reasonable wedding gift.

[simon482]

i got a friend that is getting married. we used to be very close friends but over the last few years we haven't really spoken to much other then random ball busting comments on facebook. so his wedding is next week and i suppose i have to go, even though i would rather not. i have a lot of upgrades and perks to unlock on modern warfare 2.

so anyway what is a reasonable wedding gift. 100$, 200$, 300$ ? i am thinking 100$ if it was an open bar i would give 200$ but it ain't and i know the place he is doing it. buffet style dinner, so price per person is about 15$ and he is doing it on a thursday.

input would be appreciated.

EDIT: just figured i would put in that i am going alone, no guest.

 

[1HandInMyPocket]

i would lean towards $200 ($300 if you feeling more generous), because you were close. I'm not sure why you drifted apart, but if you give $100 it probably won't get you two closer again.

 

[burt-oh-my!]

LOL, $100 seems to be ABSOLUTE MAX to me, I'd be looking at $50 to be honest.

 

[Tokyo Heights]

Minimum $ 100, you are good old pals! Dont be miser and how did you found out that the dinner your friend is giving is just $15 per head?
These day's with dam Premier of Ontario's HST he has killed our economy and put everyone for hard times! Due to which liberals would surely loose Ontario in their next elections! People are not going to vote for a party who have made things financially very tight for every house-hold!

 

[simon482]

Minimum $ 100, you are good old pals! Dont be miser and how did you found out that the dinner your friend is giving is just $15 per head?
These day's with dam Premier of Ontario's HST he has killed our economy and put everyone for hard times! Due to which liberals would surely loose Ontario in their next elections! People are not going to vote for a party who have made things financially very tight for every house-hold!

he is doing it at a legion. my brother got married at a legion and i went with him when he found a out a few things. i am just assuming that all legions are the same price within 5$ either way.

 

[simon482]

i would lean towards $200 ($300 if you feeling more generous), because you were close. I'm not sure why you drifted apart, but if you give $100 it probably won't get you two closer again.

we drifted apart cuz i have become a hermit over the last few years and it is damn near impossible to get me to go outside for anything other then work.

 

[simon482]

Notice my input above ^ ...LOL . I have yet to know of any reception where they offer $15.00 a plate even for the buffet or because its an off day . That being said ... $100 should be fine especially if your bringing a guest if it is only $ 15.00 a plate . Hope you enjoy my corrections ... Misty

the legion my brother was doing his at was 18$ a person, so i just rounded to 15$ a person. i am not bringing a guest though. it is just me, i guess i should have put that in the original post.

 

[Timbit]

If you don't want to go, don't - after all you've obviously got important things to do like play video games and hang out in escort chat rooms. Wow - being social might cramp your style, I'm sure. If you don't go - send him a note and a cheque for $100. If you do decide to get off the couch and talk with real people, bring him a note and a cheque for $200.

Timbit

And while this was meant to be sarcastic, I'm frankly a little worried for you if you were being serious that you'd rather play Modern Warfare 2.

 

[Ref]

he is doing it on a thursday.

EDIT: just figured i would put in that i am going alone, no guest.

I'm usually free on Thursdays and like to go to weddings

 

[simon482]

I'm usually free on Thursdays and like to go to weddings

can you go to this one for me ? lol.

 

[simon482]

If you don't want to go, don't - after all you've obviously got important things to do like play video games and hang out in escort chat rooms. Wow - being social might cramp your style, I'm sure. If you don't go - send him a note and a cheque for $100. If you do decide to get off the couch and talk with real people, bring him a note and a cheque for $200.

Timbit

And while this was meant to be sarcastic, I'm frankly a little worried for you if you were being serious that you'd rather play Modern Warfare 2.

i will probably just go for the wedding, stay for the reception till the toasts and dinner are over then i am out.

 

[Bif_Butkiss]

WOW... I was best man at a wedding a few years ago and with the cost of the Tux their wedding cost me $600... Boy do I feel ripped off! LOL

 

[simon482]

WOW... I was best man at a wedding a few years ago and with the cost of the Tux their wedding cost me $600... Boy do I feel ripped off! LOL

yeah my brothers was the same, i was all in at 5 and change. my friend asked me to be in his wedding party i said no lol.

 

[gdurham]

dude, is he your friend or what? don't cheap out if he is a friend. christ I would wirte a cheque for $100 even if I didn't go to the wedding. anyone who is having thier wedding at a legion needs a few bucks.

 

[Bif_Butkiss]

I was just joking... I think it's an honour to be asked to be in the wedding party and especially asked to be best man. We've been best friends for well over 30 years and he's more of a brother to me than "just" a best friend. I'd do it again in a second if he asked me to.

 

[koreanenvy]

IMO the location of the wedding should have no bearing on your gift. Good friend (maybe not very close), going stag, I'd do $150. But $100 is ok too.

 

[simon482]

more the not said 100$ so that is what i am going with. thanks everyone.

 

[night ride]

Just write him a cheque for $500 and forget to deposit the funds. It will only cost you $35 NSF fee that way lol. Show up to the wedding, get pissed, make a pass at the bride and the minister's wife. (I wonder what people do when a wedding cheque bounces??)

 

[Timbit]

Likely I am too late to provide any useful input but I will post anyways - why not gift card it someplace common like Wal Mart, Sears, etc. You put $100 on variable type of card that does not show the amount. Chances are they will get a few of these and when they are doing the thank you notes all you will get is thanks for the gift card. Then weeks/months later they will dig it out and use it along with a bunch of others - and have absolutely no idea how much you spent on them.

If you're going to do that, why not just put $10 on it?

Timbit

 

[Malibook]

I generally give $100 more than the cost of the reception which typically means $200 but I have given up to $250 for myself.

I have never heard of a wedding without an open bar.
That just seems totally ridiculous to me.
I would have it at home or somewhere I can bring the booze before I would allow my guests to be paying for drinks.