much as possible by making it look like a "date"...get a free meal at a nice joint as well

 

[WhaWhaWha]

While we would certainly not try to pin any labels on you, some people, on both sides of the equation, and I'm not saying who, would occasionally like to be treated like a human being -- not just a slab of meat or a cash dispenser. Obviously she was mistaken to think that you were one of those people.

 

[osanowo]

While we would certainly not try to pin any labels on you, some people, on both sides of the equation, and I'm not saying who, would occasionally like to be treated like a human being -- not just a slab of meat or a cash dispenser. Obviously she was mistaken to think that you were one of those people.

lol

I concur.
The treat is when you invite her for dinner and she sleeps with you for free. If she's already talking about takeout then it means that you should feel lucky not to be charged for the time of the dinner.
She's a princess. It's too late.

 

[tboy]

While we would certainly not try to pin any labels on you, some people, on both sides of the equation, and I'm not saying who, would occasionally like to be treated like a human being -- not just a slab of meat or a cash dispenser. Obviously she was mistaken to think that you were one of those people.

Here Here wawa....

As for taking a woman out to dinner...wtf is wrong with that? whether you get laid or not, whether it is to help you get laid or not, some of us just like the company of beautiful women.....if that makes me a loser, then hell, I'm a loser.....and if you don't like treating a woman to a nice meal, umm, that makes you....gay? dumb? a neanderthal? a redneck? Hell, even rednecks buy their cousins a burger once in a while before screwing them!!!

 

[papasmerf]

Girl's gotta eat. Might as well get an hourly rate to do it.

 

[lookingforitallthetime]

Girl's gotta eat. Might as well get an hourly rate to do it.

LOL.

 

[Keebler Elf]

Is it just me, or do the rest of your also find it strange that an dancer/SP would expect to be taken out for a nice dinner in addition to her take-out fee?

Welcome to the wonderful world of women.

 

[JessiMae]

While we would certainly not try to pin any labels on you, some people, on both sides of the equation, and I'm not saying who, would occasionally like to be treated like a human being -- not just a slab of meat or a cash dispenser. Obviously she was mistaken to think that you were one of those people.

I agree.

However what I find tacky is that women actually ask for these things. Maybe I am more traditional in this sense, but I never ask for anything, I would rather have a pleasant suprise. As for asking as an SP in ads ("dinner dates") I would expect a gentleman to either make me dinner or take me out on a arranged "dinner date" package. But that is a different story.

 

[Spanglerdoo]

Dinner dates are wonderful .......

 

[Mongrel4u]

Here Here wawa....

As for taking a woman out to dinner...wtf is wrong with that? whether you get laid or not, whether it is to help you get laid or not, some of us just like the company of beautiful women.....if that makes me a loser, then hell, I'm a loser.....and if you don't like treating a woman to a nice meal, umm, that makes you....gay? dumb? a neanderthal? a redneck? Hell, even rednecks buy their cousins a burger once in a while before screwing them!!!

Whats the point if its fake company? I can pay to fuck someone, thats fine....but what do you stand to gain from dining with them? They are not your GF, never will be. They really dont care to know you and honestly, do you really care to get to know them? you're two complete strangers

I only dine with others for one of two reasons: Business or Personal.

Dining with an SP fits in neither category..yeah it is business but its a "weird" unconventional business where dinner meetings are not necessary at all.

Further, I'm not going to waste my time doing something intimate (I beleive its intimate) like having dinner with someone who really doesnt care to know me or be in my company....its just a blown out of proportion trick. If I want to have dinner with someone on a personal level, I'll do it with someone I care about like family or friends

 

[tboy]

Dude: let me get this straight, you think that dining with someone is too INTIMATE but fucking them ISN'T???? dude, that's fucked......

To clarify: you have dinner with someone for business or personal, yet paying someone to sleep with you IS a business situation and if you read what many sp's write, they find that once they get to know you, your time together is infinitely more enjoyable. In my experience in this hobby whenever I take the time to really delve into who the lady is, our time together is not just great, it is spectacular!!!

From the sounds of it you are looking for a hole to stick your dick into, nothing more and nothing less. If that is the case why not just find a glory hole and go to town?

In addition, what's wrong with a woman asking about dinner? We put all kinds of demands on sp's via odd or specific requests. If a lady is straightforward enough to say hey, let's have dinner first...I find that refreshing instead of insulting.

Maybe if you spend a little less time thinking sp's are pieces of meat, and treat them like ladies, you might find your experiences are more rewarding.....then again, maybe you're the type that wants to: get in, get off, get out.......

 

[hunter001]

I was recently at a SC and the girl, who I had taken to the VIP many times before, asked "When are we going out to dinner"? After a few questions, I understood:

1) She wanted me to take her to a nice restaurant for dinner,
2) We should get a hotel room for after,
3) Take-out would be available at the hotel.

Is it just me, or do the rest of your also find it strange that an dancer/SP would expect to be taken out for a nice dinner in addition to her take-out fee? To my way of thinking, even taking a "civilian" date out to dinner in order to get laid is pretty pathetic. I'm happy to treat a woman to a nice dinner if I enjoy her company, but not for any other reason.

Her offer made me think she'd labelled me as a loser who would do anything, and pay anything, to get laid. That's not the sort of sales pitch that would hook me (not that I think take-out from a stripper is ever worthwhile compared to the other options)!

Do you guys think she was actually trying to offer me some sort of "treat" (notwithstanding I don't view it as one)?

Holly shit man that is a lot of conclusions.

It could she mistook you for a nice guy, and would like to talk to you outside the club where you could actually hear one another.

 

[big dogie]

There is someting primal about feeding a woman before sex

 

[Mongrel4u]

WTF

Dude: let me get this straight, you think that dining with someone is too INTIMATE but fucking them ISN'T???? dude, that's fucked......

YES dude... getting to know me as a person is much more intimate than sex with a stranger that you know jack shit about...

To clarify: you have dinner with someone for business or personal, yet paying someone to sleep with you IS a business situation

Yes it is, but them being the service provider and us be the client....you'd think THEY would be the ones taking us out...under regular "business" practices...but this isnt a "regular" business...in case you havnt noticed

From the sounds of it you are looking for a hole to stick your dick into, nothing more and nothing less. If that is the case why not just find a glory hole and go to town?

I could just as easiy say ... "looks to me that you are looking for a GF...why dont you get a life instead of wasting your time and money".... but of course I'm not as simple minded as you and i understand that there is more than one type of client

In addition, what's wrong with a woman asking about dinner? We put all kinds of demands on sp's via odd or specific requests. If a lady is straightforward enough to say hey, let's have dinner first...I find that refreshing instead of insulting.

If she wants to have dinner thats fine, but dont fool yourself sonny...its nothing more than a overblown trick.

psst...shes a sure bet, dinner is nothing more than just empty filler

Hey if you wanna blow your time and cash on that stuff with a stranger; be my guest... I'd rather reserve that stuff for others.

Maybe if you spend a little less time thinking sp's are pieces of meat, and treat them like ladies, you might find your experiences are more rewarding.....then again, maybe you're the type that wants to: get in, get off, get out.......

whos treating them like meat? I just choose to keep it business with mild chit chat and I'm sure they are just fine with that

 

[Papi Chulo]

Just tell her that you would prefer to skip dinner and go straight for desert!!

 

[Mack Bolan]

Just take her out for dinner and see what happens next.
What harm can come from that?
Just bring lots of cash and you might not need to dish it out at all.

 

[OnTheWayOut]

sex first please

An SP I see asks me out to dinner (or lunch) regularly ...... but I see her professionally first and we go out to eat after. Best to have sex without a full stomach they say ..... And so far she has always paid ... after all she did ask me out *lol*

seriously, we fight over the bill every time .... the couple times I managed to pay I would find money in my coat pocket or in the car afterwards. She always says "you pay next time" and I always call her a liar But I do take her shopping or to run errands as she does not have a car (or driver's license)

not every girl who wants to go to dinner is trying to get into your wallet ..... just most of em

 

[pussylicker]

Dude: let me get this straight, you think that dining with someone is too INTIMATE but fucking them ISN'T???? dude, that's fucked......

In addition, what's wrong with a woman asking about dinner? We put all kinds of demands on sp's via odd or specific requests. If a lady is straightforward enough to say hey, let's have dinner first...I find that refreshing instead of insulting.

Maybe if you spend a little less time thinking sp's are pieces of meat, and treat them like ladies, you might find your experiences are more rewarding.....then again, maybe you're the type that wants to: get in, get off, get out.......

Tboy, don't worry about them. Obviously there is more than one kind of client here. A true gentleman wouldn't have questioned her reason or "motive" for asking for some quality dining time, a chance to have some quieter time outside of the club, before getting down to what the "real" reason for asking in the first place. If they don't understand where you were coming from, then maybe they aren't gentlemen.

Maybe the dancer "thought" BudPlug was a nice guy, and wanted to give him the opportunity to have extra fun with her(paid for or not). Hell, I wouldn't refuse the chance. If I've seen a dancer in the VIP more than once, there is something about her that I like, and it would be nice to get to know her better. If you treat them nicely, you always get the "rewards" of a better time together, whether it is a SP, MPA or dancer.

With most of the ladies that dance for me, it usually comes down to their time is worth something to them, and if they didn't think of you as being a nice guy, they wouldn't ask or offer to spend time with you outside of the VIP, because that is time with you they never get paid for. To take it outside the club, for coffee or a meal, they may not be actually doing it for the chance to get you laid for money, but rather some quality time to get to know you better.