Romance vs Fidelity?

[Love Technician]

Just wondering what some of you think about this...I recently had a discussion with a good guy friend of mine about relationships and love. My friend voiced his frustration with woman, saying that most would prefer a man who wines and dines them and most likely cheats, versus a guy who is a home-body and unromantic but will be very faithfull. Now, I ask why it has to one or the other? I would like to think that there could be a happy medium. Are the "Romeo" types more likely to cheat? Also, what's the point of having someone be totally faithful if there won't be any romance? Enquiring minds want to know!

 

[Jennifer_]

I'd take faithful over "wine and dine" any day.

Romance is the little things - not extravagent flashes of money or grand gestures attempting to prove something to me.

Romance is being there when I need him and comming home to me every night.

Perhaps the "biz" has tainted me but I don't trust guys who play the wine and dine game.....it feels as though they are trying to obscure a woman's vision of something that is lacking.

 

[Don]

Just wondering what some of you think about this...I recently had a discussion with a good guy friend of mine about relationships and love. My friend voiced his frustration with woman, saying that most would prefer a man who wines and dines them and most likely cheats, versus a guy who is a home-body and unromantic but will be very faithfull. Now, I ask why it has to one or the other? I would like to think that there could be a happy medium. Are the "Romeo" types more likely to cheat? Also, what's the point of having someone be totally faithful if there won't be any romance? Enquiring minds want to know!

Yes "Romeo types" are more likely to cheat. Simply because they have more opportunities... more temptations than your average guy. Also "Romeo types" obviously learned how to wine and dine via experience - they got that way by dating many women.

All these "looking for romance" and "women are superficial" type thread amuse me. My current GF reads these "women's magazines" and in women's forums it's the same thing - "men are superficial, they only look at what's on the outside and not what is inside, they only want the hot chick and don't care if she's a heartbreaker, men don't want the regular gal, etc....."

Basically the average guy wants the hot chick and is frustrated. The average girl wants the hot guy and is frustrated. Both the hot chick and hot guy have more attention and thus more prone to being "less faithful" or less apt to settle(total generalization).

Now with that said my experience has seen that men overall are less faithful than women. I know many couples and in the couples where both the guy and girl are both considered attractive, it is the guy that more often than not tends to have more of a "wandering eye" while the girl is more into an exclusive relatonship.

 

[to-guy69]

It also depends on the woman. . .how old she is, what stage of her life she is in and what she values.

 

[pool]

romance and "Hi Fidelity" are synonymous