Tantrums

[star003]

this can be applicable for both guys and girls. if you are still in a relationship, what kind of tantrums of your spouse/ partner you face that takes away your mental peace? How you differentiate between a regular mood swing vs the person is not mentally stable for any relationship?
For those who have ended their relationship, how did you decide that this is the limit? what was the breaking point?

 

[The Oracle]

For those who have ended their relationship, how did you decide that this is the limit? what was the breaking point?

Okay I got this one...Ask yourself what advice would you give yourself if you were a third person looking on your relationship. That's the advice you should take.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

this can be applicable for both guys and girls. if you are still in a relationship, what kind of tantrums of your spouse/ partner you face that takes away your mental peace? How you differentiate between a regular mood swing vs the person is not mentally stable for any relationship?
For those who have ended their relationship, how did you decide that this is the limit? what was the breaking point?

Usually comes when one realizes that someone else has completely taken control of your life. And you decide to try and grow a pair again and claim your life back. Which means dumping them and getting the fuck out of Dodge.
I had one of those. She used to have her tantrums on a whim and after say "you know, it's just me" Good bye and good riddance.

 

[bazokajoe]

Ahhh the joy of being a life long bachelor.

 

[Candymancan]

The longer the marriage, the more it costs to get out of it. Should I stay, or should I go

 

[star003]

Ahhh the joy of being a life long bachelor.

not really…we all crave for a companion…that’s why we are in this hobbying…without those little tantrums life is boring and we as men are built this way to be able to handle it calmly when we in love…but problem is that some girls starts misusing this…and takes the tantrums to extreme level until the guys reaches to the breaking point.

 

[bazokajoe]

not really…we all crave for a companion…that’s why we are in this hobbying…without those little tantrums life is boring and we as men are built this way to be able to handle it calmly when we in love…but problem is that some girls starts misusing this…and takes the tantrums to extreme level until the guys reaches to the breaking point.

LOL. To each their own. If you want to put up with that bullshit, have at it.

 

[massman]

this can be applicable for both guys and girls. if you are still in a relationship, what kind of tantrums of your spouse/ partner you face that takes away your mental peace? How you differentiate between a regular mood swing vs the person is not mentally stable for any relationship?
For those who have ended their relationship, how did you decide that this is the limit? what was the breaking point?

Being gaslit pushes me close to the breaking point. I am a normally a very calm, patient and chill person, but being gaslit will throw me into a blind rage.

 

[jeff2]

not really…we all crave for a companion…that’s why we are in this hobbying…without those little tantrums life is boring and we as men are built this way to be able to handle it calmly when we in love…but problem is that some girls starts misusing this…and takes the tantrums to extreme level until the guys reaches to the breaking point.

If you raise your voice, she might call the cops.

 

[star003]

If you raise your voice, she might call the cops.

and if she raise her voice, throws stuff, screams?

 

[onomatopoeia]

and if she raise her voice, throws stuff, screams?

 

[Josephine]

this can be applicable for both guys and girls. if you are still in a relationship, what kind of tantrums of your spouse/ partner you face that takes away your mental peace? How you differentiate between a regular mood swing vs the person is not mentally stable for any relationship?
For those who have ended their relationship, how did you decide that this is the limit? what was the breaking point?

I think in any types of relationship you have to stick to your values and your boundaries. If someone crosses them constantly this is where you have to act. Ask yourself what matters to you, what is a complete no go and evaluate accordingly.

 

[Josephine]

and if she raise her voice, throws stuff, screams?

This is a her problem. Violence is a shitty value. You can however wonder why. As far as I know if you are on a review board you are not completely white. Self work is also important. Better leave sometimes than keep hurting.

 

[star003]

This is a her problem. Violence is a shitty value. You can however wonder why. As far as I know if you are on a review board you are not completely white. Self work is also important. Better leave sometimes than keep hurting.

what if why were here in first place is because of her behaviour? men are taught repeatedly over last 3-4 decades atleast about how to treat a girl with respect with care with gentleness with…..it can fill the page and still not complete.
But, really last few decades, we as society completely removed the knowledge about how men should be treated. just because in the generations before some men did something wrong to some women.

 

[The Options Menu]

Better leave sometimes than keep hurting.

Amen.

And on your theme of self learning do try to learn the lessons that the relationship provided, without living in a place of hurt or anger. Yes, it takes some time to get over a serious relationship, but if you find yourself not getting over it, not learning any lessons, or dwelling in a negative mental place then try talking to trusted people in your life. If that doesn't do it talk to a professional.

 

[Josephine]

what if why were here in first place is because of her behaviour? men are taught repeatedly over last 3-4 decades atleast about how to treat a girl with respect with care with gentleness with…..it can fill the page and still not complete.
But, really last few decades, we as society completely removed the knowledge about how men should be treated. just because in the generations before some men did something wrong to some women.

Then I think you have your answer. If you being here is a protective response to her behavior you are probably just staying by the fear of her reaction. In this situation, the person you are letting down the most is yourself. Gain your power back!

Edit: i think sometimes 2 persons can be good person but not together. If someone triggers the worst out of us, it is our responsibility to let go.

 

[angrymime666]

Why would I stay in a relationship with someone with behavior that is either a tantrum or mental health issues?

It's difficult enough navigating your own individual life let alone a person that requires so much attention.

No thanks. I'll take peace for 500 Alex.

 

[jeff2]

Probably worse is being stuck with a woman who is determined to go bankrupt. There is nothing you can do but exit as fast as possible to avoid bankruptcy yourself.

 

[star003]

i think sometimes 2 persons can be good person but not together. If someone triggers the worst out of us, it is our responsibility to let go.

very well said.. agreed

 

[Josephine]

very well said.. agreed

Glad I could bring you a little bit of help this morning 🫶 relationship are hard and it hurt a lot sometimes.