I hope my fellow men understands this thing we do is just a job for these women. It's sex for money. That's it. They don't love us. It can happen, but it's rare. I think too many men think this is love. It can feel like love sometimes, It's not. You want love, love yourself! Do positive things and change your life. I am grateful that these women exist and do things that make us happy! It's wonderful...but please remember, it's their job. Why did i post this? Fuck if I know lol.
To All The Men
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Agreed, this is considered their job ir bonus income for some, whatever happens happens, but it's a good reminder.
In most cases you are 100% right.
However I can also say that I personally have experienced more then just money on two occasions and both have been in the last two years. I like to refer to these as a hybrid relationship( or situationship) . We’ve gone on friend dates, she’s paid for meals, even met family on both sides.
Have had intimate moments with no exchange.
Then there have also been exchanges when there needs to be. For instance if I take her away for a week, she’s losing income for I’ll cover that.
I’ve loved and still love them both and they do me. Still talk daily to them both, however I have moved on from the first one sexual and now only have that with my most recent lady.
Definitely doesn’t happen often or to most, however I am very blessed!
However I can also say that I personally have experienced more then just money on two occasions and both have been in the last two years. I like to refer to these as a hybrid relationship( or situationship) . We’ve gone on friend dates, she’s paid for meals, even met family on both sides.
Have had intimate moments with no exchange.
Then there have also been exchanges when there needs to be. For instance if I take her away for a week, she’s losing income for I’ll cover that.
I’ve loved and still love them both and they do me. Still talk daily to them both, however I have moved on from the first one sexual and now only have that with my most recent lady.
Definitely doesn’t happen often or to most, however I am very blessed!
Definitely can be tough to get away. Luckily I have a hobby that gives me great excuses to get away for prolonged times and she(Lady friend, not wife ) loves and participates in that hobby also.Cultivating a friendship which evolves beyond money, working hours , sex , spas, apartments, Leo lists , etc etc ., is truly a reflection of a masterful gentleman, who , when treating a woman respectfully and with kindness , is treated similarly in kind . It’s quite possibly the ultimate achievement in relationship building with women who work in this business , I haven’t had the good fortune of one week away , but lots of weekend and day road trips. Tough to get away for prolonged trips when both parties have spouses
cheers
Why does sex work need to involve love to be rich experience? Surely it’s enough that we share our minds, bodies, intimacy, secrets, compassion, trust, stories, best bedroom skills, and in some cases our homes with you guys! Sheesh, are we allowed to keep something for ourselves? You want us to be in love with all of you too? Even those we only see for 1h a year? Can we not just care for you as a human being or maybe shoot for intrigue and attraction?
It’s perfectly fine to not be in love with people you share intimate time with. Most of my best lovers were not people I was married to, nor in a committed relationship with.
That doesn’t mean this is “just a job” either, sex work will never be “just” a job even when it is our job. There is a lot of room for nuance in between being in love and feeling like a widget head. Some clients we connect with more than others and some we care about more than others. But we respect all of you as human beings and share a lot of real compassion and affection—even when that’s really fucking hard to do at times. It would be nice if this was appreciated more and enough.
It’s perfectly fine to not be in love with people you share intimate time with. Most of my best lovers were not people I was married to, nor in a committed relationship with.
That doesn’t mean this is “just a job” either, sex work will never be “just” a job even when it is our job. There is a lot of room for nuance in between being in love and feeling like a widget head. Some clients we connect with more than others and some we care about more than others. But we respect all of you as human beings and share a lot of real compassion and affection—even when that’s really fucking hard to do at times. It would be nice if this was appreciated more and enough.
Huh? I'm probably a "dfk or bust" guy and I do it for the same reason I do everything else in a session. It's arousing and feels good. I don't do it because I think the girl loves me haha.
I like to think that SWers offer a form of peace with whatever form you like, for how ever long you desire. You fall in love with peace that’s been curated for you. Just remember it’s curated for you, something that was made out of nothing for you. When you leave it leaves with you and when you come back we pick up where we left off.
Not sure this needed to be said but I'm glad it's only for the men requesting information about escorts in Ottawa & Kingston.
It too easy to over think this. The times that I've enjoyed with SWs, it was just two people having fun. Nothing wrong with that. I clicked with some more than others, just like in everyday life.
There might be the odd situation that some dude.hook up with a provider. But it's a business simple and plan. I've never approached it any other way, no money Play time lol
Sounds like you never opened yourself up to a connection with someone. It requires both parties to be open and unguarded in front of each other. For sure, not all SWers will be open and honest with everyone they work with. That's normal. I'm not equally good friends with everyone I meet. All I know is I still talk with SWers long after they retired. Built long relationships, though it was no longer sexual. Like all friends, we talk, share good times and bad. That's a type of love for sure.
Also when someone is moving or retiring, and we have our last date together, it's always emotional. Laughter and tears in equal parts, for both of us. Saying goodbye is never easy. But tell me again, how my relationships with people I know and care for isn't valid or a type of love? I don't cry when my dentist retires, I don't cry when office mate gets a new job. But I have cried when a SWer someone care about is moving on with her life. I'm happy for them of course. But if that's not "love" then I'm sorry, I don't know what your defintion of love is.
Also when someone is moving or retiring, and we have our last date together, it's always emotional. Laughter and tears in equal parts, for both of us. Saying goodbye is never easy. But tell me again, how my relationships with people I know and care for isn't valid or a type of love? I don't cry when my dentist retires, I don't cry when office mate gets a new job. But I have cried when a SWer someone care about is moving on with her life. I'm happy for them of course. But if that's not "love" then I'm sorry, I don't know what your defintion of love is.
I ain’t paying these girls to hang out and be a companion. I’m paying for them to leave with no strings attached after a service.
