Rules- Men what are your personal rules in this hobby?

[sanderson3d]

So boys / female hobbiests

What are your personal rules when hobbyling? Here are my rules that I’ve used over the last 20+ years.

NEVER - send any kind of real ID / LinkedIn profile no matter how good the sex it’s not worth my privacy.

NEVER - enter any situation where I think my identity can be put at anykind of risk.

RARLY - send a deposit. I’ve sent them once or twice through an anonymous PayPal account, I will never EFT

- RARLY - wait longer than 15 minutes if an SP is late I’ll sometimes wait if Ive seen theSP before or she’s communicated with me a solid reason.

- RARLY - see an SP with out a clear list of services offered

ALWAYS - check reviews
ALWAYS - be a gentleman, be clean, we’ll mannered.
ALWAYS - Tip / pay well

What are yours?

 

[bazokajoe]

So boys / female hobbiests

What are your personal rules when hobbyling? Here are my rules that I’ve used over the last 20+ years.

NEVER - send any kind of real ID / LinkedIn profile no matter how good the sex it’s not worth my privacy.

NEVER - enter any situation where I think my identity can be put at anykind of risk.

RARLY - send a deposit. I’ve sent them once or twice through an anonymous PayPal account, I will never EFT

- RARLY - wait longer than 15 minutes if an SP is late I’ll sometimes wait if Ive seen theSP before or she’s communicated with me a solid reason.

- RARLY - see an SP with out a clear list of services offered

ALWAYS - check reviews
ALWAYS - be a gentleman, be clean, we’ll mannered.
ALWAYS - Tip / pay well

What are yours?

Pretty much the same as yours.
I will add some things I don't like and is a hard pass on seeing.
1) excessive tattooing.
2) party friendly
3) smokers

 

[Hawkwind]

Hi, new to the forum, first post...

Rules for me is to be clean, be on time and be respectful.

Rules for lady is just honesty and discretion.

Other rule is of course to keep myself anonymous. Saves a lot of problems and undue worry.

 

[anon1]

big tits

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Rules are for breaking.

 

[superman12]

Rule #1- If you have a wife and/or kids and your a hobbyist always remember that they come first and the sp your seeing comes second. If you have to cancel an appointment due to a family emergency so be it and dont feel guilty about it regardless of what the sp thinks of you or how she might make you feel.

Rule#2- Lower your expectations. Many of the SP's do a great job of marketing themselves with pics, website, and bio's. They play to a man's desires and fantasies. If you have been hobbying long enough you will realize that no SP you see will ever be able to live up to the expectation and fantasy you have conjured up in your head before meeting them because most of the time there not realistic which is why so many hobbyist are dissapointed with sp's and there looks and services.

Rule #3- Discretion, Discretion, Discretion. Thats goes for both hobbyist and sp. Do not provide any information you are uncomfortable with regardless of how tempted you are to see an SP or what a client is willing to offer you. This becomes 10x more important if you have a SO and have a family life.

Rule #4- Respect. SP's and clients are all human beings after all. The golden rule of treat others how you want to be treated is paramount for everyone involved in this hobby.

Rule#5- This one is for the gents. If you really enjoyed your time with a particular sp be a gentlemen and tip her or give her some sort of gift. It doesnt have to be extravagant. You have no idea how a small gesture as tipping an sp a few extra bucks at the end of a session will make her day. Think of it as a good deed.

 

[Thackeray]

Every guy is different, but:

- research helps a ton; ounce of prevention and all that

- be respectful - of her time, of her body. Arrive on time, leave on time, don’t shove in any fingers without clear signals and don’t cum anywhere she doesn’t want you to

- there’s really no point in tipping, but never fuck around with the fee -say you don’t have the money etc

- wash your butt

 

[Gntlmn1]

Much the same, but specifically,
- I never reveal my handle from a board but note that lots of others do.
- always, always, always walk away from a bait-and-switch. Some people stay thinking it wont be too bad, and for some they are right, but the bottom line is you are dealing with a scammer and she should never be rewarded for that. Just walk away.
- tipping, a small gift or gesture beforehand is always appropriate to establish a connection. Tipping afterwards may or may not be appropriate depending on the session.
- I prefer dinner dates after a session, not before. If there is no chemistry in a dinner date before a session it will impact the session. It the session goes well then the diner date after all the sexual energy has been defused can be very relaxing and enjoyable.

 

[Gntlmn1]

...and it goes without saying, but - never stick your dick in crazy!

 

[Ogremagi]

1. Never hobby while in a relationship.

2. Take SP’s restriction/mileage preference one step further (if they don’t sw I won’t bother doing CIM, if they only lfk and not dfk I won’t bother trying to kiss)

3. Never do screening except those where I can provide a reference.

4. Never be late and never overstay.

 

[Soccersweeper]

Rule #1- If you have a wife and/or kids and your a hobbyist always remember that they come first and the sp your seeing comes second. If you have to cancel an appointment due to a family emergency so be it and dont feel guilty about it regardless of what the sp thinks of you or how she might make you feel.

Rule#2- Lower your expectations. Many of the SP's do a great job of marketing themselves with pics, website, and bio's. They play to a man's desires and fantasies. If you have been hobbying long enough you will realize that no SP you see will ever be able to live up to the expectation and fantasy you have conjured up in your head before meeting them because most of the time there not realistic which is why so many hobbyist are dissapointed with sp's and there looks and services.

Rule #3- Discretion, Discretion, Discretion. Thats goes for both hobbyist and sp. Do not provide any information you are uncomfortable with regardless of how tempted you are to see an SP or what a client is willing to offer you. This becomes 10x more important if you have a SO and have a family life.

Rule #4- Respect. SP's and clients are all human beings after all. The golden rule of treat others how you want to be treated is paramount for everyone involved in this hobby.

Rule#5- This one is for the gents. If you really enjoyed your time with a particular sp be a gentlemen and tip her or give her some sort of gift. It doesnt have to be extravagant. You have no idea how a small gesture as tipping an sp a few extra bucks at the end of a session will make her day. Think of it as a good deed.

I've been surprised how often when I see someone the first time and leave a tip in the envelope and she is surprised to see it, even once saying "you left too much." I just assume tipping is to be expected.

I always avoid deposits.

I have been fortunate that the few times she was running late or had to reschedule that' it's been handled well and even seemed to make the next session even better.

 

[Soccersweeper]

Rules are for breaking.

Not these ones. Not unless you enjoy adverse consequences. This isn't the S&M you want

 

[GeeBee]

Always think with the big head
Be prepared to walk
Use your spidey sense
Discretion is always the most important thing.

 

[IM469]

1) Remember that you start as a customer and she is only with you because you are a customer.
2) She will say and do anything to keep you as a customer.
3) If anything occurs that leads you to think a relationship is in the future - go back to rule 1)

 

[massman]

1. Always keep a few degrees of separation between hobby life and real life.
2. If you get even a whiff of trafficked / underage girl from ads / texts/ conversation, don’t walk, run away.
3. Decide on your limits re privacy, discretion, safety, budget ahead of time, and never compromise your own limits, no matter how horny.
4. Be on time, polite kind, courteous, pay on arrival, be clean, and shower if available/ offered. These are not just for the SPs benefit, it’s the key to starting off on the right foot, leading to a much better session.

 

[superman12]

1. Never hobby while in a relationship.

2. Take SP’s restriction/mileage preference one step further (if they don’t sw I won’t bother doing CIM, if they only lfk and not dfk I won’t bother trying to kiss)

3. Never do screening except those where I can provide a reference.

4. Never be late and never overstay.

Looks like i haven't been following rule#1 all that well whatsoever. Out of curiosity, why would you be against seeing an sp while in a relationship? Is it just because of safety reasons and the fear of catching something from the sp and then passing it on to your SO?

 

[Sonic Temple]

We have everything here on this thread - this can be closed now . Great information - for me which as been stated - respect, communication and hygiene goes a long way - and always remember to have a great time with each other - laugh - joke and honour each others boundaries.

 

[MuffDiver]

Never send a deposit of any type.
Never reveal my identity.
Must not smoke or use drugs (tough to prove, but I ask at least).
No party girls.
Only visit upscale hotels or condos - will not go to seedy motels or areas.

Prefer to not divulge my TERB ID.
Prefer no tattoos.
Prefer a natural body.

Some other things should go without saying, such as be respectful, be on time, pay the fee, arrive showered, clean, fresh breath and smelling good. Shower again upon arrival.
Do not deal with any underaged women in any way.
Be covered during the main act.

 

[Ogremagi]

Looks like i haven't been following rule#1 all that well whatsoever. Out of curiosity, why would you be against seeing an sp while in a relationship? Is it just because of safety reasons and the fear of catching something from the sp and then passing it on to your SO?

No judgment on those who do but I would never want to cheat on my SO. In the future I want to settle in a monogamous relationship.

The dating scene sucks right now though so here I am lol.

 

[rhuarc29]

NEVER use my main phone
NEVER use my real name
NEVER send anything that may compromise my identity (I understand why some ladies require it, but I can't do it)
NEVER send a deposit (I don't trust a lady I've not met, and once I have, she trusts me so it's no longer required)

On rare occasions I'll meet an escort for the first time for a social date in order to circumnavigate the above NEVERs, but only if she's highly reviewed and therefore more likely to be a long-term proposition.