I have a question but a little background is needed first.
The other day I read a blog entry by an SP who discussed the emotional pain unintentionally caused by a friend's passing comment. The next day, in a conversation with a MPA, I was again made aware of the unintended hurt caused by the casual comments and behaviour of clients. In both cases, the people who made the remarks were not intending to be hurtful. The clients
simply made off-handed statements that echoed society's larger contempt for those who participate in adult industries.
It surprised me a little when the MPA I was talking with said it is often the "respectful" clients that are the most hurtful. According to the MPA, and to my surprise, the most emotional pain is cause by otherwise respectful clients who unintentionally say or do something to indicate that the MPA is somehow an inferior human being simply because she worked in the adult industry.
I am a little confused by this point of view because my perception has always been that, in general, society frowns on all participants in the adult industry, both clients and workers. To me when a client feels superior to a sex trade worker or when a worker disrespects a client, it seems like a case of the kettle calling the pot black. I have always thought that most people involved in this hobby, both clients and workers, do so for very personal reasons and I would have expected that people associated with this industry are less likely to judge others. But clearly both the clients and the workers are judging each other. Perhaps it's just human nature that some people will always try to find reasons to believe that they are superior to others. I don't know, which brings me to my question, actually two questions.
Is it common for SP/MPAs feel hurt by unintended remarks by others? And, why do some SP/MPAs, or at least former SP/MPAs, seem to bash their clients fairly often?
The other day I read a blog entry by an SP who discussed the emotional pain unintentionally caused by a friend's passing comment. The next day, in a conversation with a MPA, I was again made aware of the unintended hurt caused by the casual comments and behaviour of clients. In both cases, the people who made the remarks were not intending to be hurtful. The clients
simply made off-handed statements that echoed society's larger contempt for those who participate in adult industries.
It surprised me a little when the MPA I was talking with said it is often the "respectful" clients that are the most hurtful. According to the MPA, and to my surprise, the most emotional pain is cause by otherwise respectful clients who unintentionally say or do something to indicate that the MPA is somehow an inferior human being simply because she worked in the adult industry.
I am a little confused by this point of view because my perception has always been that, in general, society frowns on all participants in the adult industry, both clients and workers. To me when a client feels superior to a sex trade worker or when a worker disrespects a client, it seems like a case of the kettle calling the pot black. I have always thought that most people involved in this hobby, both clients and workers, do so for very personal reasons and I would have expected that people associated with this industry are less likely to judge others. But clearly both the clients and the workers are judging each other. Perhaps it's just human nature that some people will always try to find reasons to believe that they are superior to others. I don't know, which brings me to my question, actually two questions.
Is it common for SP/MPAs feel hurt by unintended remarks by others? And, why do some SP/MPAs, or at least former SP/MPAs, seem to bash their clients fairly often?
