sasha's love bite advice column: 19 year old wants to be an escort

[syn]

LOOKING TO HOOK

I'm 19 years old and am considering escorting. Could you please tell me what the realistic dangers are? I think my friends blow some of them out of proportion. Also, do you know any women escorts who feel good about themselves and enjoy their work? I'm sure they exist but would like it confirmed if possible. HAVE A GOOD DAY

If your friends are escorts then it seems unlikely that they would provide false information about their jobs. If they are not escorts, then you must understand that the facts that the general population retain about sex work, while not entirely false, are almost always pessimistically biased. Really, you only see hookers in the news if they've been chopped up and thrown in a dumpster or they're being lauded for getting out of the trade -- cautionary tales. Imagine if we only ever saw children represented in the media after they'd been abducted or abused. We would all have a pretty bleak impression of childhood, wouldn't we?

I suggest you read the interviews Sally Tisdale conducted with sex workers in her excellent book Talk Dirty to Me if you want a positive perspective. Also, here are some tips, laundry-list style, from an escort in Montreal named Lady Lucy:

* It is safer to go to hotels because you're in public.

* Some agencies are dodgy. Find out about working conditions and what kind of clientele they have. Ask the other women and see what they are like, that should give you an idea of what the agency is like.

* If you practise safe sex, health risks are obviously reduced. A lot of clients will offer more money for sex without a condom; be firm and say no if you don't want to.

* Watch what you say on the phone: pay phones are viewed as public which puts you in danger of communicating in public for the purposes of selling sex; don't ever talk about a sexual service on the phone. If you hear a boss doing that, get the fuck out of there.

Lucy also recommends having a cell phone and using a pseudonym. You may also want to refer www.walnet.org, a Canadian prostitution resource site.

I think back to myself at 19 and I certainly would not have had the wherewithal to work in the sex trade, though I have met others who were mature enough at that age to be resolute and self-confident about their goals. Good luck.

Sasha

 

[syn]

Re: thie week's sasha love bite column

Originally posted by syn

* Watch what you say on the phone: pay phones are viewed as public which puts you in danger of communicating in public for the purposes of selling sex; don't ever talk about a sexual service on the phone. If you hear a boss doing that, get the fuck out of there.

Any comments, Perry?

Syn

 

[Mikehorn]

T-bill will be asking you for her phone #

 

[xarir]

Perry is one of our resident legal experts here on TERB.

I think Sasha's reply to this lady was quite fair. I particularly like the closing where she cautions our young wanna-be that she should be sure about her decision before taking the plunge.

Hopefully this young lady finds whatever it is she's looking for.

Back to the original question - in my world (financial) if I was to overhear someone say something on an elevator, in a restaurant, on their cell phone walking down the street, or anywhere else that's "public", I am allowed to execute a trade based on what I hear. Basically whatever I might overhear in public is not considered material-non public information because I heard it in a public environment. So I would think that using a payphone to discuss services would constitute communicating in public for purposes of selling sex.

But as a general rule in this biz, I would think that ladies should be cautious about what they say on the phone regardless of what kind of phone (cell, payphone, private phone in their residence) is being used.

 

[Steve Butabi]

Yes, but has anyone ever been with Sasha?

LOL! I need to have her@! LOL!

 

[Dave in Phoenix]

All phone converstations are private. The communicating law is directed at street hookers that can be seen in public on a public street or area (including hotel common area).

There is no communicating violation for any type of phone, newspaper ads, magazine ads, websites.

Just because someone could "accidently" overhear a private conversation I don't think is any basis for a communicating in public charge. You are not intending to nor directing the communications to anyone who is in a public place, but on the phone. The law seems to be quite narrow in that regard and I don't think there has ever been a case or person arrested again as far as I know for using any time of phone for communicating.

 

[fernie]

Re: Yes, but has anyone ever been with Sasha?

LOL! I need to have her@! LOL!

I used to like the bunny pics of Sasha. I met her in person recently and she didn't really do it for me. She's no longer blonde and is a lot more pudgy, dumpier, heavier looking in person. Shame though as I was kind of hoping Sasha would jump my ex g/f and let me watch. Anyways, I heard she was like the community bicycle who let everyone take a ride so probably one of us terbies could confirm if she is a wildcat in the sack. Does she still waitress at some dive on Queen West? Anyways, isn't she the chick that stopped peeling when she had to do one on one lap dances? Hardly the one I think that should be dispensing advice to escorts if her forays into the ballet grossed her out.

Fernie