Question

[Annessa]

Hello,



I've been coming out here for over a year now and I think this forums 'topic' is handled with little discretion and maturity, so I've been reluctant to make any communication. Although there has always been things I was curious about.

I believe everyone has a right to voice their opinion HOWEVER when you are talking about a SP rather intimatly & graphically you take away from them something that some of us hold dear, PRIVACY.

The time I spend with my clients is nobodies business, I give them the same respect & discretion that I want.
I do take my job seriously and I do genuinely want people to enjoy themselves, However I should not come across my life splattered publicly.
If I wanted my life documented then I would write an autobiography.

This job is not a 'career move' but a 'stepping stone' that someday I would like to forget.


QUESTIONS

1. What is it that a client looks for in a lady? (will not use SP, tacky)

2. Does it vary on whether you want a 'quick fix' or spend a few hours?

3. Do you care to 'click' or try to 'click' with the person you are with? (Personality clicking CAN make or break your time spent with the person.)

4. Do you see ladies so you can 'rate' them & Do you rate everyone you see?

5. Do you tell the person that you discuss your experiences?

6. If the lady asked you to NOT say anything would you?

7. What is your idea of a good time spent with a lady?



Thanks

A

 

[Fred Zed]

Hello,
If I wanted my life documented then I would write an autobiography.
A

Most reviews deal with the service component of your 'job'.
Reviewers and clients here are not interested in your personal
information, just the service component which they are paying for.
So I don't understand how a review can be described as a "biography."

 

[papasmerf]

Hello,



I've been coming out here for over a year now and I think this forums 'topic' is handled with little discretion and maturity, so I've been reluctant to make any communication. Although there has always been things I was curious about.

I believe everyone has a right to voice their opinion HOWEVER when you are talking about a SP rather intimatly & graphically you take away from them something that some of us hold dear, PRIVACY.

The time I spend with my clients is nobodies business, I give them the same respect & discretion that I want.
I do take my job seriously and I do genuinely want people to enjoy themselves, However I should not come across my life splattered publicly.
If I wanted my life documented then I would write an autobiography.

This job is not a 'career move' but a 'stepping stone' that someday I would like to forget.


QUESTIONS

1. What is it that a client looks for in a lady? (will not use SP, tacky)

2. Does it vary on whether you want a 'quick fix' or spend a few hours?

3. Do you care to 'click' or try to 'click' with the person you are with? (Personality clicking CAN make or break your time spent with the person.)

4. Do you see ladies so you can 'rate' them & Do you rate everyone you see?

5. Do you tell the person that you discuss your experiences?

6. If the lady asked you to NOT say anything would you?

7. What is your idea of a good time spent with a lady?



Thanks

A

Way too many words and questions. Men tend to be far less wordy.

In a nut shell men like and want to feel comfortable.

 

[Annessa]

Re: Re: Question

In a nut shell men like and want to feel comfortable.

Thanks for the feedback.



A

 

[The Fruity Hare]

Also as they say 'different strokes for different folks'

Each of those questions can have a number of responses, there is a large variety of tastes out there.

 

[TongueBoy]

This is from my perspective only:

1 - The GFE most definately applies when looking for qualities in a lady. Looks vary for sure, but the base qualities must remain the same.

2 - It varies between an hour and 2 hours.

3 - Clicking is very important for me. Without it, "it" just doesn't work.

4 - I have rated no one nor will I ever rate anyone.

7 - It depends actually. If it were a one hour meeting, then it would be very cozy and relaxing. More personal. For multiple hours, always nice to go out and have dinner or something. More social. Not always the case but still an option.

--Tongue

 

[Annessa]

Also as they say 'different strokes for different folks'

Each of those questions can have a number of responses, there is a large variety of tastes out there.

Thats so very true. Thats why personalities clicking is so important to a good time. If there is no click there is no intrest.

Sometimes people mistake a bad call as something wrong with the girl but we're not machines and it's IMPOSSIBLE to connect with every single client.

It's difficult mastering the art of being a chameleon.



A

 

[Electroguy]

Another opinion:

1. GFE - and I don't mean "does everything." I mean "will act like a girlfriend: seems genuinely glad to see me, wants to have a good time together (not me alone, not her alone), wants to kiss and cuddle, no rush, etc." Sometimes, we have exchanged 'rules of engagement' so that we both know what to expect, and what our boundaries are (for instance, I don't speak a certain southern European language). I try for open communication.

2. I never want a 'quick fix'; I have always booked for two hours minimum (longest was a five-day vacation with a lady) (did that only after I became a 'regular').

3. Yes, I hope to 'click' with the lady. If we are comfortable with each other, we will both have a better time than if one of us is either indifferent to, or not at all interested in, the other.

4. I do not see ladies so I can rate them, and I have not rated everyone that I have seen (one lady in particular was disappointing, to say the least, because she answered her cell phone (friends were calling) more than once while we were trying to enjoy ourselves, and she chatted for far too long ("oh, hi, how are you doing, haven't talked to you in a while"), rather than to say that she was busy right then). Despite my disappointment, I did not write a review. If you are curious, the lady was not from Toronto.

5. I do not discuss my experiences. A lady does not tell me about her experiences, and I don't tell her about mine.

6. I have had a lady ask me not to, and I have respected her wishes. For others, I have written reviews that I first shared with the lady to ask if she wished to change anything. Obviously, the reviews were positive, and no changes were requested (because I chose not to be explicit).

7. I enjoy conversation as well as intimacy. My time with ladies has included dinner together, a movie, a play or show, long walks, shopping (all part of weekend visits), and, as I mentioned above, a multi-day vacation, with visits to museums and other attractions.

Electroguy

 

[Annessa]

Great feedback guys!


From what I have seen/read out here for the last year worried me enough to do monthly searches on myself but never try and communicate.


It's nice to hear from the normal people.



A.

 

[notdedyet]

It's nice to hear from the normal people.

I don't know if I qualify as "normal"
- more like "picky".

QUESTIONS

1. I look for an attractive Asian between 20 and 40 that seems to like me.

2. No variance. I can do my own 'quick fix'.

3. We MUST seem to click - see #1. An excellent actress is OK.

4. I would never see a lady just to 'rate' her, or even to compare my experience with a 'rating'.

5. I would likely discuss my experience on a 'general' level with one particular friend, but not publicly unless it was especially bad. And then I would not identify the other party, just let it be known that a particular bad experience is possible.
From the point of view of this board that may be unfair, but I don't want to be involved in making someone's life (more) miserable.

6. The opposite. If the lady asked me to review her, then I would. Otherwise no.

7. Hmmm. Easy answers are so... I want to leave feeling good about myself.
I want to feel the lady enjoyed the time she spent with me.

 

[twinkle]

Re: Re: Question

Most reviews deal with the service component of your 'job'.
Reviewers and clients here are not interested in your personal
information, just the service component which they are paying for.
So I don't understand how a review can be described as a "biography."

When a review/post includes intimate details of a ladys life such as (BTW all of which I have personally read in my and other ladies reviews on numerous different occasions).......

for example......
*how many children she has
*where exactly she is vacationing
*what EXACT other employment she may have
*what exactly she is taking in school
*where she was seen eating dinner/shopping,etc
*etc, etc, etc

*****That is a BIOGRAPGHY!!!!!

Those things have absoultely nothing to do with the 'service component of our job'.

Correct me if I am wrong Annessa ,...... I think those are some of the things she is referring to.

HELLO.....Annessa I like many other ladies, can understand
and relate to your points and statements.
When I first read my reviews on this board (even though they were 'positive') I too was shocked, stunned and amazed at the lack of discretion and the amount of unnecessary personal info that was splattered for all eyes to see by some clients. Men that I had thought I had privatetly shared info with, and I considered to be 'friends'. I kind of felt a little betrayed (even if it was not intentional) because I go above and beyond and to great lengths to protect my clients privacy, and they did not even 'think' to extend me the same courtesy.

BTW I have discovered there are a few normal and sweet guys on this board (but just like in everyday life....the idiots just tend to be some of the loudest members LOL) who are mature enough to understand and respect that discretion is something that the ladies in this biz value as well, and deserve.

Take Care Annessa!

 

[zog]

Good Questions

QUESTIONS

Welcome to active participation on TERB.

As others have stated, everyone is different. But since you took the time to ask sincere questions, I will give you my take on the answers.

1. What is it that a client looks for in a lady?

Personally, I want the woman to be attractive to me. I also want to feel comfortable with her, which (for me) means a not-too agressive personality and a relaxed, not-mechanical approach.

2. Does it vary on whether you want a 'quick fix' or spend a few hours?

Yes. There are times when I want a brief casual encounter and others when I want a longer (usually repeat) session. Some SPs are better for the hot and casual style while others are more suited to longer slower encounters.

3. Do you care to 'click' or try to 'click' with the person you are with?

Usually yes. I find that having a mutual respect and appreciation makes the encounter much more personal and more enjoyable. When I see an SP, I want to do more than get-off physically. I want to be left feeling good emotionally as well as physically; a positive connection with the provider makes this much more likely to result.

4. Do you see ladies so you can 'rate' them & Do you rate everyone you see?

I don't see SPs for the purpose of rating them; that would be rather creepy!

However, when I first started in this hobby, I found that at least 50% of my encounters were not up to my expectations. When I discovered review boards I was able to cut down on the less satisfying encounters considerably. This is not necessarily because many SPs give poor service, but rather because tastes vary greatly across providers and clients. By reading reviews, I am able to make a much more informed decision and am, therefore, less likely to be disappointed. I know that many other TERB members feel the same way.

Of course, this is only an effective forum for information if members make contributions (in the form of reviews and feedback) as well as reading the reviews of others. It seems only fair for me to share my experiences with this board, especially since I have benefitted from te reviews of others myself.

So, though posting a review is not my purpose for seeing an SP, I do feel it is appropriate to provide one, especially if the woman in question has not received a lot of coverage on this board in the past.

5. Do you tell the person that you discuss your experiences?

No. I rarely discuss TERB with any provider. Of course there are a few SPs, Dancers, etc. that I have met through TERB (or at a TERB party) and so, with them, TERB sometimes comes up in conversation. Also, if the woman raises the question, I will be honest in my response; I don't feel the need to lie in these situations.

I think that the key to this question, however, is the word "experiences". While I certainly do post accounts of my encounters, they are (as Fred stated above) reviews of the service and not of the individual. I only post information that is relevant to the service (like looks, attitude, general background as it relates to appearance or communication skills). You can usually tell when an SP has confided personal information as opposed to sharing non-personal facts. My reviews never include any reference to the former category of information.

6. If the lady asked you to NOT say anything would you?

Honestly, that depends. Usually (see my answer above) reviews are not mentioned at all during my SP encounters. However, sometimes the topic has come up and, on occasion, I have been asked not to post a review of a particular aspect of the encounter or of the encounter as a whole.

I will usually comply with such a request. The only time I won't, is if there was some significant problem with the SP or the service provided that would be an important warning to other members. If the encounter was a blatant Bait and Switch, the provider (or agency) lied significantly in their description or rate structure, or if there appear to be significant hygeine or health issues, I will post a review on this board to try to help others avoid the same disappointment.

If there are no significant problems but the SP still wishes not to be reviewed (it has only happened rarely with me), I feel it is fair to respect their wishes and I do.

7. What is your idea of a good time spent with a lady?

Ha! I'm sorry but this one is far too complicated a question to answer as part of (or even as a single separate) post. If I could answer this ione in a couple of sentences, I would probably not need to hobby...the fact is that there are many things that I look for and not all every time. Variety can be the spice of life, after all!

Zog.

 

[The Fruity Hare]

Well thought out answers, Zog.

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

athough i usually don't like to play devils advocate. i will this time
annessa can you please tell me how you plan to put this behind you and move on with your life after publicly airing your own words on the internet. sorry to burst your bubble... but as life has taught us many times, when it goes on the web it can bite you in ass when you least want it too..and although you would wish that it would just die when you leave.. your words and actions during this period are still floating around in hyper space. its so easy to talk freely on this board and in pm's, because people believe that you're hiding behind a safe wall of aninimity.. but you never know what happens to a post.. so if discretion is what you want be careful hon and be cautious.. really not tryin to scare anyone here just a valid point!

 

[Packard]

Re: Answer

1. What is it that a client looks for in a lady? (will not use SP, tacky) [/B]

A lady can still be a lady but on this board she is a SP. Because she is providing a service. Period.
I look for discretion, cleanliness, a degree of beauty and a great attitude. A lady (SP) does not have to be a porn star, but sexy & attractive with all the above helps.

 

[xarir]

This job is not a 'career move' but a 'stepping stone' that someday I would like to forget.

If that's true, then perhaps you should consider exiting the business sooner rather than later. You already know that it's not easy being an escort. The last thing you'd want is for the job to burn you out and leave you with strong, negative impressions of the carnal nature of mankind (and womankind).

I think most TERBites hobby because they enjoy it. On the flip side, I think most of the ladies here are escorts because they too enjoy it. But if you're already looking to forget this phase of your life, then perhaps you might just want to move on and get away from it entirely before something Bad happens.

IMHO. No disrespect intended.

 

[TFG5]

my answer

1) Girl next door looks, naturally curvy, friendly, down to earth attitude.

2) I wouldnt enjoy a quick fix, I can get myself off just fine and dont enjoy just using people, Im always looking for a fun pleasant human experience to give me a boost. Yea maybe Im a bit drippy.

3) Would much rather click with the girl. Made a mistake in booking a dinner date with an SP that I didnt know through an agency I trust. Girl was more interested in talking about shopping. If it wast my only night in TO would have just sent her home.

4) Dont see ladies to rate them, actually havent posted a review in awhile b/c the ladies/agencies dont want them and am confident they would be taken down pronto by the board moderators. This is respectful for the ladies but can limit the effectiveness of terb. I would try not to post personal life info and would limit service details just out of personal preference.

5) I dont tell them but sure I might discuss a bit with a friend or post a review but I dont make a big deal out of it and call all the relatives.

6) I wouldnt post a review but I doubt we travel in the same social circles.

7) Fun, entertaining, friendly, a few laughs, maybe you even like me a bit and I like you. I want her to make me feel special, if she can do that it was a worth while time.