SP with boyfriend

[danmand]

What do you do when an SP tells you that she has a boyfriend? It kind of puts me off, because I would not want a girlfriend of mine to work as an SP. On the other hand, most SP's likely have a significant other, so maybe it is a case of "what I don't know don't bother me".

 

[sweet guy]

What do you do when an SP tells you that she has a boyfriend? It kind of puts me off, because I would not want a girlfriend of mine to work as an SP. On the other hand, most SP's likely have a significant other, so maybe it is a case of "what I don't know don't bother me".

I don't want to know unless I am considering her as gf material.

BTW, I will find SP telling me that she has a SO insulting when I am not the one who "probe" her dating history.

Nothing kills my mood faster than shagging with another dude's "civilian" gf without his knowledge.

Sometimes I suspect the SP tells you deliberately to kill your mood during the hour, so that she doesn't need to make too much effort to earn the buck.

 

[Ginglay]

I tend to agree with sweet guy... I do not really want to know that an SP has a BF, and as far as I am concerned the only reason that she can possibly have for telling me this is to warn me that pretty much nothing is on the menu, and that she considers me second class and has decided to condescend to tolerate my existance... No thanks, I know that there is no faster way to kill the mood that this...

Another thing that drives me nuts is this whole kissing thing being reserved for my BF... You will let me f**k you in the ass, but kissing is not allowed!? Go figure...

 

[happygrump]

What's the big deal? If the lady has a mate and is comfortable sharing that knowledge with you, then IMO your time with her becomes that much more special.

As for the kissing, it's about intimacy, not about the physical contact. If you are extremely lucky, you'll find that your friendly neighbourhood SP may give you a kiss, but most of them seem to think it's crossing a line of intimacy. I, for one, don't have a problem with it. My finest experience with an SP was because she started off with a "no-kissing" rule but by the end of the session we were lip-locked most of the time. *phew* it's getting hot in here all of a sudden...

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

If it bothers you... don't ask.. simple....

 

[Jennifer_]

I actually find that the topic of whether or not I have a boyfriend is always initiated by my clients.

Maybe the thought of one's MPA having a boyfriend is not as much of a turn-off for clients as one's SP due to the difference in physical intimacy each session entails....I'm not sure. However quite a large number of clients probe the topic.

Although I do infact have a boyfriend, I always say I don't.

My job is to create a fantasy experience for the men who visit me and I would think that knowing that I'm madly in love with someone else would generally kill that fantasy. I don't understand why so many ask...self sabotage ?

 

[Kathy P]

Personally, I think it is sometimes an issue of control (on the part of some clients). What they do in their personal lives is none of my business so why would what I do in my personal life be any of their business? I once had a client who went through my bathroom closets and when he found shaving cream (I use this for my own shaving needs!) demanded to know if I was living with someone. He promptly got asked to leave. I find the attitudes of some (including some on this board) really a downer. Maybe, it came up in conversation and the lady was simply being honest? The arrogance of some is astounding - she told me to kill the mood and to ensure that I know nothing is on the menu - talk about an overrated sense of self-importance and pre-determined anger towards women! Maybe she told you because she's a human being and sometimes human beings socialize/talk about their lives. Clients tell me about their wives/girlfriends all the time. Why does everything have to revolve around you? The lady is a human being. Take some time to remember that instead of constantly demeaning her to your level simply because you're too immature to handle the fact that she has a life outside of pleasing you and that she's a whole person, not some machine that you put coins in like a wind up toy.


Argggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggh! PMS is great.

 

[Jungleismassive]

I'll tell an SP that I am married. Never seems to bother anyone.

If a girl has a private life why should I care and if she chooses to share the information with me that's nice, but so what? I am paying for sex not commitment and I don't judge her.

Leave your ego at the door and enjoy.

 

[sweet guy]

Personally, I think it is sometimes an issue of control (on the part of some clients). What they do in their personal lives is none of my business so why would what I do in my personal life be any of their business?

I never probe the SP's personal business but how would you feel when she says she has SO before the "deal"? What's her motive?

Unless she's interested in making fun on me, otherwise I can't find any reason to do this without provocation.

I find the attitudes of some (including some on this board) really a downer. Maybe, it came up in conversation and the lady was simply being honest? The arrogance of some is astounding - she told me to kill the mood and to ensure that I know nothing is on the menu - talk about an overrated sense of self-importance and pre-determined anger towards women!

Many guys are smarter than that and you don't have to take a particular client based on whatever PC or not PC reasons if you don't like to.

The client will look for and pay for another SP who like Misty said before, gives you "lips service" to the fantasy.

Maybe she told you because she's a human being and sometimes human beings socialize/talk about their lives. Clients tell me about their wives/girlfriends all the time. Why does everything have to revolve around you? The lady is a human being. Take some time to remember that instead of constantly demeaning her to your level simply because you're too immature to handle the fact that she has a life outside of pleasing you and that she's a whole person, not some machine that you put coins in like a wind up toy.

I am sick and tired of the saturation of whatever Mark Burnett puts on. Now you say the client has to be PC enough not to have you "act" yourself and "show" your concern to you?

Personally, I never demean the SP and I could not care less whether she laughes at me behind my back for whatever my "immaturity" she likes to put up to (I suppose many SPs have in various degree the same attitude to the clients).

I treat any SP like I will treat to a "civilian" gf....like a lady and act like a gentleman. Maybe the SPs are more "receptive" to the gesture.

It's fair to ask something in return when I pay a premium for that. Is that a crime to ask for "a little bit" centre of attention for the duration?

 

[sizematters]

I thoroughly enjoy mowing another man's grass!!! SP or civilian, doesn't matter, I'm doing his job for him, if he can't satisfy her...I will.

 

[Don]

Don't bother me one bit if she tells me she has a SO or not. Many times I end up finding out because I like to chit chat a bit with the girl during my session so things like SO tend to naturally come out (esp. after repeat sessions) unless they are very secretive about their life.

Really... I don't understand why some guys would get all upset about finding out. Unless you have some emotional attachment to the SP or are using the session as a pretend "regular date" fantasy as Misty mentioned where you want to pretend that you are on a civilian date with the SP and discussing her SO will kill the fantasy. I see an SP to get my rocks off and have a wild time!

 

[sweet guy]

Really... I don't understand why some guys would get all upset about finding out.

Some SP thinks she "screws" you like working at a "charity" for sore "dating scene Loser" like you, or don't expect you get much "menu" from her.

And yes, how embarassing is that when you find out her SO is your best friend or acquiantence and he finds out you screw his "civilian" GF as a client? I would love to see what will come out of this.

Unless you have some emotional attachment to the SP or are using the session as a pretend "regular date" fantasy as Misty mentioned where you want to pretend that you are on a civilian date with the SP and discussing her SO will kill the fantasy.

I expect the "date with SP" is way better than any regular date with civilian GF. You know what you will get and there's no long, dodging excuses or BS put up by some vicious regular mate. I never pretend to have "regular date" fantasy.

I get "regular date" simulation at the clubs with cheaper price tags.

It's more than just killing whatever fantasy you are talking about. It's just an undeclared, unprovoked, indirect character mockery on you as a person. What does she mean she is "taken" by somebody else during the intimacy? What does she imply to me, huh?

I know for sure this won't be some kind of flattery.

BTW, I will probably tell I shag with another popular SP within the same agency and describe how good she is on bed after the deeds if she tells me out of the blue she has a non-client boyfriend.

 

[Kathy P]

You are a pretty insecure ticket, Sweet Guy. Treating a woman (sp or civilian) in the manner that you describe with the twisted thinking that you've got going on is not treating her like a lady under any circumstances. This is not an issue of being politically correct. It is a question of treating a human being like they are one. The reflections that you've made say a lot more about what you lack than they illuminate about any relevant issue in this business. If you are not being treated the way that you think you should be entitled to, perhaps you should examine your own motives and behaviour as the real culprit.

Getting your hour's worth should not be at the expense of demeaning someone else. You sound like a ticking time bomb to me. You clearly have a lot of sociopathic ideas about women in general.

 

[sweet guy]

Getting your hour's worth should not be at the expense of demeaning someone else.

I have repeatedly made very clear that I NEVER DEMEAN any SP. And I don't believe zero sum game.

I always come well groomed and give the SP very, very easy time for the duration. I don't even have very demanding, unusual and demeaning requests.

Blah, blah, blah, that's a given and it's almost akin to no condom, no sex.

I never act intrusive by being nosy such as asking whether the SP has SO. That's NONE of my business.

What really pissed me off is during the small chat, the SP all of a sudden is "frank" and let me know she has SO and he does not have any idea on her "secret life". That's more than what I expect!

I try not to be sounds insensitive but why does she talk something like this before intimacy? Does she say this implicitly that she's not into herself? Is that some kind of poking fun on me?

The bottom line is if she is not in the mood to prepare herself "acting out" on the duration, she doesn't have to take my appointment. Nobody points a gun on her to take "this client" with her having issues.

Damn...those male PMS!!

 

[sweet guy]

If you are not being treated the way that you think you should be entitled to, perhaps you should examine your own motives and behaviour as the real culprit.

So far I am being treated more than I expected and I can't thank enough to the SPs who deserve my best appreciation. She makes me refreshed and energizing every time I leave

And No I don't have any problems on motives and behaviours.

 

[sweet guy]

Now, this is the thing. Sometimes they open their soul, start showing me pictures of their family, kids, extend the appointment for couple of hours with no additional charge and so on, or didn't charge me at all!

Wow, you are a lucky dude! What's your trick to "disarm" her?

Why do they do that? Somehow I can't believe that I'm special.

Do you smell and look like a shrink?

 

[Don]

Some SP thinks she "screws" you like working at a "charity" for sore "dating scene Loser" like you, or don't expect you get much "menu" from her.

And if she does.... so what? Who cares? I'm not trying to be her friend or am so sensitive to what she thinks of me that I'll get upset if she thinks I'm a loser. As long as I have a great time, that is the key thing for me. I don't see SP's to find a female friend that thinks highly of me. I see SP's to cater to my fetishes and to get me off.

And I haven't really seen a major correlation between SP's talking about their S.O. and what is on the menu.

Sweet guy, I think you analyze your encounters w/the SP's too much. Just sit back and enjoy the ride. And if you don't have a good time with her (restricted menu, you feel dissed, whatever) then just move on to someone that makes you feel comfortable.

 

[Kathy P]

Again, maybe the lady is just being a human being. We're not all robots. Some of us are actually real people with lives, loves and passions.