You should tell him...
pritty_kitten said:
Well i havent started a thread in a long time....Not many odd stories to tell....let me just start by saying hello to you guys and gals on the board.
Should an MPA or SP disclose what she does to earn a living if she starts seeing someone? Should she wait until things progress or be upfront and honest from the start?
Thoughts?
...as soon as you suspect things are going to be more than a single roll in the hay.
If you were / are an SP - He deserves to know that before he has sex with you, but there really isn't a way to do that delicately - and besides, I would assume the first time (and several times there after) sex will be protected.
If you were / are an MPA - He deserves to know before he develops feelings.
Put it like this...when would you want to know something about someone you were dating that would immediately and directly impact if you want to continue seeing them? Like...if a guy was married? Don't care if he is just tonight jockey in the saddle right? But...if you are going to keep seeing him, you'd want to know...even if you were going to keep seeing him. it is the sort of thing you'd want to know, and you'd feel like he was being deceptive if he had not told you.
People can play all sorts of bullshit games about how being a sex worker is just a job. You know what? It isn't to people who who do not partake in the sex trade. So...it isn't about "judgement"...some people would say it is perfectly ok to date married men if you aren't looking to get married or disrupt their situation at home...do we judge them?
If the guy bolts...then you probably didn't want to be dating him in the first place. If he stays...then the truth is out and you no longer have that hanging over your head.
Anyone who sees this differently is just lying to themselves....or someone else.