Platonic Relationship or Liscentious Intent!

[Willywants]

How many of you gents out there have experienced this???

I have (perhaps had) a great lady friend of some long standing, whose company I thoroughly enjoy!
She is of East Indian origins, very attractive, somewhat young at 29 years and a fellow Sagittarian!
She is a former business associate and colleague that I have maintained contact with!
She is a confessed virgin at 29, and I recently discovered that her virginity extends beyond the normal physical sense to her ears as well!
While she is quite desirable as a woman, there has never been a hint of romance or suggested involvement in our prior conversations, other than a bit of suggestive banter in the name of humour!
She expressed the other day how much she enjoyed our "platonic" relationship, our conversations and the "position" we found ourselves in, my being married and all!
In my inimitable style, I suggested that I much prefer enjoying my platonic relationships from a prone position! I can converse better laying down! I do believe I actually said I could use my mouth better laying down!
The virgin ears perked up and when she asked what I meant, I explained that I found her virginity intriguing and that perhaps it was time she had a love experience!
Now I did not suggest with me, but it was evident to her that my intentions, or at least thoughts, were definitely along that line!
She appeared to take offence and gave me such a look I cannot explain! Her comments related to how she now saw me in a different light and accused me of being a dirty old man!
While she did not jump up and leave immediately, her eventual departure was on a cool note! I did not get the usual hug and kiss.
Have I destroyed a valued friendship? Don't know yet!
But my "dirty old man" thoughts of her still linger!
What a wonderful experience it would be for her to return and suggest that she would love to lose her virginity and that she wants to experience it with me!
In all honesty, I do think I would refuse and suggest that she wait for the man she will love for life!
What a wonderful dream for an old fart like me!
Yes, I will apologize for the indiscretion, and hope the platonic relationship continues! She is a sweetheart!

Willywants (to remain a dirty young man, I don't like the old connotation!)

 

[prodigal]

you are

what you are, Willy (and every one of us as well I'm sure) - a platonic relationship with a beautiful woman is not impossible at all. A question of will power and mutual respect and decision.

Not thinking about or raising at least once the idea of sex with that person? THAT's impossible. If you mutually decide not to, or one says no and the other respects that, what has the friendship lost? Exactly who or what was she trusting you to be? A eunuch?

Obviously you can't take responsibility for her feelings on this.

I wonder what my hourly rate should be for unsolicited , non-legal advice?

 

[slick_romeo]

What a wonderful experience it would be for her to return and suggest that she would love to lose her virginity and that she wants to experience it with me!
In all honesty, I do think I would refuse and suggest that she wait for the man she will love for life!
What a wonderful dream for an old fart like me!
Yes, I will apologize for the indiscretion, and hope the platonic relationship continues! She is a sweetheart!

- friendship over courtship?!!...i accept that only if you've already had your 'virgin' experience Willy...but if you haven't....@ your age, i would consider such a find no less significant than discovering the holy grail itself...

..you did say: a 29 year old 'hot' virgin??!!...that would be the 10th wonder of the modern world in my books, don't deny yourself old man....

 

[Willywants]

The Virgin Experience!

Hey Slick!
The vast majority of men cannot go through life without having a "virgin" experience!
That, of course, would be in losing their own!
The only "virgin" experience I have had with a woman/girl, was with the wife! Maybe that's why I am still with her! I still feel like her true, one and only!!

Willywants (to do the "right thing"!

 

[Shades]

Willy, think you have lost either way.
If she stays offended, you have lost a friendship that you clearly valued, or at least significantly altered it.
If she "comes" around and you get your way, you may be getting more than you bargained for. As a virgin at 29 one might assume that the "event" holds particular significance for her and the consequences might be a ratcheting up of your friendship and her expectations beyond which you might feel comfortable with given your marital status. Rejection at that point could severely hurt someone that you obviously care about..again, not a win IMHO.
You rolled the dice on a dangerous table...better to stick with "pros" or experienced women that are looking for the same thing....fun, new experiences etc....with no strings attached.
Try to pass it off as a momentary loss of judgement and re-build the relationship as best you can...thats what I would recommend, for what it is worth.

 

[Willywants]

Think You Got It Right!

Hey Shades!
You may be right! Based on the assumption that a woman falls in love with the man who deflowers her, one could be in serious difficulty, or at best, a new meaningful relationship!
Keep in mind, the reference made to this lady was made in the context of a double entendre, innocent and somewhat humourous conversation!
My take is that she resented me even thinking of her in such an intimate manner! It shed just a bit of a different light on the relationship!
Let's face it! I am old enough to be her father, and in this case, older than her own father!

Willywants (to atone and will!!)