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Inquest: Model Laura Pahomova died after escort secret revealedThe Light Boutique Aparthotel Laura Pahomova died after falling from a hotel apartment block in Manchester
A Latvian model fell to her death from a Manchester apartment hotel after her ex-boyfriend told her family she was working as an escort, an inquest heard.

Laura Pahomova, 23, sent a final text message to her father before climbing over a balcony at the Light Boutique Aparthotel and falling.

Manchester Coroner's Court heard that her family had believed she was in England studying at university.

Coroner Nigel Meadows ruled that Miss Pahomova took her own life.

Miss Pahomova had embarked on an on-off relationship with Martin Riley, but later described him as a "stalker".

She had threatened suicide if her family found out what she was doing, but Mr Riley told police he had informed her loved ones in order to help her - evidence the court heard was "contradictory."

Mr Riley was initially arrested as a suspect after Miss Pahomova's death but no charges were brought due to "insufficient evidence".

However, the court heard he had been convicted of harassment before when in "completely similar circumstances" he met another escort, began a relationship, then contacted her family.

'Distressed and upset'

Mr Riley could not be located and summoned to attend the hearing, despite Mr Meadows employing a private investigator.

His mother, Janet Riley, when visited at her home in Blackley, Manchester, would only say he was out of the country, the court heard.

Miss Pahomova first came to the UK in 2008, working in a factory in Blackburn and also as a part-time model. She began her relationship with Mr Riley in 2011.

After a trip home she returned to the UK on 24 September 2012, six days before her death, telling family she was returning to her studies.

The next day Mr Riley used a false name to meet Miss Pahomova through an escort website, but she was "shocked and distressed" and told him to leave.

Two days later she booked into a room at the aparthotel, asking for an "elevated position".

The same day her family received an email from Mr Riley telling them she was not a student but working as an escort, including website details.

Her family, including her father Janis Vienters, then received a series of text messages from Miss Pahomova asking for forgiveness.

She was discovered dead at 11.30 BST on 30 September. No drugs or alcohol were present in her body.

Although Mr Riley had visited the apartment, she had been alone at the time.

Inside the apartment, she had written on mirrors, walls and furniture in lipstick and ink, blaming Mr Riley and apologising to her family, the inquest heard.

Concluding the hearing, Mr Meadows said: "For reasons only Mr Riley will know and understand, he decided to contact Mr Vienters and the family to make disclosures about Laura's lifestyle, when she clearly had not wished him to do that. She was obviously distressed and upset.

"The court does not deal with moral responsibility; those have to remain
 

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This is sooooo sad! This has to be the worst story of how stigma affects sex workers that I have heard in a while.

I can honestly say I've lost more staff to bf's than any other reason. The threat of outting someone is huge! If there was no stigma, "outting" wouldn't be an issue and therefore not used as a playing card. This poor girl! I wish every sp could know that family & friends who love you will love you inclusive of your chosen work. And if they don't, I will! Never be ashamed of being empowered, brave, and independent. I'm so upset after reading this. :(
 

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This is very, very sad. I hate stigma and the way people look at sex workers in this world got to be changed. (yeah I know, easier said than done).

One would say this might be a rare / extreme case. Yes it is but behind this there're countless amount of situations we see everyday that's affecting and hurting everyone. When you meet the MPA/SP more times and get to know them better, sometimes the conversation goes into how much they have to hide this from their lives and what they need to do to deal with the "real" world. It's saddening and I couldn't help feeling a lot of sympathy on that. It sometimes even blown the mood of the session but I'm always glad they got a chance to open up.

And countless time, due to this, no matter how good the rapport you have with them (not only in the room but outside of the room...), the "friendship" was not able to continue once they retired. Okay I know it's not the only reason and I completely understand why... but it's really, really frustrating.
 

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It is apparent that not only is Mr. Riley a shit, but he has no conscience since this is the second time he has done this.
 

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This is one of the main reasons why SP's shy away from getting into person relationships with their customers, at least that is what many have told me. When the relationship goes sour, this situation is what they are afraid of, ie; being outed to family and friends. Most SP's will not even allow photo's to be taken of them for fear of them being published for everyone to see. I have heard of some instances where photo's have been used to blackmail SP's. Simply disgusting.

I have had a couple of long term relationships with SP's and not once has the topic of what they did come up, even in heated discussions. The guy who outed her is a complete scumbag and hopefully he gets what is coming to him for what he did. This poor girls life was falling apart in her mind and she took the only route she thought best to escape the pain and humiliation that she and her family would face.
This is a good reason to never ever post face pics in ads or on websites!!

Stigma is our industry's biggest issue.
 

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It is apparent that not only is Mr. Riley a shit, but he has no conscience since this is the second time he has done this.
I agree. Obviously Mr. Riley was being a vindictive asshole and is as directly responsible for her death as he would have been if he pushed her off himself.
 

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I was outed to my family by a supposed friend and they severed ties with me three years ago. I have no words to describe my feelings for this person as she is not worthy of my time. The pain has been excruciating.
 

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This is such a sad story and such a tragic loss of a young life.

I have now a profound appreciation of why the lovely SPs that I was with refused adamantly to have their picture taken.
 

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I agree. Obviously Mr. Riley was being a vindictive asshole and is as directly responsible for her death as he would have been if he pushed her off himself.
The British Police and the CPS wanted to charge him, but there is not an appropriate English Criminal charge.
 

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I was outed to my family by a supposed friend and they severed ties with me three years ago. I have no words to describe my feelings for this person as she is not worthy of my time. The pain has been excruciating.
Me too. My best friends outted me on the net. And then competitors sent my family all of my reviews & photos. It was devastating for me. Heart breaking for my father especially. Luckily they all eventually supported me. I remember the feelings of dread, anxiety, embarrassment, shame, fear, self-loathing, and solitude. I'm very lucky that I was in an otherwise good place in my life at the time. I've seen women come close to the panic & fear this girl must have felt and it scares me to death. There is no way atall to stop or prevent this from happening unless & until the stigma of sexwork is abolished (suck on that word Petey mackay!)

Stigma is the most dangerous thing.

Btw, is there a link for this story?
 

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I was outed to my family by a supposed friend and they severed ties with me three years ago. I have no words to describe my feelings for this person as she is not worthy of my time. The pain has been excruciating.
Marla I sincerely hope one day your family will connect back with you and support you being an upstanding and self-supporting individual.
 

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The British Police and the CPS wanted to charge him, but there is not an appropriate English Criminal charge.
Reckless endangerment of human life .... public nuisance ... if you lobbed hand grenades on the sidewalk below and no one hurt before you were stopped .. couldn't you still be charged with some sort of activities that endanger the public ? If that fails just leak his name to the U.S. CIA - I heard they have an interesting program in place. :eyebrows:
 

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The British Police and the CPS wanted to charge him, but there is not an appropriate English Criminal charge.
Are you allowed to shout: "fire" in a theater in Britain?
 

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It is apparent that not only is Mr. Riley a shit, but he has no conscience since this is the second time he has done this.
Not a comparison, but a dancer's jealous BF slashed all my tires (I confronted him but the coward denied it at the time - she told me 2 years later after they had broken up). He eventually slashed her clothes and furniture before breaking up. Piece of shit deserves the Paulie Gaultieri rehabilitation treatment.
 
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