Question About Hobbiests...........

[thagibbler]

I am wondering how many of us actually feel "connected" to a certain SP or SP's?

Does the SP provide such an amazing experience that you leave thinking you could possibly see her outside of this business.....obviously for those of you without SO's.

I have heard some pretty amazing stories over the past little while that actually kinda creep me out.........it makes me think that some people have lost the connection between reality and fantasy? The most disturbing part, to me, is that the SP will definitely sugarcoat or tell you what you want to hear so as not to make things uncomfortable. How can people not understand this?

It is all about fucking for me, though I have taken a break for a while, I've never thought about crossing that line ever. Just wondering everyone's thoughts.......

Golf season is approaching............

 

[swalbr]

I have that connection with a dancer. We have unbelievably hot sessions and we have occasionally gone out on a dinner date (off the clock). It's all good!! She also suggested we go away together (she would pay for her travel). Not sure if I want to do that though!

 

[jessica_dark]

Interesting indeed. I've had a client who left his regular FSP because he became so enamored with her that he was actually getting jealous that she gets to fuck anyone and fulfill her sexual fantasies daily. She is married, and he is married. He knew it was not going to go anywhere - like really was he going to divorce his wife and leave her for a woman who rocked his world? NO.
I had suggested that he at least TELL her why he won't be seeing her anymore or as often. It's his issue and not her fault she's good at what she does. Told him not to shut her out of his life, but just refrain from torturing himself further.

 

[Gunhed]

If I was a single guy there is a certain sp I would go out of my way for 1000%...If my marriage goes to pot I would definitely pursue the sp outside the business

 

[bone_man]

There are definitely some SPs who know exactly what to say and how to say it with the correct look on their face, you have to remember, at that particular moment, the lower head (not necessarily the bigger or smaller one) is doing the thinking; you might even be in the middle of some real serious f*&%ing when "it" is said. Then there are some comments made not in the heat of the moment but perhaps after as you are leaving that make you think, now that the lower head no longer controls the blood/oxygen flow. These are the comments that really make you wonder if she would be different under more endearing cicumstances.

After you are gone and have a chance to think about it, you come realize that yes, she was probably just saying what I wanted to hear or I more probably, heard it the way I wanted to rather than the way she said it. At this point, its reality check time. To the SPs, this is business. You are a source of income and whatever the job is get it done and get paid. If it means telling the fat old bald guy he is a stud and his dick is the biggest on the planet, then so be it.

IMHO, there are some SPs however, that if under different circumstances we met, then yes, perhaps a more formal relationship might happen. The circumstance differences could be mine, theirs or both BTW. There are some SPs I have a more friendly realtionship with already, while others are kept far away so to speak; its more like a business. So to answer your question, yes, I do feel more connected to some than others.

I have heard some pretty amazing stories over the past little while that actually kinda creep me out.

What I want to know is what you have heard that "creeped you out"?

Oh and I hope it has nothing to do with sitting beside you on the couch at the Terb xmas party, that was just bad luck on seat choice. lmao

 

[thagibbler]

I hope it has nothing to do with sitting beside you on the couch at the Terb xmas party, that was just bad luck on seat choice. lmao

I would sit beside you on a couch anytime bone_man, just as long as you had your clothes on and there were women in the room.........

I was definitely more speaking to those that even after they have left, that they would still feel they have a better than good chance of seeing an SP outside of business hours. I agree that some are more outgoing and friendly, so therefore you would have a better personal relationship with them.

It all ties in with the creepy stuff.......

1. Do you miss me?
2. Do you think about me when I am not here?
3. How many other people do you see besides me?
4. Am I your favourite?

Sheesh. I get that she is going to tell me that I have a beautiful C*&K when I ask her.........but it doesn't mean she would want to see it every day.....well unless I paid her.

Oh and by the way, I "connect" better with certain people so I get what you're saying and there is one person I would definitely see after hours, but I would never cross the line and ask.

 

[bone_man]

women in the room.........

I like that you're thinking plural here!

1. Do you miss me?
2. Do you think about me when I am not here?
3. How many other people do you see besides me?
4. Am I your favourite?

WTF!
The competition in KW is pretty intense right now IMHO. There are so many hot women and I haven't even seen them all! LMAO

I could see #1 as being part of the fantasy if you were a repeat customer. Hell even I kid around if I repeat with someone.

#2 and #4 definitely indicate low esteem issues and I have no problem boosting someone's esteem, especially when it leads to great service. But in all honesty, I can say I have never heard those two or anything like them before.

#3 Perhaps a curiousity question. We all know multiple partnerships are going on and who really cares. I know I enjoy being first of the day and some of the SPs know that about me, but in all reality it doesn't matter! People have to get over that, it's the nature of the business.

 

[SS Sharla]

Since a lot of my clients are repeats I do try to be genuinely interested in them. I try to not give comments that I don't feel are true. There is always something you can find about a person that turns you on or is worth giving a positive comment about. And there are certainly times where I am floored by their skill level and sing their praises. I'm sure that can be misread as "fluffing" them. But I am honest in it.

Starting a non business relationship with someone who was a client isn't really advisable. There are a lot of factors involved and it would take a LOT of work to get it right. Seeing someone for an hour a week is a lot different then being in a relationship with them. The more time you spend with someone the more their true colours and little pet peeves show through. It's easy for us girls to be all smiley and sexy, hair done, nails done, on time, in the mood - for an hour at a time but in our real lives that is not always the case. It would take a pretty great man to deal with me outside of work.

 

[bone_man]

Since a lot of my clients are repeats I do try to be genuinely interested in them. I try to not give comments that I don't feel are true. There is always something you can find about a person that turns you on or is worth giving a positive comment about. And there are certainly times where I am floored by their skill level and sing their praises. I'm sure that can be misread as "fluffing" them. But I am honest in it.

Starting a non business relationship with someone who was a client isn't really advisable. There are a lot of factors involved and it would take a LOT of work to get it right. Seeing someone for an hour a week is a lot different then being in a relationship with them. The more time you spend with someone the more their true colours and little pet peeves show through. It's easy for us girls to be all smiley and sexy, hair done, nails done, on time, in the mood - for an hour at a time but in our real lives that is not always the case. It would take a pretty great man to deal with me outside of work.

Your honesty shows through in these comments Sharla. You seem to have thought this sort of thing through quite thoroughly. Thanks for sharing.

 

[benito]

I had to stop seeing an SP who made me feel so good that I would be bankrupt had I continued seeing her. Her GFE was a true mental GFE.

 

[Plain_Jane]

Since a lot of my clients are repeats I do try to be genuinely interested in them. I try to not give comments that I don't feel are true. There is always something you can find about a person that turns you on or is worth giving a positive comment about. And there are certainly times where I am floored by their skill level and sing their praises. I'm sure that can be misread as "fluffing" them. But I am honest in it.

Starting a non business relationship with someone who was a client isn't really advisable. There are a lot of factors involved and it would take a LOT of work to get it right. Seeing someone for an hour a week is a lot different then being in a relationship with them. The more time you spend with someone the more their true colours and little pet peeves show through. It's easy for us girls to be all smiley and sexy, hair done, nails done, on time, in the mood - for an hour at a time but in our real lives that is not always the case. It would take a pretty great man to deal with me outside of work.

I would say that I echo all of Sharla's comments.

As many of the gentlemen I see are also repeats/regulars I am genuinely interested in them and I enjoy both the time spend between the sheets as well as the before, during and after conversations. While the connections are obviously more superficial than would be for a LTR/SO there are connections there still and I do, honestly, look forward to seeing my repeats and reconnecting and catching up. To me there is an enhanced quality of encouter, greater mutual respect and enjoyment that develops.

All of that said, I can say that there have been a couple of times that I have had to push back from a regular because I felt that there were some feelings, beyond what I was capable of offering, developing. I won't see someone and sugarcoat things to make them feel more comfortable about "our relationship" when in truth it would be taking advantage of a person's emotions and causing hurt and possibly brining out a side on someone you don't know well that could turn into the creepy feeling that the O/P remarked on. None of us needs a scorned lover who may offer only sour grapes when our names come up or even worse, a stalker.

Finally, thank goodness for the pretty great men out there.

xo Jane

 

[scdave2003]

Get a copy of The Masseus with Jenna Jameson. It tells the story of obsession with a MP, if you ignore the sex it probably represents the real life. The ladies are in the business for the money no matter how really into you they seem to be. I know, had gone through falling in love twice with SPs. Not trying to burst your bubble, if it happens to anyone here - all the best to you.

 

[jayman]

The more often you see someone ---- the more connected you tend to get. Over the years I have gotten to know a few providers well (including a couple of locals right now) and as long as you realize there is a line you can't cross, things tend to work out.

The key is to realize that having a bit of fun is great but scdave is right - it's a business for most SPs.

Jay

 

[elvis123]

She will cry for you, for a few dollars more
She will lie for you, for a few dollars more
She will take it, and fake it, for a few dollars more
She will show you her heart...then she will show you the door.

 

[bone_man]

She will cry for you, for a few dollars more
She will lie for you, for a few dollars more
She will take it, and fake it, for a few dollars more
She will show you her heart...then she will show you the door.

Well put Elvis!

 

[EJunkie]

I am wondering how many of us actually feel "connected" to a certain SP or SP's?

Does the SP provide such an amazing experience that you leave thinking you could possibly see her outside of this business.....obviously for those of you without SO's.

I have heard some pretty amazing stories over the past little while that actually kinda creep me out.........it makes me think that some people have lost the connection between reality and fantasy? The most disturbing part, to me, is that the SP will definitely sugarcoat or tell you what you want to hear so as not to make things uncomfortable. How can people not understand this?

It is all about fucking for me, though I have taken a break for a while, I've never thought about crossing that line ever. Just wondering everyone's thoughts.......

Golf season is approaching............

Yes it happens. I have made several friends over the years.

We spend time together "off the clock" as well as "on the clock".

Now would I ever expect any of them to leave the business and settle down with me; hell no. Neither they, nor I, want that much change in our lives