Is anyone else in this situation - becoming blase about appointments, not really getting as excited about them as before?? I've noticed that even when I'm with a gorgeous woman, even though It's a definite turn on, I can't seem to re-capture the initial rush I always experienced during the sessions. Maybe I've just been hobbying too long. I've also been thinking of ways to spice things up a bit... maybe through role playing, getting the ladies to wear some really sexy lingere to bed, etc.. I've even thought of taking a break from it all - however, even though the level of satisfaction is a bit reduced from what it used to be, I have trouble reducing the number of my monthly sessions. Any other suggestions??
What To Do When The Novelty Wears Off...
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It isn't so much as stopping the hobby, but rather increasing your chase for the civilian ladies. I find when you tend to put a little more effort into the non-SP women you find yourself having a new found love for the SP's again. By now means am I bad with the civilian girls, but whenever I find myself feeling bland about the hobbying, I go out and try to hit on civilian girls. For some reason my following session is way better. Maybe it is just me. Give it a try and see if it works...
This is the crux of the issue, for me.peelcowboy said:
I started with Strip Clubs....just watching, then the table dancing, then the VIP rooms.....then I moved to MPs and they satisfied me for awhile....then I moved to SPs....and they are doing it for now, but I can feel the same restlessness begining again.
The escalation is worth thinking about...apart from the obvious what is the need that strippers, mpa's and sp's fill that is constantly requiring renewal? And what is next in the chain?
Very interesting post, peelcowboy. In some ways I suppose, hobbying IS like a drug - always needing that extra push to regain that adrenaline pounding sense of newness, or excitement one originally feels. Now it's starting to become just the same old, same old.
PHNINE, the reason I got into this hobby is because my line of work does not afford me the time. I work continuously, 6 sometimes 7 days a week. I suppose I am a bit of a workaholic; as such, I don't have time to chase civilian ladies.
PHNINE, the reason I got into this hobby is because my line of work does not afford me the time. I work continuously, 6 sometimes 7 days a week. I suppose I am a bit of a workaholic; as such, I don't have time to chase civilian ladies.
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Interesting....peelcowboy said:
Sex can be a slippery slope.
I've managed to avoid the drugs and alcohol all my life, but I shudder sometimes at the sexual things I have done.
Hey Dr L: I find everything in life and our enjoyment of it, is based on perspective. By that I mean if you go into your sessions a) knowing what you're in for, and b) not caring about it and c) approach the date in a blase sort of way, that's why you will get.
Whenever I hobby I work myself up like I would if I were meeting a woman for the first time. I get myself "date ready", prep by getting some beverages for her, change the sheets, vacuum etc. then basically try to forget what last time was like.
I don't know you personally but even when I was in a long term relationship(s) every time I had sex with my partner it was awesome.
I also don't know if you're seeing the same ladies, new ladies, or ??? If you're seeing the same bunch all the time, why not print out a list, say from TRZ, stick it to the wall, then throw a dart at it. Don't even read the ad *eg* just book it. Then you will have NO frickin idea what you're getting into lol. Hey, you could even end up with TS Julia or whatever her name is .....
Whenever I hobby I work myself up like I would if I were meeting a woman for the first time. I get myself "date ready", prep by getting some beverages for her, change the sheets, vacuum etc. then basically try to forget what last time was like.
I don't know you personally but even when I was in a long term relationship(s) every time I had sex with my partner it was awesome.
I also don't know if you're seeing the same ladies, new ladies, or ??? If you're seeing the same bunch all the time, why not print out a list, say from TRZ, stick it to the wall, then throw a dart at it. Don't even read the ad *eg* just book it. Then you will have NO frickin idea what you're getting into lol. Hey, you could even end up with TS Julia or whatever her name is .....
None of the above really.sorely said:
I have always kept the financial aspect under control. I've never been a drinker or a drug taker. Don't even want to go there.
Risk, yes, there is a risk, I am aware of it.
Wife, well, I lived with a woman for 5 years and that was its own form of hell, but she's long gone. Interestingly though, when I was with her, I hobbied and screwed around MORE than I ever do when I am single. That was a fucked up situation.
No, it's more like the depravity of it all sometimes.
I seldom bother with full service, but I do love sex. Sometimes, I have to admit that the thrill just aint what it used to be. Like the good doctor was saying in his original post, I can relate.
Started out as a 12 year old with porn magazines.
Graduated to porn videos in H.S.
Then strip joints
Then table dances
Then lap dances.
When they got rid of those little boxes they used to stand on, it became a sport.
The height of my strip club days was mid 90's.
Then I discoverd MPs in the late 90's. At the height of that, I was going 3 or 4 times a week. I was truly a kid in a candy store.
The pay for play aspect doesn't really bother me since I have always played in the "civilian world" as well as the professional world. I dabble in both. I would actually say I am fairly balanced there.
No, reading about Jake the Snake made me think of my own form of sexual escalation that has occurred over the years. It has very little (though I can't honestly say none.) to do with the thought of paying for it. In one way or another, you always pay for it.
I have done things that frankly I sometimes can't believe I did. (No, don't worry, no kids, no animals, nothing as sick as that. Always with consenting adults.)
But let's just say that I've done stuff that when I put my clothes back on and I am walking out in the parking lot at some hotel in St. Catherines that I never heard of, I am thinking to myself, "what the fuck was that" and "I hope my parents up in heaven can't see this."
That's what I mean.
I saw that Jake the Snake interview. Fascinating, but depressing. It was from the movie Beyond the Mat.
http://www.jamesbowman.net/reviewDetail.asp?pubID=381
Sexual escalation could be the problem or maybe you're just getting bored of casual sex with strangers and would now prefer something more meaningful, like a relationship. I remember the thread about your girl-friend ending your relationship. I get that feeling sometimes, but it usually passes a couple hours later. LOL.
http://www.jamesbowman.net/reviewDetail.asp?pubID=381
Sexual escalation could be the problem or maybe you're just getting bored of casual sex with strangers and would now prefer something more meaningful, like a relationship. I remember the thread about your girl-friend ending your relationship. I get that feeling sometimes, but it usually passes a couple hours later. LOL.
Does sex need to have a rush? Perhaps you've graduated to a level where it's comfortable and enjoyable, simply the contact and conversation with a friendly and lovely woman who can also make you cum. This sounds like a nice break from your workaholic lifestyle instead of making it another project.
It's not that I would prefer a relationship - I don't. Reason being is that they can be high maintenence and royal headache when they end. If I was looking for a civilian relationship, it would be a casual one with no strings attatched.shawnbg said:
I think what's really bothering me is that I've become desensitized to sex. For example, usually I see lots of different women to keep things as fresh and exciting as possible. Recently, I met a new SP who looks incredible and is fun to be with. Had I met her a few years ago, I would have been jumping up and down in ecstacy. Now, while I'm still excited at the prospect of seeing her, the intense thrill aspect is just not there, the way it should be.
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