Quick screening question

[CamillaBR]

Do you guys see a problem at proving your Terb usernames before the encounter?

I've met people before that one of the first things they did was to say "Hi, my name is xxxxxx and I'm xxxxx on terb/lyla". Today, for the second time, someone who mentioned that is an active Terb member refused to provide his username when asked. I honestly thought that asking your Terb/Lyla username was an alright thing to ask?

 

[solo223]

i don't see a problem to it...i would give it to you if you asked. The only reason i see for not giving it is risking to get a bad rap for different reasons (no shows, lack of manners etc...)

 

[asuran]

The only people that have a problem with it possibly have something to hide. Or they've said horrible things on here.
Other than that no reason it's a problem.

I usually will send them a pm or they'll send me one to verify.

 

[cheektocheek]

I don't see a problem but what if the person is not on terb then what do you do not see him

 

[ClooneyII]

I usually offer mine.

 

[Capital Amatuer]

I think the idea of a user name on a bulletin forum provides a degree of anonymity and removes all inhibitions to comment either positively or negatively without recourse. The idea of anonymity should generate greater free-thinking. Connecting a user name to a real name (real-life meet) could create some self-censorship. I may or may not reveal both identities, but it heavily depends on the person/situation.
On the other hand, I respect the need for greater security on behalf of the ladies.
My inclination, for the most part, is not to share both identities simultaneously.

 

[Ryan1967]

The only people that have a problem with it possibly have something to hide. Or they've said horrible things on here.
Other than that no reason it's a problem.

I usually will send them a pm or they'll send me one to verify.

That is a bit of a sweeping generalization..I know several well respected hobbyists on this board that keep their online persona private when they see providers. Perhaps they don't want the providers looking at reviews of other providers they have seen...Seriously there are many reasons why you might want to keep your online persona private...perhaps something to hide is one of them...but please don't think that is the only reason.

 

[Jabba]

That is a bit of a sweeping generalization..I know several well respected hobbyists on this board that keep their online persona private when they see providers. Perhaps they don't want the providers looking at reviews of other providers they have seen...Seriously there are many reasons why you might want to keep your online persona private...perhaps something to hide is one of them...but please don't think that is the only reason.

Agreed - I prefer to remain "nameless" because foreknowledge that I'm a member of a review community might prompt the SP to alter their service to curry a favourable review (I only do safe practices btw). If I have a positive experience & extol the wonderfulness of the experience, then another member sees said SP & has a totally opposite & negative experience - what does that do for my reputation?

Anyway, if I repeat with a provider, I usually give out my Terb name. Sometimes I don't. Sometimes I give a review, other times I don't - just because. I'm a flake that way. I don't consider my Terb name to be a badge of honour or proof of goodness. I just use it as I see fit and when I feel like it. I guess I've been around long enough to have some kind of "Brand Recognition" but just because I've been here a long time doesn't automatically make me a good guy and acceptable risk. General thought - I wouldn't say that I'm a member and then just leave the SP hanging; that's kinda' spooky. Now, where was I going with this?

Oh yeah - the OP's question was if it was ok to ask. I would say sure, ask away, but not everyone will feel obliged to share. Strictly from my POV, it depends on the Vibe I get from the SP. If I feel the SP is high volume, a B&S or pimped-up or a crack-head, or just a general pain in the ass to deal with - well for sure I won't give it out. On the other hand, if initial contact impressions were good but the encounter went really darkly south, I want some separation between my review and when I saw the SP/MA. I don't want to risk the SP to associate my face with my Terb personality and start to stalk me.

Did that make sense?

 

[OnTheWayOut]

I don't usually give my Terb handle but my reviews usually tell the provider who I am. As with others, each situation is different and I have given it on first visit at times for various reasons. I just don't make a habit of doing that.

 

[GPIDEAL]

The only people that have a problem with it possibly have something to hide. Or they've said horrible things on here.
Other than that no reason it's a problem.

I usually will send them a pm or they'll send me one to verify.

I remember the days when others would accuse one of shilling or influencing a session because they give their handles to the ladies they see and subsequently review.

Some argued you shouldn't so that your review will be objective and without any influence.

Personally myself, I don't see a problem at all.

 

[GPIDEAL]

That is a bit of a sweeping generalization..I know several well respected hobbyists on this board that keep their online persona private when they see providers. Perhaps they don't want the providers looking at reviews of other providers they have seen...Seriously there are many reasons why you might want to keep your online persona private...perhaps something to hide is one of them...but please don't think that is the only reason.

That's another good reason. So that their different worlds don't collide, so to speak.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Agreed - I prefer to remain "nameless" because foreknowledge that I'm a member of a review community might prompt the SP to alter their service to curry a favourable review (I only do safe practices btw). If I have a positive experience & extol the wonderfulness of the experience, then another member sees said SP & has a totally opposite & negative experience - what does that do for my reputation?

Anyway, if I repeat with a provider, I usually give out my Terb name. Sometimes I don't. Sometimes I give a review, other times I don't - just because. I'm a flake that way. I don't consider my Terb name to be a badge of honour or proof of goodness. I just use it as I see fit and when I feel like it. I guess I've been around long enough to have some kind of "Brand Recognition" but just because I've been here a long time doesn't automatically make me a good guy and acceptable risk. General thought - I wouldn't say that I'm a member and then just leave the SP hanging; that's kinda' spooky. Now, where was I going with this?

Oh yeah - the OP's question was if it was ok to ask. I would say sure, ask away, but not everyone will feel obliged to share. Strictly from my POV, it depends on the Vibe I get from the SP. If I feel the SP is high volume, a B&S or pimped-up or a crack-head, or just a general pain in the ass to deal with - well for sure I won't give it out. On the other hand, if initial contact impressions were good but the encounter went really darkly south, I want some separation between my review and when I saw the SP/MA. I don't want to risk the SP to associate my face with my Terb personality and start to stalk me.

Did that make sense?

I really wonder about your first reason. If you're honest and don't abuse the privilege, it shouldn't make a difference. You're not a paid SP critic writing for Hustler Magazine. YMMV. Nobody's experience will be exactly the same as yours. This is not all about proving your reputation or appearing to be objective. This is about networking and possibly establishing an online presence and rapport with the ladies, to hopefully help you choose or connect with SPs that you like for a better experience. Having a Terb handle may not be a badge of honour, but maybe membership has its privileges.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Same here, I've never offered my Terb name when booking with a provider. Most don't even know that I'm on any forums. Eventually they may guess it's me. I think sometimes people brag about their forum names to get some extra privileges or something. I prefer to get those extra privileges on my own. LOL!

I usually establish a rapport online so knowing it's me, provides a sense of continuity, familiarity and comfort. It's not to get any sort of extra perks.

 

[asuran]

I usually establish a rapport online so knowing it's me, provides a sense of continuity, familiarity and comfort. It's not to get any sort of extra perks.

True, it create a sense of comfort rather than the particular SP will provide extra special service. The fact is, if both parties are more comfortable with one another the session will generally be better. That is all. It is due to your openness and ability to share thoughts.

Heck, we choose SP due to what we read on here. Why not let the SP choose us from what they read here. Two-way street. We take and we give back. It's only an online handle which we use in this community for BOTH hobbyist and provider.

Sometimes shady people, do shady things. Not always, but you get my drift.

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?593514-Always-trust-your-gut&p=5779053

 

[CamillaBR]

I read everyone's comment, I have a few issues with this, I will try to explain:

1) The only two persons who denied to provide their Terb usernames were the ones to mention forums in the first place. So they message me, make it clear that they are Terb users and then, back off when I ask them what their usernames are. If you don't feel comfortable mentioning your username, why bother bringing it up? Doesn't make sense to me.

2) As I read a few of your comments, this one caught my attention "Perhaps they don't want the providers looking at reviews of other providers they have seen...". If I'm talking to a client and I'm provided a Terb username, I will check the profile for a few things:
- If there will be compatibility. You can tell a lot about what a person is looking for in an SP by the reviews. If I see that I'm not the type for you, I will let you know and move on.
- I will also check reviews/comments to see if the user ever saw an SP that provides non safe services. If I see this type of "behaviour", I will also decline the visit.
- I find it "unfair" that you guys can read X number of reviews of X number of girls and have a sense of who they are/what they provide. It is quite hard, as an SP, to get to meet your client before actually meeting him. So checking Terb really really helps to get a sense of who you are about to see.
- I don't always check Terb, if I'm provided an username. Example, first time that daveb1 messaged me, he provided me with his user, I didn't check his profile because I thought was already very thoughtful of him to provide me with his user without the need to ask.
Most of users I've met will provide the username without problems.

3) I don't see how this would affect privacy. I know one or two users who I refuse to meet because of a few things that happened (not from stuff I read here, mind you) and I have not disclosed their usernames.

4) I think if you are going to write a review, it is always good to let the SP know your username before - or after the session, if you are worried she will provide better service for a better review. By reading a few review here, I think it's pretty clear that mentioning your username prior to any "action" wouldn't make the experience any better.

u/asuran's last comment is 100% right. If this profession has taught me anything is: trust your damn guts. They are never wrong.

Providing your Terb username is not the perfect screening, cuz not every Terbittor (is that the term? I'm used to Reddit lol) is a good guy, but it does help to bring some sense of "comfort" to us, SPs.

 

[Jabba]

I really wonder about your first reason. If you're honest and don't abuse the privilege, it shouldn't make a difference. You're not a paid SP critic writing for Hustler Magazine. YMMV. Nobody's experience will be exactly the same as yours. This is not all about proving your reputation or appearing to be objective. This is about networking and possibly establishing an online presence and rapport with the ladies, to hopefully help you choose or connect with SPs that you like for a better experience. Having a Terb handle may not be a badge of honour, but maybe membership has its privileges.

I guess it's fair to say we have different objectives.
I was just saying I don't want the possibility of prejudice to creep into the experience and colour my review. That was it... nothing fancy. Hope that clears things up.
Nothing involving honesty or abusing privilege - TBH you kind of lost me on that point.

 

[withpassion]

It is the typical thing out here...some feel comfortable and some don't. It seems that ones that do, feel there is something wrong with those that don't. It is not the case the other way around.

Everyone has to do what they are comfortable with. Period!

 

[out4fun]

I prefer to remain anonymous. In the lounge, we can sometimes chime in with personal bits of "anonymous" information and although nothing comes to mind, I prefer not to have to wonder what I said that could connect me in someone's mind to anything in my real world.
I don't come on here to trash people or to troll - but I like the freedom of being anonymous.

 

[asuran]

It is not the case the other way around.

Says the ones that say those that give out handles gets special treatments for so called positive/shill reviews.
It goes both ways!

 

[withpassion]

Says the ones that say those that give out handles gets special treatments for so called positive/shill reviews.
It goes both ways!

What??? I meant that those that give out their handle seem to be less forgiving of those that do not, while those that do not give out their handle, don't really care if others do.

And WTF are you implying???