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[outoftownguy]

I can think of 100 reasons not to but, I am going to sleep with my assistant. I do mean make love. She has left her husband and confided alot in me. We have grown pretty close. After a few evenings of talking we messed around alot and if it is possible we made love without the sex. Sounds pretty deep but, it happened.

My question here. It is a small office, nobody knows she visits nightly. I like her alot but, I know it will mess up the office chemistry. She doesn't care and figures she will work somewhere else if something really clicks.

What next??

P.S. - she would end the hobbying!!!!

 

[[ALIMEISTER]]

If you care deeply for this woman and love her and see a future together, go for it.

 

[Goober Mcfly]

Honestly, I don't care either way.

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[kwong_1978]

There is a saying that goes "Don't shit where you eat".
Sara

I like the "Don't eat where you shit" saying better.

 

[xarir]

She has left her husband and confided alot in me.

... but, I know it will mess up the office chemistry. She doesn't care and figures she will work somewhere else if something really clicks.

She left her hubby but you don't say when this happened. (Not that it's any of my business.) As long as she's not on rebound, I'd say it's OK - two consenting adults and all that. Just be sure she's not looking to suddenly fill a void in her life.

On the office chem stuff, sounds like she's willing to take the jump and move jobs to keep it going. On the surface then I'd say you're a lucky guy and should do what you can to keep this little gem.

Good luck!

 

[nautilus]

I thought it was more like "don't get your bread and your meat at the same store."

 

[Snake Pliskin]

Make sure that she has really left her husband! Does she still live in the same house with him? If so, he may not even realize his marriage is over (trust me on this one).

You’ve both acknowledged that there will be an impact on work. I know many, many couples that met at work and went on to have successful relationships. Disqualifying someone whom you work with just isn’t fair. Since you are her manager though, understand that if things end poorly, you could find yourself in a heap of trouble (ie. Sexual harassment). If it is your own business, you could lose the business. Or lose half of it later on.

You know you’re going to do it, but take a moment and think things through. With your big head!

 

[WhOiSyOdAdDy?]

I like the "Don't eat where you shit" saying better.

or.. you don't get your meat where you make your bread

but.. I know of many situations where is has worked out

 

[DenWa]

If she works for you, and things go sour, she can so easily ruin your life and make you look the predatory boss. Be careful.

DW

 

[outoftownguy]

Well thanx for all the advice. First off her marriage is 100% over, he is out she has the kids. She does work directly for me, I recruited her from the other side so to speak. The whole predatory boss thing etc. etc. scares the shit out of me as we are succesful at work and the image would potentially ruin my career. we have agreed to keep things out of the office but, if the relationship ever went south who knows what would happen.
It would be easy if she wasn't so dam nice !!!!!!!

 

[hardlicks]

Been there - done that. BIG mistake. Don't do it

my two cents

 

[Sargeant StiffCock]

Can you post a review when you guys actually "do it" . On a more serious note I wouldn't do if I were you. Things will never be the same between you two, at the office that is.

 

[i_am_good]

...make sure...

...you keep communicating with each other...

Tell her about your concerns. Keep everything open. All the best!

 

[wrong hole]

Rent the DVD "Secretary" staring James Spader and watch it together.....see how that plays out.

 

[outoftownguy]

I want comments and experiences. Things are really heating up!!
A decision must be made this weekend!!