Problems with condoms

[Barca]

Hopefully I can find some good suggestions here.

My problem: I have difficulty cumming. I last forever, and only seem to be able to orgasm when I'm uncovered with civilians. I have avoided SPs for the last little while to avoid a situation where I'm paying and don't wind up climaxing. That would be frustrating. Especially since I know once I'm covered it's going to take a monumental effort to get me to cum, if at all.

There is a thread in the forum that discusses the impact of porn on sexual satisfaction in general. In between periods of physical relationships I have indulged in masturbation with porn as the fuel to "rise to the occasion". If this winds up being the culprit, what would be a good strategy to overcome this annoying development?

There's also the added element that a long-term relationship ended early this year and was a severe disappointment for me. I'm hoping that isn't it because I really don't want to deal with psychological elements affecting my physiology.

 

[DaleyDDD]

Warming lube?? Inside, go nuts. Outside, thats the worst feeling possible.
That's only one girl's opinion though!

What kind of condoms are you using? Are you using a drop of lube (preferably warming lube) inside the condom as well as outside?

 

[Malika Fantasy]

Have you ever used female condoms?

For a lot of my clients that have a hard time getting hard with a normal condoms, could be multiple reasons...use to have an so for XX years, it's too tight etc.
We are the one wearing them and honestly 90% of the guy I've use them with, prefer them a lot.

 

[angrymime666]

its not just your problem, its mine to.

I have found that not all condoms feel the same on my johnson. some feel like a plastic milk bag, some feel relatively good to the point if I do hit the right spot I will blast off. Im dont recall the brand name. do you have a problem cumming when masturbating?

I dont think porn has desensitized me since when I do go BB with my partner I have to control myself versus sometimes getting frustrated with a condom. Im about the skin on skin contact. porn is not a great replacement for a nice cozy vagina. its just good to clear the pipes and relieve some undo pressure.

if you just ended a long term, just go with the flow and try not to put much thought into it. as a fellow male Ive found that relationships ending under "disappointing" terms usually means Im unhappy and need to unwind/de-escalate from the chain of events.

try not to sweat it. things will naturally fall into place.

 

[freedom3]

I prefer non latex condoms.

Latex are the only ones that can deal with viruses, ie. hiv.

 

[Hiding]

Latex are the only ones that can deal with viruses, ie. hiv.

Please provide source; that's a big claim and a serious one


I know lambskin doesn't protect
Http://www.condom.com/faq-non-latex-condoms.html

It's not a "big claim"; it's an incorrect one. World Health Organization, Centre for Disease Control and Prevention and the FDA have all approved them as effective against HIV when used correctly. Non-latex are slightly more likely to break or slip, however.

OP, have you tried:
- female condoms? (Similar feeling to the actual thing...)
- Kimono condom? (Thinner...)
- Larger condoms? (Less constriction around the base...)
- Masturbation with a condom on? (Get familiar with the sensation...)
- Putting a condom on earlier? (Less of a psychological "break" in action...)
- Finishing via oral? (If you can't beat it...)

In terms of psychological issues, a good, relaxed session (maybe massage over escort?) with someone you're familiar with might be a solution? I hope you figure this out, good luck!

 

[james t kirk]

Please provide source; that's a big claim and a serious one


I know lambskin doesn't protect
Http://www.condom.com/faq-non-latex-condoms.html

In fact, they are not "lamb skin" at all.

They are made from the intestines of slaughtered sheep.

No, they don't protect against HIV, but they do fell a whole heck of a lot better.

 

[james t kirk]

I hate condoms too. Hate them.

Nothing kills the buzz more than putting on a dome. There's the hassle, the inside out, the stopping, the lack of feeling, and then there is the psychological aspect of "you are probably a diseased mother fucker".

I understand the necessity of condoms, but I don't like it. And rolling one on for a BJ? Errr, um, that's a complete boner destroyer. Might as well not even bother.

 

[Barca]

Thanks for for suggestions. I do get the feeling some of this is psychological in some way. Whether it's the past relationship or the psych out of putting on a dome, whatever it is I'm going to have to deal with it. Because getting hard and then not finishing might be the most frustrating thing ever!

 

[huckfinn]

I see the necessity....but am not a huge fan. Really reduces the sensation for both.

Been with the same partner for a few years - got fixed as we were using them as birth control. Much better for both of us!

 

[Ridgeman08]

I don't know a single person that actually "LIKES" condoms.

However they are a necessary evil in this hobby for the prevention of STD's first and foremost, and pregnancy for those of us (unlike myself) that aren't "fixed".

Only thing to do is, find the right one for you, (e.g. size, thickness, sensation etc.) and grin and bare it, and bring them with you when you visit the muse of your choosing.

/end thread

 

[ultistar]

Do you have to cum in condom or is that preferred? You can finish with BJ or HJ in multiple positions for a satisfying release.

 

[Titalian]

I hate condoms too. Hate them.

Nothing kills the buzz more than putting on a dome. There's the hassle, the inside out, the stopping, the lack of feeling, and then there is the psychological aspect of "you are probably a diseased mother fucker".

I understand the necessity of condoms, but I don't like it. And rolling one on for a BJ? Errr, um, that's a complete boner destroyer. Might as well not even bother.

I don't know a single person that actually "LIKES" condoms.

However they are a necessary evil in this hobby for the prevention of STD's first and foremost, and pregnancy for those of us (unlike myself) that aren't "fixed".

Only thing to do is, find the right one for you, (e.g. size, thickness, sensation etc.) and grin and bare it, and bring them with you when you visit the muse of your choosing.

/end thread

I agree with both of you, coming in late into this game and being an intact male, I find condoms like being circumcised, no feelings what so ever.
So often I keep if to oral, unless my partner insists on Cfs. Even then they normally finish me off orally.

 

[Barca]

Just to clarify, this is not a complaint about condoms. These days you have to use them regardless if they're pros or civilians.

But they certainly don't help my situation, which feels a lot like lost sensation "down there".

 

[Stoo]

This is probably the main reason I see MPAs 99% of the time...

 

[Samurai Joey]

I find it interesting how so many people here speak of a loss of sensation when using a condom, because this is something I have not experienced. Is this an issue of the brand of condom used? (I primarily have used either Lifestyles or Kimono). Or perhaps I have a more sensitive skin than many men? Or the fact that I'm circumcised? (I'm curious if there is a difference in sensation when using condoms or not between men who are circumcised versus those who are not)

 

[ultistar]

Or the fact that I'm circumcised? (I'm curious if there is a difference in sensation when using condoms or not between men who are circumcised versus those who are not)

I don't think any man can tell you unless some guy gets circumcised after his first sexual experience. Any intact guys want to volunteer and let us know?

 

[SexB]

If you're going to use Kimono, my recommendation is to use lots of lube. They're infamous for breaking.

 

[Thunderballs]

I had the same problem.First and foremost, bring your own. In my experience the condoms girls usually provide are crap. You have to find a condom that works for you. Try a thinner one. Condoms are a lot stronger than they used to be so don't be afraid to go thin. Also consider size. I used to just use a normal size one until a couple of girls told me it looked too tight so I switched to a large size and that made a huge difference. Finally you have to find a good position to start in. I like cowgirl but I can't start in it after putting on a condom. So I usually start in mish or doggie and move on from there once things firms up a but. Hope this helps.

 

[TESLAMotors]

I hate condoms too. Hate them.

Nothing kills the buzz more than putting on a dome. There's the hassle, the inside out, the stopping, the lack of feeling, and then there is the psychological aspect of "you are probably a diseased mother fucker".

I understand the necessity of condoms, but I don't like it. And rolling one on for a BJ? Errr, um, that's a complete boner destroyer. Might as well not even bother.

lol so true, all of this.