physical appearance of client

[bigbert21]

Greetings,

I am new to TERB and have yet to visit any service. In addition to the usual nervousness of someone new to this area, I am am a little concerned about how I will be received. Quite frankly, I am not particularly attractive, being fairly overweight. My expectation is that this will impact the quality of service I receive and that I may not even be offered any service at all. Can anyone comment on this? Would I be just wasting my time visiting an MP?

 

[Don]

I agree with tbill. I think hygiene is #1 and manners are #2 w/SP's. If you are very clean and polite, then you should have no problems

 

[CyberGoth]

as long as you're clean, reasonably shaved, a nice person and your environment doesnt scare them. [one SP I know was disturbed by the blood red walls in my office]

then everything should be lovely and fun.

first rule:
be yourself& like yourself.

it works.

 

[zoickss]

I think every pretty much hit it on the head. My personal tips for you if you are going to see an SP for the first time.

1) Pick an SP for your first time that has been consistantly been positively reviewed, and has been noted in review that is a good conversationalist - The converstaion part will for the first few times help take some of your nervous edge off. A well reviewed one will help you avoid a first time bad experience which could turn you away from doing this again (this could be a good or bad thing - this hobby is addictive - hehehe)

2) Tell the SP you have choosen that it is your first time - So she will understand and ease you into the session.

3) If you are having an Incall Shower just before you go (or ask if you can shower at the Incall location if it is available) The lady you will be spending time with will appeciate it much if you smell clean - (this also tends to help you get better service )
If it is an Outcall - take a hot shower just before she is scheduled to arrive. Also take extra time to clean down below and behind.
DON'T over do it with cologne either - some mild deodorant and a very light splash of cologne will do.

4) If the SP likes maybe take a bottle of wine - find out first what she likes and if she likes it. I find that sharing a galss of wine of 2 helps both parties relax and gives a chance to get to know each other before hand

5) If you can afford to make your first session a 2 hour one - that way you won't feel rushed (In fact almost all mine are for 2 hours - I can't just get into the rush of a 1 hour - but to each their own.

5) Have the prearranged fee in an envelope out in plain site before she arrives. Some will count it - some won't but this gets away from the ackward exchange of fee for companionship.

6) Be honest - be yourself and just enjoy your time with the lady of your choice

I hope this helps you out a little and have fun,

Zoickss

 

[Samantha Jones]

Great post Z.!
right on

cleanliness, sincerity(I hate fake people), polite &intelligent.

Big Bert- everyone has their strong points as I am sure you do.
Yes some ladies are not comfrotable with larger men, but then some ladies(like myself) feel more comfortable with a big man(and guys I mean weight/ht - not member size) than with thin men.
There is someone out there to match up with every client.
Good luck & have fun.

 

[Sixer]

Physical Appearance

My expectation is that this will impact the quality of service I receive and that I may not even be offered any service at all. Can anyone comment on this? Would I be just wasting my time visiting an MP?

My comment will properly apply to MP only. Take a shower before you head to a MP. Hygiene should be the number one priority. Follow by removing excessive private or public hairs from shaving if you are comfortable with that. Be yourself, relax and have a good manner toward the MPA. Stir up some interesting conversation here and there to brighten up the session.

 

[bigbert21]

I'd like to thank everyone who has taken the time to reply to my question, particularly Zoickss for his lengthy and useful list of tips and the people who responded via PM.

Every reply indicated that my concerns were for the most part unfounded and that I can expect to have an enjoyable time provided I treat the SP/MP with the level of respect that they deserve. My primary motivation is to have fun (and maybe learn a thing or two in the process). While that may not be the case for the SP/MP my view is that anything I can do to make things more enjoyable for the SP/MP will improve my experience as well.

At this point I am thinking about how I want to proceed as some of the messages have made me think I might be more comfortable with an SP than an MP. I will be reviewing the services available for the next little while and making a decision in the next few weeks.

 

[CyberGoth]

YAY you go dude.

play safe.
cheers

 

[Big Daddy]

I agree, but..

I agree with most of the statements made here, but you have to realize that SPs are human beings and good appearence helps. While good hygine and good attitude are very important, staying in shape gives you a big plus.

There is no need to be embarassed if you are not in good shape, but if possible get in shape. Also, have champaign during your encounter. I have seen that women get more relaxed and enjoy the session if it is not just sex.

Do the best you can and appear the best you can. There are certain things that are beyond the control of human beings (age, height, weight (to some extent) and ethnicity). SPs realize that but things that you can control (smell of the room, your body and cleaniness) you should take care of it really well.

Cleanliness applies to SPs as well. I have always liked to see that the SPs is clean and my efforts of cleaning myself were worth it. How you appear to a stranger gives a good idea of what you think of the stranger. Do the best you can.

 

[bigbert21]

so bigbert what are you shopping for..

tbill,

To be honest, I'm still not completely sure. I tend to take a while to get comfortable with people so I've not had a lot of partners and never even experienced a one-night-stand (I have had a few opportunities but it didn't feel right). For the first time, I'm more interested in how the experience as a whole feels than the excitement of any particular activity. If things go well, however, I expect my focus will change for future engagements.

My initial inclination was to go the MP route and decide if I wanted to proceed further after that. What has me thinking that an SP might be better for me is that I would be in a more comfortable environment (I'm thinking outcall to a hotel), with an opportunity to spend some time talking so that I would understand what is permitted and what is not and have the opportunity to stop where I feel comfortable. If I decide to contact an SP I will take Zoickss' advice and opt for a two hour session to ensure that there is sufficient time to not rush the process.

CyberGoth has recommended one SP and the little research that I've done so far is quite positive. Based both on the few reviews I've read and some of the postings she has made, she seems to be very intelligent and honestly concerned with providing a quality experience.

Perhaps I'm spending too much time thinking about this but it's a big departure from my past.

 

[Garrett]

You know BigBert... I think one thing you may be losing sight of is how incredibly good many of these women are at their job. I also think it is far harder to cut through a bad personality than physical appearance (cliched but true)... and you certainly seem to have your heart in the right place.

The only advice I will offer is to find something that will make you feel better about your personal appearance. It could be as simple as going to a nice clothing store and getting a jacket that makes you feel good.

I truly hope it works out for you... but rather than second guessing yourself I would simply choose wisely and enjoy yourself.

 

[bigbert21]

The only advice I will offer is to find something that will make you feel better about your personal appearance. It could be as simple as going to a nice clothing store and getting a jacket that makes you feel good.

I truly hope it works out for you... but rather than second guessing yourself I would simply choose wisely and enjoy yourself.

Thanks for the kind words, and advice. I'm in the process of making a few lifestyle changes which include a dramatic change in my eating habits and regular visists to a gym. One of the rewards I plan is a completely new wardrobe (actually it will be a necessity anyway) when I get to a more appropriate size.

 

[Garrett]

Well I will offer more advice then ;-) Whatever your goals are for your new wardrobe, cut them in half and make sure to reward yourself. Most people set goals that are pretty well unattainable... and trying to achieve the impossible will only set you back.

I have always thought it would be very interesting to enlist one of the more hardbody SPs as a personal trainer... assuming location and timing were appropriate.

 

[drlove]

If you're wondering about which agencies are reputable, I'd suggest Allison's, Select, VIP or Hollywood as potential starting points.

Whatever you do, don't resort to the yellow pages...you're just asking for trouble.

 

[lizzy]

Physical Appearance of Client

I think the big plus on ANY date is that the gentleman is just that-a gentleman....what's that old saying-you catch more bees with honey? As was said earlier....as an sp we can't always pick and choose the type of clients we wish to see...in this business its 'who's behind door #1'....and MOST of the time its a pleasurable experience. I believe the most important thing is cleanliness...no drinking....a good attitude-humorous....good conversation-because for me-the sexiest thing about the whole act is if i can have intelligent conversation first...thats a BIG turn-on.....and if you have some mis-givings about the first time-my advice to you is to call around-speak the girls on the phone. Most of the time they know the girls well-and can offer some advice-after of course you tell them what you are looking for. I have gone on calls where i wasn't what they were looking for-and they sent someone else....that's okay too.

The worst thing would be to show up to a client who has been drinking-no matter what size you are-if you're a dick when you're buff-then you're a dick when you're overweight-it doesn't really matter.......a kind-sweet man is much more fun...good luck

 

[homonger]

I think all of us at one time or another have had some insecurity about our appearance. I do not consider myself "eye candy" by any stretch of the imagination, and have been astounded at how attractive a good, attentive sp can make me feel. I know this is their job, but it still feels really really good.

Although I would love to have a better body, flatter stomach, bigger muscles, etc., one of things I have come to love about hobbying is that there is no fear of rejection, no fear of disappointing her, no fear of not being what she is looking for. That is the beauty of this hobby. It is all temporary. And, it is not your responsibility to impress her with your looks, it is hers.

Bigbert, there were good suggestions above. I have never been to an mp, but maybe you should try that route for a while before seeing an sp. I'm thinking this will get you comfortable with the idea of being naked with a unfamiliar woman, and maybe this will help you become more confident that your appearance is a non-issue.

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

oh hon

if the sp is a gfe and is professional... it wont make any differnece at all .
just brush your teeth, be clean and it makes no differnce at all...
as long as your a man with some enthusiasm its all good. giggle

 

[Kascha Fan]

There is good info here.

I. I have never been to an mp, but maybe you should try that route for a while before seeing an sp. I'm thinking this will get you comfortable with the idea of being naked with a unfamiliar woman, and maybe this will help you become more confident that your appearance is a non-issue.

BigBert,
Homonger's advice is sound. As per my little saying I am a B.B.B.G. which is a big bald bearded guy.
For what it is worth I am 6" and 275.
I generally give a girl (whether MPA or SP) the option of bowing out of a date if they don't feel they can have fun with me (I shoud add hairy to my moniker as well).
So far I am 3 for 3 with the MPAs and 3 for 3 with the SPs.
I am a cleanliness freak for both me and the lady so they have all appreciated that fact.
Two of the MPAs told me that they have the most "attitude" trouble with the buff guys and that the big guys are more kind and attentive. If you hit it off with the lady (MPA or SP) she won't notice your size after a while. There are some positions that will cause problems because of our size but don't worry because the "professional" SP knows way more about sex than both of us.
She will figure out the best way for both of you to have fun.
I recommend using a well reviewed independent.
If I manage to hook up with our little RedHaired Vixen during my next visit to Niagara, I will let you know how she handles a BBBG.

Good luck my friend,
KF

 

[CyberGoth]

thinking in terms of 10 year blocks.

I'm amazed at how much better my self esteem, self confidence and general happiness are since I lost 300 pounds, got my teeth fixed and got chronic long term stress issues somewhat under control.

My first SP [she's active on terb btw] since the 80s was in may/june, delays were put in to get some heavy dental stuff done.

[I was utterly ashamed of having a mouth full of bad teeth from a car accident] and I really didnt want her to run screaming the second I opened my mouth.

the session was long, and really really good. she wont repeat but gee wiz all the other SPs since then all seem to really like me and I've repeated with several.

My newly found piercing hobby [getting them done, having them used on me and using them on friendly females] has turned out to be a good thing.

Its way better than just after last xmas when I sneezed and blew 2 teeth accross the room. [at which point our valiant hero SNAPPED]

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE YOUR LIFE GREAT ALL IT TAKES IS A LITTLE EFFORT AND TIME AND SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS.

have fun, play safe.
never give up, never back down, never let them win.

cheers
[having quite alot of fun with newly rebuilt life]

next project... [hot tub, 2 grrls with tongue piercings and some really nice ..... hmmm gotta think about that one, suggestions?]


teehee.

 

[CyberGoth]

tbill,

CyberGoth has recommended one SP and the little research that I've done so far is quite positive. Based both on the few reviews I've read and some of the postings she has made, she seems to be very intelligent and honestly concerned with providing a quality experience.

Perhaps I'm spending too much time thinking about this but it's a big departure from my past.

DUDE, just relax and call her up or email her... and GO FOR IT. probably best to book 2 hours.

I promise you will have lots of fun and feel incredibly better afterwards. caveat, this one is somewhat addictive.