Question For The Men Only

[goodtime]

Some never in their lives

Yes we are, but specifically women that are 'SW' that have NEVER had an orgasm what-so-ever with another person, and I was curious about what the men think about this. Whether they find that a turn on, turn off, don't care, etc.
Annessa
xoxo

The Brits does study on everything and several found large # of women never experienced Orgasms ever.

I knew a few ladies (not in biz) that are Orgasmic deprived. They're not my type, so Goodtime can't save the world!

 

[james t kirk]

I have dated several women who can't come to varying degrees.

1. A lawyer, not bad looking, not great, raised in a very uptight anglican family where the girls were taught never to put out and to keep a dime between their knees at all times.

Never came ever.

Never masturbated.

Lost her virginity very late, in her 30's.

Suddenly in her mid to late 30's she decides that she wants to do a 180 and start sucking and fucking. Except she really doesn't have a clue how. She was even seeing a therapist about her sexuality to her credit who was encouraging her to get out there and take her panties off a bit more.

I took it as a challange, to be the one who rocked her world, after all all the other guys she had been with (but a few) were probably inept in the bedroom.

I tried every trick in the book. And I mean everything.

No luck, no how. She wasn't even sure if she was coming or not. What finally stopped me from bothering her was the last time we were together in bed (true fucking story), I was doing everything in my power to make her come by going down on her. After about 15 minutes of tongue work which would have resulted in most women coming at least twice, she pipes up, "Oh I have to change my voice mail at work. She reaches over grabs the phone and calls her work to record a new outgoing voice mail message detailing her lack of presence at work and when she will be back, etc. (She was obsessed with OGVM messages.)

Anyway, I gave up. I was breaking my neck (literally) going down her and she was thinking about her outgoing voice mail message.

True Strory.

I never called her again, never returned her calls.

2. A nurse. At the time, she was 37, now she's probably about 41. Very nice looking woman. Tall, blonde germananic girl.

Likes sex, but never comes with a man. EVER.

Doesn't matter what you do - oral, fingers, clit massage, intercourse hard or soft or whatever position, toys, toys with oral.

She never cums.

Now for the funny part.

Once all the groaning and moaning was over, I would hold her tight (her instructuctions), bite her nipples moderately hard and she would one finger herself to a silent but shuddering orgasm within 60 seconds.

?????

Then there was that British nurse that I met who would come 50 times during one session. She even would come sucking my cock.

Now, that's a reverse problem if you are like me and get off on bringing a woman off. If you are with a woman who is no challange to maker her come, it detracts from it as well (though not nearly as much as those who don't come.)

 

[RTRD]

Those type are fun aren't they ...

She even would come sucking my cock.

Now, that's a reverse problem if you are like me and get off on bringing a woman off. If you are with a woman who is no challange to maker her come, it detracts from it as well (though not nearly as much as those who don't come.)

Those type are fun aren't they

I had an ex-GF who was multi orgasmic, and who like you described, would come during a BBBJ as often as not (even more so for BBBJTCIM).

Our (ok...my) favorite thing to do with her was to spank with my bare hand while she sucked me off and fingered herself. I'd spank her big white ass until it was red, and she loved every minute...and would cum 2 or 3 times before she'd make me lose it myself.

Man...she was fun. But she also had SERIOUS issues away from the bedroom. Just not a person was who ideal for a relationship. But as a fuck buddy...whoa. I should have kept the relationship on that level.

Now that I think about it, should would have made the PERFECT BBW (size 12 - 14) SP...just a totally uninhibited sexual machine...with few limits.

 

[Dash]

wow - Who's That Girl?!

O MY GOSH!!!

Just for bringing that question up - I'm so falling for Annessa!!

as a fellow Psychology buff - she seems so fascinated by people and their lives with regard to pleasure and sex - not every person is.

and if you look at her website - her bio details that she has a world of interests and smarts - wow ....from artists, wines, books...

she even lists her favorite magazines at pretty much just Psychology Today and not sure the other one, Maxium and her favorite shows are exactly my favorite shows - Law And Order and Third Watch - I can't get enough of Bosco and his temper and impatience with delinquents ha ha

these shows are the intellectually stimulating and mentally challenging shows - with intricate, unpredictable, deep plots unlike the brain-dead, extremely thoughtless, linear shows such as Fear Factor, Alias and that one with Donald Trump..where they rehash the same routine challenges......

Though - I prefer CSI over Law And Order.

Wow - if i ever met this woman - I'd prolly get along with her nicely...

Makes me want to meet her alot, actually..

apparently, she has an avid interests in writing....wondering how that's working out....obviously, one reason why she's an terbite discussion board participant ...

Wonder what her thoughts are on, bdsm relationships and the dynamics of power exchange and the roles of power roles and submissive roles...in actual and serious power exchange relationships and also, what her thoughts are in the dynamics of polygymous relationships and if they are realistic and successful, considering the dynamics of them, and the role jealousy plays on them...and swinging lifestyles...etc etc etc...

 

[wild ricky]

I think I would have to agree with midLifeCrisis. An escort is a person and as such they should be treated with respect and some degree of concern. Is it my responsibility to try to solve her problem - no. I could, however be empathetic and I would certainly feel sad for someone with such a "condition".

 

[thunder0702]

Never had an orgasism

*introduces himself*

 

[booboobear]

For the men that vote/voted 'I don't care' reveal yourselves you selfish bastards.




Annessa
xoxo

While I would love to see everyone have an orgasm once a day I would have to vote , makes no difference to me. This is because it must be a medical problem if she has had so many encounters with no result . I will agree with MLAM althought this is probably the only thing I will agree with him on. Chuckle Chuckle.


An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away.

 

[tboy]

multi orgasmic...not

Well, that previous post about the voice mail almost made me squirt milk out of my nose (yes I was sipping it at the time lol). There's her problem right there.......(from an armchair psychologist...oops I mean psychotic).

Too often we associate sexual pleasure as being able to, or not to, achieve an orgasm. Don't forget that sometimes just the act itself, and the associated intimacy can be as pleasureable (and sometimes more so for me) than actually having an orgasm.

IMHO if an sp doesn't have an orgasm with a client, this means she isn't letting herself get involved with him intellectually as opposed to physically. I would compare this to sp's that don't kiss.

I would have to say that it does matter to me somewhat if an sp that I see has a big O while with me but that isn't forefront on my mind. I used to get really upset (?) if she didn't but then came to realize that while yes she is a woman, yes her pleasure is important, we are not in this situation for her pleasure, we are here for mine. Fortunately for me I found an sp that I really clicked with and this isn't a problem at all.

From what I have read about women who have trouble or cannot achieve an orgasm, it is rarely physical. Sometimes there is a physiological reason but more often than not, it is all in her head.

Anyhow, Annessa, I would suggest that if your friend really wants to have the big O with a partner, she search out a sex therapist and find out why this isn't happening.

BTW, if she can achieve an orgasm using toys on her own, have her incorporate them into the act next time she has sex with a partner. If he gets all weird or offended by it then she should find someone else (because if her male friends are the type TO get offended, this could be part of the problem). Maybe after a few practices using a vibe and a partner, she will be able to have one with him (or her) without the vibe.

 

[Bud Plug]

Need more choices in the poll

My answer would be:

• I would definitely not see this SP. Who would want such a superficial experience?

 

[Annessa]

?!?

My answer would be:

• I would definitely not see this SP. Who would want such a superficial experience?

Um... Helloooo... Superficial Experience? Are you kidding me? Are you not a hobbiest that see's SP's? What do you think the adult industry is but fantasy in many forms.
So... what you are saying is, an SP that is unable to orgasm is a superficial experience? Have you actually read everything everyone has said in this thread or just my question and the poll results?
Because with all due respect, I have to say this and speak my mind (not like I don't already) but this is the stupidest thing I have read in this thread. Actually this is the only stupid thing I have read in this thread.

So if a SP that doesn't orgasm is a superficial experience then what does that make a hobbiest that is unable to cum?




Annessa

 

[yoniluvrca]

Interesting to read all the responses here. There was not really an answer to the poll that stated how I feel about this so I chose option #5, "Makes no difference to me one way or the other".

Now this is not entirely how I feel. I do have a preference that any woman, professional or otherwise, have as good a time as possible when in my company. What I most enjoy about female sexual energy though is that it encourages enjoyment of the over all experience rather than focusing on the 'goal' of orgasm. Thus, if we are both having a good time it matters little if either one of us 'finishes'. This tends to happen more with non-pro ladies but is not exclusively so.

 

[Sparky69]

Missing a Response

Somehow the results of the pool so far really don't surprise me for this board.
I selected the 2nd answer as it is the only one close to what my response would be.
I have not taken the time to read all the responses here, so I hope I am not repeating something I might have skipped over.
In Annesa's question I read in to it that this hypothetical lady is able to achieve an orgasm while masturbating.
I would say we both should have achance to get off on our date, and show me - let me watch - we could masturbate together. Might be a turn on for both of us. I might learn how to play with the button well enough to be the one to change that history a little.

 

[goalie000]

If she brought it up during our session I would Feel obligated to try to rectify the situation for her, or "DIE TRYING".

 

[LanceMcClure]

If you saw or knew of an Escort that has never had an orgasm with another person.....

Person huh,....Do farm animals count?

 

[SoldierBoy]

I Chose Option # 3

From the feedback I get from the Ladies, anyway!

I am all about helping any woman that has "difficulty" in this area. Big question for me is if I am providing this sort of service to a lady (SP or MPA) should I get paid??

I've actually had a couple of ladies mention that " I should be paying you" but since I am a man of honor, they still got their well deserved tip.

SB

On Guard For Thee

 

[homonger]

I'd shake my head sympathetically, and go about my business. I am not conceited enough to think I could magically make it happen for her. But I would give it the old college try.

I have often read that women can still enjoy sex very much, even if they don't necessarily climax themselves. Not sure if I believe it, but this is what I've heard.

 

[Bud Plug]

Um... Helloooo... Superficial Experience? Are you kidding me?Annessa

No, I'm definitely not kidding you. I've arrived at the point in my life where I simply have no desire to have sex with a woman who cannot/will not orgasm. It is a completely empty experience, and a waste of time.

I agree that the hobby is all about fantasy. But whose fantasy is it to treat a woman as a mere point of friction? Not mine.

That's why I don't see SPs anymore. An MP experience is different. You know that you're there only to be pleasured by the attendant. That's a different fantasy, and frankly, I think that's why MP sessions are cheaper than SP sessions.

As for the "stupid comment" etc. aspect of your post, you must remember why you're here - to market yourself and maybe learn how to serve your customers better. Insults serve neither purpose. Also, about speaking your mind, the very smartest people don't always speak their mind. They are selective about it. There's always a time and a place.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

Whats the difference between the 5th and sixth option?
btw I've never been with a partner who didn't orgasm or at least have the courtesy to fake it....

 

[new2game]

Yea right Soldierboy....

I've actually had a couple of ladies mention that " I should be paying you" but since I am a man of honor, they still got their well deserved tip.

.....in your dreams buddy..... unless you are being sarcastic.....lol

 

[homonger]

I had a conversation with a young woman today (civilian) and she told me as far as sex was concerned, she could take it or leave it. She'd rather have a bowl of ice cream or a piece of chocolate. She is a perfectly attractive, healthy woman, and my thought was, hey, whatever gets you through the day. I didn't probe it, but my guess is, she is non-orgasmic. I volunteered my services, but that's when the beer got tossed in my face. Talk about touchy.