I’ve seen many comments/review/discussions about very concerning and dangerous situations for both hobbyists and SP’s so I’d like to share some of my tips and open the topic up for discussion for both hobbyists and SP’s to ensure incalls become safer for all. All these tips are regarding first time incalls with new women (SP/Civilian) you’ve never met before. It’s better to be abit over cautious on the first time but it’s unecessary to use all these tips once you are familiar with each other and meet regularly.
All my bad experiences have been during incalls with new SP’s I’ve never met before and didn’t do enough research on (checking reviews, double checking ad for signs of red flags, etc.) because my second brain downstairs took over. I’m lucky because I‘ve never been in a dangerous situation but I’ve heard enough stories about people getting set up to get robbed, etc. so I’m always extra careful when meeting up with new women (civilian, SP’s, etc.) anywhere and I never meet civilians at their/my home until several dates in. Street smarts and trusting your gut are key. Here are a few tips I’ve learned myself or picked up over the years from others that I highly recommend to help ensure a safe link up especially for the first time meeting.
In the heat of the moment it can sometimes be hard to choose between trusting your gut or busting up in d’em guts.
TRUST YOUR GUT
Share some of your tips, suggestions below as well.
Huncho
All my bad experiences have been during incalls with new SP’s I’ve never met before and didn’t do enough research on (checking reviews, double checking ad for signs of red flags, etc.) because my second brain downstairs took over. I’m lucky because I‘ve never been in a dangerous situation but I’ve heard enough stories about people getting set up to get robbed, etc. so I’m always extra careful when meeting up with new women (civilian, SP’s, etc.) anywhere and I never meet civilians at their/my home until several dates in. Street smarts and trusting your gut are key. Here are a few tips I’ve learned myself or picked up over the years from others that I highly recommend to help ensure a safe link up especially for the first time meeting.
- Use a burner number if the SP allows/is comfortable with it (apps like textnow, etc. are good), be upfront about it because they can easily know if you are using such apps and if they’re not comfortable with it you can make the decision to give your personal number (or if you’re really paranoid a secondary phone)
- Take the exact amount you previously negotiated and add another 50-100 just in case you are surprised by something you didn’t clearly communicate being extra. Never take your credit/debit cards, ID, anything with your name and address on it, etc. All you should be taking is the donation (+ 50-100), your keys (if you drove there) and your phone (make sure you have some kind of passcode). You shouldn’t need anything else unless previously agreed upon and it can be super awkward forgetting personal items like keys/wallet/etc. (I forgot my work key card once and was lucky that it was at a regular’s incall who found it quickly and I wasn’t too far away)
- Do your best to arrive about 5-10 minutes earlier.
- HOUSE- If it’s a house drive by and see if there is more than one car in the driveway (one car is likely to be hers, multiple cars is a strong yellow/orange flag). What’s the vibe of the neighbourhood? Are there shady looking individuals lurking? Where‘s a safe place to park nearby the house, close enough to see the house, windows, front door, etc. but far enough where it’s not obvious which car belongs to you or how you got there, especially if you have a nicer car. Always reverse park or parallel park with enough space to pull out quickly (in case you get caught in a sticky situation). After finding a good spot to park, usually a few houses down on the side of the street or a nearby parking lot, see if you notice anything out of the ordinary. If you notice a guy leaving the house it could be a prior client, in which case you know the SP doesn’t likely space out appointments well and hygiene could be an issue. If you notice a car pull in the driveway or park in front that’s a massive red flag, unless it’s only her (she may look like she’s in a rush because she tried to squeeze in a last minute errand, or previously told you she may be running a bit late), if the windows aren’t tinted make sure you can see every seat in the car is empty (doubt anyone is dedicated enough to hide in the trunk unless you foolishly bragged that you’re super rich/famous). If anyone besides you or her arrives at the house (male or female) within 10 minutes of the appointment leave, it’s not worth the gamble.
- When the time comes and she confirms you can come, when walking towards the house take in your surroundings, does anything seem odd/concerning if so keep walking by the house and act like you aren’t going to that house until you’re sure (2 mins max). If you think it’s safe you can easily walk back to the house and explain you got the house numbers mixed up since you aren’t familiar with the area. If something seems off or your gut is trying to tell you something always listen to it, TRUST YOUR GUT. Once at the house don’t knock immediately, wait for a few seconds while looking at your phone (don’t make it super obvious but make it seem like you’re on your phone) and listen for anything that sounds off (male voices, multiple different footsteps, etc.) before knocking or texting/calling to let her know you’re at the door.
- When she greets you at the door be a gentlemen, polite and friendly but try to notice if she seems scared/super nervous/rude/dismissive/paranoid, etc. by watching her body language and simple things like if she excessively avoids looking at your face, keeps looking around, etc. remember to trust your gut.
- Make sure she locks the door behind you, if not ask if she forgot, if she insists it’s not an issue it is definitely an issue, excuse yourself and leave immediately.
- Once inside take a quick mental note of the layout (especially to know how to leave if anything goes wrong, where the stairs are, alternate entrances/exits, etc.) look to see if there are different sized shoes/slippers and its definitely a red flag if they are male shoes/slippers. If not, ask if you can use the restroom to wash your hands after first introductions and a little bit of friendly chatting (avoid discussing explicit things immediately, keep it friendly and professional until you feel comfortable).
- It’s always best and usually required to take a brief shower upon arrival but before taking off your clothes check behind the shower curtain for any surprise guests, and look around briefly (don’t go snooping just scan the room) for other signs of men living there like male robes/slippers/grooming tools/beard balm, etc. (male body wash/shampoo/conditioner is normal because many SP’s are aware most guys don’t want to leave smelling feminine for various reasons, male razors are also normal because many frugal women know that male razor’s are cheaper and get the job done)
- If you already took a shower prior to arriving and she is okay with you not taking another shower upon arrival, wash your hands, take some deep breaths if you need, and keep your clothes on. The last thing you want to happen is leaving the bathroom with no clothes on and being greeted by either a camera (unless previously agreed to) or an unfriendly group of males/females (don‘t underestimate women). Imagine how much harder it will be having to defend yourself or escape with no clothes on (a slight risk you will have to take if you are required to shower upon arrival but I’ve never personally had an issue with it.)
- After leaving the bathroom, start some friendly chat to get the overall vibe of the other. If you still feel comfortable then hand over the donation or if previously instructed to leave it in the bathroom/table with/without an unmarked envelope. I’ve never had an SP demand the donation right after I walked in the door but ymmv. Do not hold on to the donation for a super long time, but avoid giving it right away unless previously agreed just in case the red flags and air raid sirens start blaring for you to leave (2-5 minutes max from the time you enter the door, usually after leaving the rest room and chatting for a bit)
- Don’t drink/eat anything that you didn’t see opened/unsealed in front of you and kept a constant eye on.
- When the time comes and she confirms you can come, when walking towards the house take in your surroundings, does anything seem odd/concerning if so keep walking by the house and act like you aren’t going to that house until you’re sure (2 mins max). If you think it’s safe you can easily walk back to the house and explain you got the house numbers mixed up since you aren’t familiar with the area. If something seems off or your gut is trying to tell you something always listen to it, TRUST YOUR GUT. Once at the house don’t knock immediately, wait for a few seconds while looking at your phone (don’t make it super obvious but make it seem like you’re on your phone) and listen for anything that sounds off (male voices, multiple different footsteps, etc.) before knocking or texting/calling to let her know you’re at the door.
- HOTEL/CONDO- Tends to be slightly safer than a house due to security/neighbours/tons of cameras, etc. but there are a few tips identical/similar to visiting a house that you should consider taking. I usually don’t mind parking in the parking lots/underground parking etc. but if there’s other free parking nearby like a fast food restaurant, plaza, etc. it can be an added precaution.
- You don’t need to arrive 10 mins early but still arrive a few minutes early to find parking without stressing about being late (has happened to me too many times and can be a major mood killer). If it’s paid parking you better pay up (if possible with cash/coins) because the last thing you want is to leave a session to find your car’s been towed or some bs ticket. Lock your car and keep anything valuable out of clear view. Don‘t leave laptop bags/luggage/phones/money/etc. out in the open or on seats, it only takes a few seconds to put them under the seat/in the glove compartment/in the trunk out of sight, etc.
- Before leaving your car let her know you’ve parked and get detailed instructions on how to get to the room. Do you need a buzz code, upon entering which direction are the elevators (do you need a key card/code), which floor is it, who should you say you’re meeting if you’re stopped and asked (never happened to me but have been provided a few times with a name/names to tell if asked
- Once you find the room, similar to the house situation described above, briefly listen for anything that seems off while looking at your phone before knocking, if anything seems off walk away, (male voices, multiple different footsteps, etc.) remember to TRUST YOUR GUT.
- When she greets you at the door be a gentlemen, polite and friendly but try to notice if she seems scared/super nervous/rude/dismissive/paranoid, etc. by watching her body language and simple things like if she avoids looking at your face, keeps looking around, etc. remember to trust your gut.
- Make sure she locks the door behind you, if not ask if she forgot, if she insists it’s not an issue it is definitely an issue, excuse yourself and leave immediately.
- Once inside take a quick mental note of the layout, look to see if there are different sized shoes/slippers and its definitely a red flag if they are male shoes/slippers. If not, ask if you can use the restroom to wash your hands after first introductions and a little bit of friendly chatting (avoid discussing explicit things immediately, keep it friendly and professional until you feel comfortable).
- It’s always best and usually required to take a brief shower upon arrival but before taking off your clothes check behind the shower curtain for any surprise guests, and look around briefly (don’t go snooping just scan the room) for other signs of men living there like male robes/slippers/grooming tools/beard balm, etc. (male body wash/shampoo/conditioner is normal because many SP’s are aware most guys don’t want to leave smelling feminine for various reasons, male razors are also normal because many frugal women know that male razor’s are cheaper and get the job done)
- Wash your hands, take some deep breaths if you need, and keep your clothes on. The last thing you want to happen is leaving the bathroom with no clothes on and being greeted by either a camera (blackmail) or an unfriendly group of males/females (don‘t underestimate women). Imagine how much harder it will be having to defend yourself or escape with no clothes on.
- After leaving the bathroom, start some friendly chat to get the overall vibe of the other. If you still feel comfortable then hand over the donation or if previously instructed to leave it in the bathroom/table with/without an unmarked envelope. I’ve never had an SP demand the donation right after I walked in the door but ymmv. Do not hold on to the donation for a super long time, but avoid giving it right away unless previously agreed just in case the red flags and air raid sirens start blaring for you to leave (2-5 minutes max from the time you enter the door, usually after leaving the rest room and chatting for a bit)
- Don’t drink/eat anything that you didn’t see opened/unsealed in front of you and kept a constant eye on.
- HOUSE- If it’s a house drive by and see if there is more than one car in the driveway (one car is likely to be hers, multiple cars is a strong yellow/orange flag). What’s the vibe of the neighbourhood? Are there shady looking individuals lurking? Where‘s a safe place to park nearby the house, close enough to see the house, windows, front door, etc. but far enough where it’s not obvious which car belongs to you or how you got there, especially if you have a nicer car. Always reverse park or parallel park with enough space to pull out quickly (in case you get caught in a sticky situation). After finding a good spot to park, usually a few houses down on the side of the street or a nearby parking lot, see if you notice anything out of the ordinary. If you notice a guy leaving the house it could be a prior client, in which case you know the SP doesn’t likely space out appointments well and hygiene could be an issue. If you notice a car pull in the driveway or park in front that’s a massive red flag, unless it’s only her (she may look like she’s in a rush because she tried to squeeze in a last minute errand, or previously told you she may be running a bit late), if the windows aren’t tinted make sure you can see every seat in the car is empty (doubt anyone is dedicated enough to hide in the trunk unless you foolishly bragged that you’re super rich/famous). If anyone besides you or her arrives at the house (male or female) within 10 minutes of the appointment leave, it’s not worth the gamble.
In the heat of the moment it can sometimes be hard to choose between trusting your gut or busting up in d’em guts.
TRUST YOUR GUT
Share some of your tips, suggestions below as well.
Huncho
