Should I see SP to improve sex for GF
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Let me get this straight: You want to see an SP so you DON'T lose your girlfriend?!? LOL! That's precious!
I mean, I'm with you on the skills development, but can't you just ask your girl for some feedback?
On the other hand, maybe you can get your girl to join in with you and your chosen SP?
Maybe kooley's got it right.
I mean, I'm with you on the skills development, but can't you just ask your girl for some feedback?
On the other hand, maybe you can get your girl to join in with you and your chosen SP?
Maybe kooley's got it right.
M
MrEasy
Look .....if you are serious enough about this girl to want to do this ( as opposed to just rationalizing an excuse for variety ) I think it is more important to develop an 'openess' to your relationship . The ability for sexual partners to communicate both before , after and during combined with an open attitude is a lot more important than 'learning' a bunch of new positions etc. Find out or find a way to get her to tell you what turns her on , how she likes to be touched , her fantasies etc .
Much of the thrill with sp's is the excitement of having sex with someone new or someone that fits a different profile than what you are used to . While it is possible to find someone that , over a series of 'dates' will take you into previously unexplored heights , this requires work in finding the right lady .
Initial encounters envariably ( and surprisingly ) follow an almost tried and true formula . You start with LK move to massage , then maybe DFK . BJ , DATY and 3 position FS . Repeat if necessary....lol.
What exactly do you expect to learn . Women don't all liked to be touched in the same manner or even the same way each time . I can tell you that there are no "professional secrets" that you can't learn with your GF and an open attitude and dialogue .
It may be a lot of fun though to see a lot of different women but that is all it is and not recommended in a big C (c-c-c-committed )relationship
Just MHO .
Much of the thrill with sp's is the excitement of having sex with someone new or someone that fits a different profile than what you are used to . While it is possible to find someone that , over a series of 'dates' will take you into previously unexplored heights , this requires work in finding the right lady .
Initial encounters envariably ( and surprisingly ) follow an almost tried and true formula . You start with LK move to massage , then maybe DFK . BJ , DATY and 3 position FS . Repeat if necessary....lol.
What exactly do you expect to learn . Women don't all liked to be touched in the same manner or even the same way each time . I can tell you that there are no "professional secrets" that you can't learn with your GF and an open attitude and dialogue .
It may be a lot of fun though to see a lot of different women but that is all it is and not recommended in a big C (c-c-c-committed )relationship
Just MHO .
why don't you just take a course on improving sexual performances....
I think they offer them at 'Come as you are' on Queen...for couples...
therefore no cheating....
or maybe you could ask your dad for some pointers...that's what jason biggs did in american pie
I think they offer them at 'Come as you are' on Queen...for couples...
therefore no cheating....
or maybe you could ask your dad for some pointers...that's what jason biggs did in american pie
It's usually easier to ask for feedback once you've been together in a longer relatio
Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like an episode from Seinfeld?
If you can have open dialog with her early in your relationship, won't that help to secure the long term relationship?
Maybe she's never had a man ask her how it feels this way, that way, etc. You say you have a good emotional bond, have some fun with it, she'll think you sincerely want to pleasure her.
For skills development, I think there's some instructional videos out there. Maybe by Playboy, and I think Nina Hartley has a couple. Don't know if they're any good, maybe someone else can comment.
Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like an episode from Seinfeld?
If you can have open dialog with her early in your relationship, won't that help to secure the long term relationship?
Maybe she's never had a man ask her how it feels this way, that way, etc. You say you have a good emotional bond, have some fun with it, she'll think you sincerely want to pleasure her.
For skills development, I think there's some instructional videos out there. Maybe by Playboy, and I think Nina Hartley has a couple. Don't know if they're any good, maybe someone else can comment.
Re: It's usually easier to ask for feedback once you've been together in a longer relatio
"Cheating...to save the relationship."
Definately a Seinfeld moment. Good call Snake Pliskin.
Lets see now:Snake Pliskin said:Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like an episode from Seinfeld?
"Cheating...to save the relationship."
Definately a Seinfeld moment. Good call Snake Pliskin.
You have got a few good pointers here so far. Anyway, the first sp comes to mind for this task would be
Selina aka Dr. Venus
http://www.geocities.com/sinfulselina
She is quite open minded and may be you can work something out with her.
Lewd, a neutral question here: you have been on board for quite a while, are you more a MP, SC kind of terbite ? I was a bit surprised to find out that this thread was posted by a senior member ,who registered in 2001.
Best of luck to you and your GF.
Selina aka Dr. Venus
http://www.geocities.com/sinfulselina
She is quite open minded and may be you can work something out with her.
Lewd, a neutral question here: you have been on board for quite a while, are you more a MP, SC kind of terbite ? I was a bit surprised to find out that this thread was posted by a senior member ,who registered in 2001.
Best of luck to you and your GF.
As posted by Lewd....
"Should I see SP to improve sex for GF
Looking to improve some techniques and positions to better please my new GF of one month. We get along emotionally but I want to make sure she's happy with the sex so I don't lose her.
Should I see a SP and if so, who would be open to this sort of "education".
<putting on my lecture hat>
This is what happens when you rush into a sexual relationship with a someone. You're so eager to "get in there" that you really don't take the time to get to know her likes/dislikes. Communicating, flirting, having sexual conversations over the phone (great way to find out stuff if you are nervous doing it face to face), building that anticiaption over a period of time..that, IMHO, is the key.
But since you've already "been there, done that", my advice would be to watch her. Watch her every movement when you do something, for example; DATY. What ways make her sqruim...does she moan louder when you do that/this....Once you find what makes her react, then stick with it. For me....and a I am assuming I am not alone on this one. I always hold back a bit and am very nervous when I first experience a sexual encounter with a guy, but if he sticks to the deed and follows my directions (reactions) and I cum, the second time is not nearly as hard or uncomfortable. And I usually cum a lot faster.
If you are truely clueless, then invest some money in a "Lovemaking video" (not porno) and/or a sex game. The first suggestion would be recommended if you two are still a little nervous...the second will require more openness. You can find either at a sex store..I'd recommend the Stag Shop. Bring your girl along to, go into the store late if you are embarassed and take a look around. Pay attention to the toys she looks at...maybe that can direct you in what type of pleasure she is into (i.e. DATY, Dildos (size, attatchments), anal...) and conversate while you are in there, ask her questions, ect.
To add further.....
Every girl is different, so while you are perfecting you're style on Jane Doe....You're GF might be thinking, "What is this guy doing?"
I suggest perfecting your style with you're GF, communicate openly, (which if you are having sex, communication should be involved and encouraged), and once you figure out what turns her on, perfect that technique even more....
Good luck...
Catherine
xoxoxox
"Should I see SP to improve sex for GF
Looking to improve some techniques and positions to better please my new GF of one month. We get along emotionally but I want to make sure she's happy with the sex so I don't lose her.
Should I see a SP and if so, who would be open to this sort of "education".
<putting on my lecture hat>
This is what happens when you rush into a sexual relationship with a someone. You're so eager to "get in there" that you really don't take the time to get to know her likes/dislikes. Communicating, flirting, having sexual conversations over the phone (great way to find out stuff if you are nervous doing it face to face), building that anticiaption over a period of time..that, IMHO, is the key.
But since you've already "been there, done that", my advice would be to watch her. Watch her every movement when you do something, for example; DATY. What ways make her sqruim...does she moan louder when you do that/this....Once you find what makes her react, then stick with it. For me....and a I am assuming I am not alone on this one. I always hold back a bit and am very nervous when I first experience a sexual encounter with a guy, but if he sticks to the deed and follows my directions (reactions) and I cum, the second time is not nearly as hard or uncomfortable. And I usually cum a lot faster.
If you are truely clueless, then invest some money in a "Lovemaking video" (not porno) and/or a sex game. The first suggestion would be recommended if you two are still a little nervous...the second will require more openness. You can find either at a sex store..I'd recommend the Stag Shop. Bring your girl along to, go into the store late if you are embarassed and take a look around. Pay attention to the toys she looks at...maybe that can direct you in what type of pleasure she is into (i.e. DATY, Dildos (size, attatchments), anal...) and conversate while you are in there, ask her questions, ect.
To add further.....
Every girl is different, so while you are perfecting you're style on Jane Doe....You're GF might be thinking, "What is this guy doing?"
I suggest perfecting your style with you're GF, communicate openly, (which if you are having sex, communication should be involved and encouraged), and once you figure out what turns her on, perfect that technique even more....
Good luck...
Catherine
xoxoxox
Thanks for all the input.
Let me clear a few things...it's not like I'm clueless. I'm just trying to impress. Let's just say, this girl IMHO is pretty sweet and I'm still pinching myself to believe she likes me.
But I think I'll skip the SP and play it by ear. I think I'm just trying too hard to impress and as Catherine and others have said, just communicate.
BTW Berlin, senior MP hobbyist.
Let me clear a few things...it's not like I'm clueless. I'm just trying to impress. Let's just say, this girl IMHO is pretty sweet and I'm still pinching myself to believe she likes me.
But I think I'll skip the SP and play it by ear. I think I'm just trying too hard to impress and as Catherine and others have said, just communicate.
BTW Berlin, senior MP hobbyist.
I'm surprised no one has offered this, but here I go.........I'll bang her until I figure out what it is she likes, then tell you what that is, and then you can go at it. How does that sound? LOL
Good thread though, very entertaining. Most have hit it on the head, all women like it differently, not to mention, the same woman likes it differently from time to time. Sometimes they are hot and horny and want it hard and fast, other times they are romantic and just want to be held and cuddled and it's not entirely about the orgasm. I don't get the last part, but hey, I'm a man. If you are open enough to get naked together and bump uglies, well, then you should be open enough to talk with her about what pleases her. Eventually you get to be able to read her like a book, know when she just wants a quickie, when she wants you to kiss every inch of her body, or when she wants to re-enact a porno you just saw. We men are pretty simple, if she's naked, and usually at least breathing, we're hot for it. With a woman, well to quote a famous Alien, "I coined this phrase 5 years ago"...........women are like Russia........a puzzle inside of a riddle smothered in secret sauce. It's like they have a Rubick's vagina.......one day you simply touch them, and everything aligns perfectly, other days you work at it forever, twisting and turning, and you can't get the damn thing to work.
I say, don't try to figure out the damn vagina, figure out what's in her head. You have to turn the brain on, long before you turn any other part of her body on. If you can do that, get her started, turned on at dinner, or even in the morning, by the end of the night, you will have much less work to do to make her satisfied. If you have that emotional/intellectual bond, and you are both physically attracted to each other, the sex will work out just fine, so long as you aren't a bumbling fool.
If that's the case, like I originally offered, I'll bang her over and over again until I figure out the combination to her Rubick's vagina, and then pass it along to you. You just have to realize, there are usually a dozen or more combinations, so it may take me a while. Hope that's okay. LOL
Coolguy.
Good thread though, very entertaining. Most have hit it on the head, all women like it differently, not to mention, the same woman likes it differently from time to time. Sometimes they are hot and horny and want it hard and fast, other times they are romantic and just want to be held and cuddled and it's not entirely about the orgasm. I don't get the last part, but hey, I'm a man. If you are open enough to get naked together and bump uglies, well, then you should be open enough to talk with her about what pleases her. Eventually you get to be able to read her like a book, know when she just wants a quickie, when she wants you to kiss every inch of her body, or when she wants to re-enact a porno you just saw. We men are pretty simple, if she's naked, and usually at least breathing, we're hot for it. With a woman, well to quote a famous Alien, "I coined this phrase 5 years ago"...........women are like Russia........a puzzle inside of a riddle smothered in secret sauce. It's like they have a Rubick's vagina.......one day you simply touch them, and everything aligns perfectly, other days you work at it forever, twisting and turning, and you can't get the damn thing to work.
I say, don't try to figure out the damn vagina, figure out what's in her head. You have to turn the brain on, long before you turn any other part of her body on. If you can do that, get her started, turned on at dinner, or even in the morning, by the end of the night, you will have much less work to do to make her satisfied. If you have that emotional/intellectual bond, and you are both physically attracted to each other, the sex will work out just fine, so long as you aren't a bumbling fool.
If that's the case, like I originally offered, I'll bang her over and over again until I figure out the combination to her Rubick's vagina, and then pass it along to you. You just have to realize, there are usually a dozen or more combinations, so it may take me a while. Hope that's okay. LOL
Coolguy.
I really don't think you should do this. There is a ton of information on the net which will give you plenty to do. You should try things out together instead of with someone else first.
try a page like this it will give you lots to try out for a long time. http://www.kamasutrafree.com/
try a page like this it will give you lots to try out for a long time. http://www.kamasutrafree.com/
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WhOiSyOdAdDy?
You said she is your GF... if you care about yourself.. and her, and you are seriously thinking about doing this... maybe you should ask your GF how you can improve sex.. or if she would be open to allowing to to see professional.lewd said:
another option... pick up some porn.. mags and movies.. watch them t& learn.. maybe she would like to watch them with you
