Technology got me fellas, after all these years.

[farmmer1]

Had a little meeting last week, everything went as it usually does. Got home hanging with wife and kid in the shop. We were for some reason using my work iPad to look at Xmas presents no biggie I thought..… went to have a piss and when I came back she found a text chain that she shoudn‘t have! Apparently when you wipe a conversation from your phone it dose not erase from other devices!!!!

So I’m think I might be headed to the big D and don’t mean Dallas!

 

[farmmer1]

jeesus fkin Tim Apple.... that lousy company never gets their syncing ...let alone tech right.

Be carefull. I always was sooo on top of this, but man did I get bit!

 

[Yungbuk]

Bullshit. Last place you would be right now is posting on here.

 

[IndigoKnight]

Had a little meeting last week, everything went as it usually does. Got home hanging with wife and kid in the shop. We were for some reason using my work iPad to look at Xmas presents no biggie I thought..… went to have a piss and when I came back she found a text chain that she shoudn‘t have! Apparently when you wipe a conversation from your phone it dose not erase from other devices!!!!

So I’m think I might be headed to the big D and don’t mean Dallas!

Sorry to hear about that. There was another similar thread on the board back in June. https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/busted.819516/ I don't think it ended well for the OP in that case either.

 

[WanderingJohn]

Had a little meeting last week, everything went as it usually does. Got home hanging with wife and kid in the shop. We were for some reason using my work iPad to look at Xmas presents no biggie I thought..… went to have a piss and when I came back she found a text chain that she shoudn‘t have! Apparently when you wipe a conversation from your phone it dose not erase from other devices!!!!

So I’m think I might be headed to the big D and don’t mean Dallas!

One reason il never buy an iPad!, I hope you can talk your way out of it brother. All the best!

 

[bcguy]

Had a little meeting last week, everything went as it usually does. Got home hanging with wife and kid in the shop. We were for some reason using my work iPad to look at Xmas presents no biggie I thought..… went to have a piss and when I came back she found a text chain that she shoudn‘t have! Apparently when you wipe a conversation from your phone it dose not erase from other devices!!!!

So I’m think I might be headed to the big D and don’t mean Dallas!

Same thing happened to me mate. Believe me, it isn't cheap and I have to live with the consequences of having to pay my ex for the foreseeable future (many years) I have never been as broke as I am now because of the court order. This chick was really cute but not worth my marriage in retrospect.

 

[Jenesis]

This is not Apple’s fault. I have all Apple products and my messages only come on my phone. There are settings to stop a sync of messages between the two devices and you are asked at set up of either device and you have to confirm it. To many people skip all the set up reading and just hit continue.

You guys should be the ones being diligent. I get this story is a little different in that he thought deleting the conversation happens on both but why didn’t the OP check. And double check. And triple check???? If you knew that messages sync - why would you even use the iPhone to book to begin with?

This is your life guys. You are responsible for keeping your hobby from your wife. Not Apple.

OP - I do feel bad for you but if you are going into any conversation with wife with the feeling this apples fault and not yours - you are certainly headed for divorce. Women can tell when you are only saying you are taking responsibility and not actually doing it. You want to save your marriage / take the responsibility, so the right thing, be honest, beg her forgiveness, sync all your devices so she can see everything and keep it your pants. No more hobby for you.

or get divorced. Read some threads. Some guys would dread it and then when it happened, they say it was the most freeing thing in the world.

Maybe set up a session or two with e a therapist to talk out what YOU want going forward in your life. I mean there is a reason your started hobbying to begin with right. Maybe look at that.

just some suggestions. Good luck.

 

[squeezer]

Yup, so easy to happen. This is why you never let anyone you don't want to know about your secret life into any devices at all. No phone, no laptops, none.

 

[RebelinBed]

For me, how I've prevented anything from being found, I use one or two text apps to inquire and for initial bookings. I keep the notifications on the apps completely muted and I keep the apps off my home screen. So I have to go into my app library and into the app to check messages.

If a provider doesn't allow text apps, I will use my actual phone number but mute the conversation. And of course never link my phone to any other device.

All of which are much less effort than all this nonsense about getting additional sim cards, second phones, etc etc. Much less money too. My s/o uses my phone sometimes or has it in her hands when I'm showing her something and I've never had any issues. It also helps that I am in an open/poly relationship.

 

[thumper18474]

This thread is just a reminder for us with a S/O..to forever be vigilant.
I had a close call and it was a reminder for me to always be aware...I did some quick thinking on my feet and dodged a bullet...but I learned from it...and so should the rest of us
To the OP...good luck

 

[xix]

No body checks the fine print.

 

[shan2021]

Always use a burner phone, best to get an android one, use a new gmail when setting up to use the Play Store, get a prepaid sim or use a texting app, and delete them. If you are on iPhones use a new icloud email, and after deleting text messages, on iMessage click the top left corner "Edit" button, and then click "Show recently deleted", then delete indefinitely. Samsungs are the go to for Android phones, there is a feature called Secure mode, which is a vault that you can store your messages into, requires anyone else a password to get into it, there you can store photos, apps, and you can even turn off notifications from the secure mode apps, which stops anyone using your phone from ever finding out what is inside nor what is happening inside it.

 

[justawildchild]

I had an incident on a trip in the States about 7 years ago. We had a u.S. sim card in the phone we were using for navigation and my wife had my phone in the passenger seat. I had visited someone when we were down there. All fine, no issues until she decided to text the next day, after I had already seen her. She sent an unsolicited text to me to say she had openings that day too.

I felt so helpless while I was driving and my wife is responding to her.

Still with her ......but very tough going for about 6 months to a year.

I have gotten much better at ensuring she won't find stuff now.

Every guy on here who has a S.O. has their own reason for visiting an S.P. or M.P. This is a place where we should all be able to come and not be judged for what we are doing. It is sad that we feel we need to go this route but it is what it is. We all just need to stay safe out there.....in all aspects.

 

[bcguy]

I felt so helpless while I was driving and my wife is responding to her.

Still with her ......but very tough going for about 6 months to a year.

I have gotten much better at ensuring she won't find stuff now.

You are one lucky guy to have a wife that was open enough to warrant a discussion. Unfortunately, I wasn't as lucky. I guess I never thought an SP would contact me in the middle of the night, but it seems that she is well known for sending out message blasts at all hours, but found out too late to save me.

 

[Bond_007]

Laptop precautions: Use guest mode in google chrome. No need to delete profile as nothing is saved. Yes, it is painful to enter log in details and website domain every time. But I guess worth it for the sake of safety.
Phone precautions: Use a separate phone with minimum monthly plan and keep it on only when you are in full control of it.

Nothing may be 100% foolproof. But so far ok.

 

[farmmer1]

Man this is why people need to stop syncing shit. I never do that.

I use a separate chrome profile and Gmail Id to login to Terb, Twitter (I only use it to follow providers), OnlyFans or to book with providers. When I want to hand my computer to someone else, I simply log out of that profile and delete it. Problem solved. I also do not auto-save passwords for that profile. I am not even married but I do this.

For your phone get Signal or something and if you use Android keep it in that secure folder, or after you use Signal just delete the app. You can always reinstall. Best thing is to get a separate phone and keep that in a hidden place out of reach of anyone else.

The two devices were never synced for the longest time, then I don’t when or what happened but all of a sudden they were. Used to piss me off I couldn’t text from my I pad. Automated update maybe!

 

[farmmer1]

I call bullshit on this. To be honest if something like this happened to me this might be one of the first places I'd go just to vent about it, lament about it, whatever. It's one of the few places where I could express it openly and people would understand the situation.

Thank you! That was my point of the post exactly.