What would you do????

[HRH]

Okay, I don't want to come on here and simply whine, and I don't intend to bash anyone by using names...but throw me some suggestions as to what you would do in my situation...

I made an appt. for a sp to come and see me via pm - it was basically confirmed with the exception of an exact address. It was to be for yesterday, but as of Friday last week, she didn't pm me back. Now, the problem on my behalf was that I figured with the directions I had given her, she could pretty easily find me.

Now, since I didn't hear back, I assumed that maybe she knew how to get here - if she didn't, she'd pm back, right?

So, thinking that she was coming, I moved my appointments around to leave the time open...and wound up sitting around.

I'm not mad - don't get me wrong, but I feel slighted and hurt. By being stood up by a sp, it brought back a lot of personal pain and suffering. Therefore, I was thinking that maybe she owes me something for my time - maybe a coffee or a muffin, or perhaps a pack of gum - something.

What do you guys think?

 

[Edifice]

Don't feel too bad, that's the nature of the biz.

She should have at least let you know what happened by now.

If she pulls a stunt like that again without explanation, then cross her off your TDL for good.

 

[Questor]

Sorry you had to go through that HRH. I know its not much fun, as I have experienced something similar. I will spare you the details. As you may or may not know, SPs do not operate using the same business model as lawyers or stock brokers. So as Kacy has suggested, further confirmation by phone or email is always a good idea, especially given the circumstances of your situation:
*exact address not given
*appointment basically confirmed (read:in you mind, not necessarily in her mind)
*appointment made the previous week
I raise these points not to put the blame on your shoulders, but rather to show where the miscommunication happened.
In general reconfirm the same day is always a good idea, especially if you don't know the lady, and the lady doesn't know you.
I would suggest that you contact her and find out what happened from her perspective. Based on what she says, you can either move on or, hopefully she is appropriately apologetic and makes it up to you in some way.

Good luck.

 

[HRH]

*appointment basically confirmed (read:in you mind, not necessarily in her mind)


I know, but she had pm'ed me three times regarding the times to meet - she initiated the contact on that part, so that is why I made the assumption that it was a go.

Again, I'm not mad in the least - my night became entertaining nonetheless, however, I'm only thankful that it wasn't an incall where I wound up with some big-a$$ guy walking in on me...all the muffins in China couldn't make up for that one...sheesh!

 

[HRH]

Seconded. The muffin should be hot, with melted butter.

Yeah, a hot muffin with melted butter...now you're talkin'...

Still with the blueberry? I'm kinda leaning towards cranberry/lemon...you know, the exotic-style muffins.

 

[HRH]

You mean I should ask for MORE than one muffin? Maybe a baker's dozen?

I don't want to put anyone out here...what if they don't have all of the same kind of muffin at one particular store? Maybe I should get a list of different kinds of muffins that are tasty.

Thanks for the idea...this board rocks!

 

[HRH]

Actually, maybe a sp on here could give us some feedback regarding this issue...

Keep in mind that my feelings were hurt, and wound up crying myself to sleep, softly...

 

[HRH]

Baked muffins? My oh my!

Got butter?

 

[Edifice]

Got Milk?

 

[goalie000]

Along the same lines as happened to HRH, I've booked a Lady a couple of days ahead of time, contacted her the day before just to confirm I was coming and then on the day of the appointment contacted 1 hour before the appointment to be sure that everything was ok and was told, "can we push that appointment 1/2hour later as an earlier Client was late for his appointment. Now because someone else was late I get pushed from my appointed time. Shouldn't the Lady have told the Late client that HIS appointment would have to be shortened so as not to screw up the rest of Her Clients. As it happened My appointment ended up being very rushed. A little inconsiderate IMHO. It has happened a couple of times with this Lady.

 

[HRH]

Hmmmm...so let me get this right...I can now trade something for a wonderful lady who will bake you a dozen muffins with butter and milk...

This has to get interesting from here on in

 

[HRH]

What do you mean thank you later? I'm now in line to get a dozen muffins from one of Hamilton's finest...how can ya do better?

No house in Saskatchewan is worth that, is it?

 

[HRH]

Frankly, as far as I'm concerned...I'll share the muffins...that's about it...