Just wondering if anyone else has had problems "finishing" while with a Sp or Mpa? There have been about 4 occasions where my time's been up and I've had to leave without finishing. On a couple of occassions they were 1 hour appointments. Maybe I need a GFE or a PSE to help it along faster? I remember the first time with Stephanie from Friends she got me going fast but the second time I saw her, same problem. Any thoughts?
Problem with the finish
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Double J, I have the same problem sometimes, maybe even 50% of the time. I can finish on 4 or 5 straight occasions in a row, then go a few where I can't, at least not during the main event, but I usually can still finish with the BJ. Only on rare occasions I won't be able to finish at all. With an Sp, I just never know what will happen regarding this. I haven't yet been able to figure it out!
Personally, if I get over-excited I can't finish. I think my brain gets geared up thinking sex is coming, but since I only do the MP thing, I don't get sex when the brain thinks its coming. So, the ol brain is thinking well you better hold on to the finish a long time so you impress the lady. And then boom time is up and im still hard and horny but no finish.
For me that was the result of unintended mental conditioning. Maybe you have some stuff on your mind when you have that problem and just don't realise it.
Just a thought.
For me that was the result of unintended mental conditioning. Maybe you have some stuff on your mind when you have that problem and just don't realise it.
Just a thought.
Thanks all for replying with your thoughts. I think Secret_Touch is right in the fact that I stress myself to much over it now. I'll try to relax next time. I just have to stop thinking about it to much. I'll let you know how it works out. Thanks.
she knows what she is talking about ... I too have had similar problems but never with Cathy
While she is not the average "eye candy" you will be satisfied
While she is not the average "eye candy" you will be satisfied
STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is the problem, good and bad stress can stop a finish. Stress and medications, but I would bet on stress. Cathy is right, you need to find a SP who can tell when you are tense. I try to never start a session with a man until he is completely relaxed and most times that means giving a full massage with some small talk. Just help relax the mood a bit Also, watching the clock is not good for you either, whether it is her or you watching it. Try booking with an Independent SP, they are more likely to be able to go a little over time with you if it is needed.
One more suggestion, talk to your SP, and guys, this goes for all of you. We can only give you service that you express you like. Yes, there are the norms of DATY, BJ, MSOG, etc but there is more to the SP experience then just the norms. If there are areas of difficulty, don't be embarrassed, let us know. This is our job. We know (most of us) what we are doing. You are paying anywhere from 150-400 dollars, we better know what we are doing. There are so many different aspects to sex and the sexual experiences that you have, but like most things in life, communication is the key.
For example, attire can play a big role. Most older gentlemen love the feeling of nylons on a woman during sex. I know one gentleman who cannot finish if a SP is not wearing them. It is what he is use to.
Hopefully we will soon see a lovely review of the special SP, who was able to help you out, so be sure to let us know. If the problem becomes persistent, go to your doctor.
That is the problem, good and bad stress can stop a finish. Stress and medications, but I would bet on stress. Cathy is right, you need to find a SP who can tell when you are tense. I try to never start a session with a man until he is completely relaxed and most times that means giving a full massage with some small talk. Just help relax the mood a bit Also, watching the clock is not good for you either, whether it is her or you watching it. Try booking with an Independent SP, they are more likely to be able to go a little over time with you if it is needed.
One more suggestion, talk to your SP, and guys, this goes for all of you. We can only give you service that you express you like. Yes, there are the norms of DATY, BJ, MSOG, etc but there is more to the SP experience then just the norms. If there are areas of difficulty, don't be embarrassed, let us know. This is our job. We know (most of us) what we are doing. You are paying anywhere from 150-400 dollars, we better know what we are doing. There are so many different aspects to sex and the sexual experiences that you have, but like most things in life, communication is the key.
For example, attire can play a big role. Most older gentlemen love the feeling of nylons on a woman during sex. I know one gentleman who cannot finish if a SP is not wearing them. It is what he is use to.
Hopefully we will soon see a lovely review of the special SP, who was able to help you out, so be sure to let us know. If the problem becomes persistent, go to your doctor.
I can only remember one time I didn't finish and the girl was so disappointed. Other times I get the "you no cum yet".
I asked this question a while back and I think I have part of the problem resolved.
For me it's not stress. I always finish sooner or later (mostly later) and every one of my regular MPA's knows it. Therefore they start the event a little earlier, which I have no problem with.
I've narrowed it down to a few things. First, I just take longer then the average guy. I have to live with that. Second, the MPA that I'm with must know how to give a teasing release and not just yanking, pulling and tugging. Different sensations are extremely important. Third, frequency. The more time I take in between visits the better. I've seen two MPA's in one day a few times and I felt so sorry for the second girl. I usually have to wait three to four days to get a quicker release. Finally, like the above, I try not to think about it at all. Keep your mind off the release and lay back and enjoy the moment.
Hope this helps Double J or anyone else.
B.B.
I asked this question a while back and I think I have part of the problem resolved.
For me it's not stress. I always finish sooner or later (mostly later) and every one of my regular MPA's knows it. Therefore they start the event a little earlier, which I have no problem with.
I've narrowed it down to a few things. First, I just take longer then the average guy. I have to live with that. Second, the MPA that I'm with must know how to give a teasing release and not just yanking, pulling and tugging. Different sensations are extremely important. Third, frequency. The more time I take in between visits the better. I've seen two MPA's in one day a few times and I felt so sorry for the second girl. I usually have to wait three to four days to get a quicker release. Finally, like the above, I try not to think about it at all. Keep your mind off the release and lay back and enjoy the moment.
Hope this helps Double J or anyone else.
B.B.
Like some of you have also mentioned, I also take a longer time to finish, just in general. Occasionally I also have problems coming, and will have to finish myself manually or complete the session without climaxing at all. I can never predict when this will happen, but I agree that it is probably stress related. When I am having problems, I try to relax, clear my mind, breathe, and just enjoy the moment. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't.
It is frustrating not to be able to come when you are in company of an attractive, willing, sp. And if it happens, I find myself thinking more and more about it, which of course, contributes to having the same problem the next time. The only silver lining I have found to this is that it is probably better to take too long than to not take long enough.
The best solution I have found is to see an sp who I know, feel comfortable with, and have a "proven" track record with. I have a good time and that gets me back on track.
It is frustrating not to be able to come when you are in company of an attractive, willing, sp. And if it happens, I find myself thinking more and more about it, which of course, contributes to having the same problem the next time. The only silver lining I have found to this is that it is probably better to take too long than to not take long enough.
The best solution I have found is to see an sp who I know, feel comfortable with, and have a "proven" track record with. I have a good time and that gets me back on track.
This was suggested and it works for me. Abstain from all sexual activity for a few days before hand. You might even build things up a few days before hand by going to an SC or watching a porno and keeping all hands off the equipment. After all, you can't fire a gun that's not loaded!
