Pre Nup?

[superstar_88]

that sounds bang on. Husband loses job and wife starts to think I've gotta jump ship.

 

[azeri99]

You have a greater than 50% chance of getting divorced if you get married, not a bet i would make, you have greater odds playing Russian roulette

 

[testing1]

I cant think of any real reason why not to get one if you have assets. If i was to start my own business i would write it in as a requirement and also for my partners so in the event of a divorce it wouldn't impact the business. Honestly I wouldn't feel bad or reluctant discussing the need for one even though i don't expect a divorce just like why i buy life insurance.

 

[superstar_88]

You have a greater than 50% chance of getting divorced if you get married, not a bet i would make, you have greater odds playing Russian roulette

and there's also those in loveless sexless marriages that should end but don't.

 

[superstar_88]

I cant think of any real reason why not to get one if you have assets. If i was to start my own business i would write it in as a requirement and also for my partners so in the event of a divorce it wouldn't impact the business. Honestly I wouldn't feel bad or reluctant discussing the need for one even though i don't expect a divorce just like why i buy life insurance.

what if you bring it up and she questions your love for her?

 

[kkelso]

what if you bring it up and she questions your love for her?

That's why it's handy to be able to say that your business, or your family, requires it. If I had a son I would tell him that without a pre-nup he's out of my will, simply so that he can tell that to his future wife.

KK

 

[azeri99]

Absolutely. they either stay in the marriage for financial reasons, eg. they can't afford to live on their own with just one income or they would rather stay in a loveless marriage than be alone.

 

[rhuarc29]

Prenups aren't even ironclad these days, because some moron judges feel they're exploitative.

 

[freedom3]

what if you bring it up and she questions your love for her?

Then you ask her if she can think of any situation in which she would ever get divorced. She will say: "If I wasn't happy". Then you will know what the end has in store for you (ten years later: she is not happy and you spend the rest of your life writing cheques)

 

[explorerzip]

Prenups aren't even ironclad these days, because some moron judges feel they're exploitative.

What contracts are truly ironclad? There's always room for interpretation.

As far as I know, any contract (prenup, employment, lease, etc.) must be legal in the eyes of the law. You cannot sign away fundamental rights even if it's in writing. That would make the contract void. The point of a contract is also to make both parties "whole" to a point before they signed. It's not supposed to enrich one party at the expense of another.

The principle of a prenup is correct in that you should have full transparency with respect to your finances, family, business obligations, etc. before getting married. In this day and age, both parties might come into the relationship with income, assets and liabilities. There's little benefit to having joint accounts anymore. Both people should have their own bank, credit card and retirement accounts. You can pool your finances for common expenses like housing and food, but everything else should be separate.

 

[superstar_88]

Then you ask her if she can think of any situation in which she would ever get divorced. She will say: "If I wasn't happy". Then you will know what the end has in store for you (ten years later: she is not happy and you spend the rest of your life writing cheques)

What if she answers only if she catches you hooking up with prostitutes.

 

[superstar_88]

What contracts are truly ironclad? There's always room for interpretation.

As far as I know, any contract (prenup, employment, lease, etc.) must be legal in the eyes of the law. You cannot sign away fundamental rights even if it's in writing. That would make the contract void. The point of a contract is also to make both parties "whole" to a point before they signed. It's not supposed to enrich one party at the expense of another.

The principle of a prenup is correct in that you should have full transparency with respect to your finances, family, business obligations, etc. before getting married. In this day and age, both parties might come into the relationship with income, assets and liabilities. There's little benefit to having joint accounts anymore. Both people should have their own bank, credit card and retirement accounts. You can pool your finances for common expenses like housing and food, but everything else should be separate.

In this day and age doesn't the man still pay for everything?

 

[freedom3]

What if she answers only if she catches you hooking up with prostitutes.

Then you insert a clause in the prenup that says it applies even in the event that you are caught hooking up with prostitutes. (mine says: even in the event of infidelity.)

 

[explorerzip]

In this day and age doesn't the man still pay for everything?

You might want to get outside every once in a while at least to get some sunshine and fresh air.

 

[superstar_88]

Ever heard of hypergamy? You need get your head out of the sand and into the real world.