I am a gentleman in his mid 30's who after a lengthy divorce has become completely jaded by the whole idea of marriage in general. I tried the dating scene for a few months and simply have found it to be a tedious and phony ritual that is best left to teenagers and other naive mortals.
At the expense of sounding cynical I have come to the conclusion that my personality is not cut out for marriage or dating. I am not a misogynist by any means nor do I consider myself to be demanding, insensitive or even selfish chauvinist (many of best friends are women with whom I have platonic relationships with)...I simply find my career and circle of friends to be far more fulfilling as it affords me a considerable amount of freedom and (my career in particular) is inherently 'anti-nesting' (hence the reason for my failure as a husband).
Although my brand of bachelorhood is not the kind that demands a sexually hedonistic lifestyle I do have my physical needs...because of this I have discovered escorts to provide that happy medium that satisfies these desires without having to 'delude' perfectly decent women that I 'have feelings for them' when all I really want is casual female companionship (whether it be simply cerebral or carnal) on demand without commitment.
Does this make me a shallow person? Perhaps. But I would be far more dishonest if I were to continue meeting women, becoming intimate with them and telling them what they want to hear for the sake of satisfying my physical needs....that would not only be incredibly dishonest but remarkably cruel....clearly far worst qualities than being shallow.
Since being divorced in January this year....dating since March...and giving up in July I have enjoyed the regular services of an SP which for now shall remain nameless. What have I discovered about this new experience and about myself? Well a great deal.
For starters, even meeting with her on a weekly basis for an average expense of $450 a week it has come out to be cheaper than my previous dating activities (not to toot my horn but bedding the women I dated was never a problem) even if one factors the number of times I had sex versus the $ I spent on them...the return on investment is higher with an SP.
Also the level of stress involved in dealing with the 'emotional externalities' (the guilt of not calling back and the need to have to keep in touch so as to not let them down hard) is nonexistent with escorting.
I have also discovered that it is easier to be 'myslef' with an escort than with many of my dates....odd that....I attribute this to the fact that 'getting laid' is a certainty and there is no need to be careful about what one says (short of being outright rude, a trait which any escort would not tolerate regardless how $ is involved) while on a date 'politics' is ever present in the background.
I had just discovered this website 3 weeks ago and it has opened my eyes to a whole new world of possibilities!! I know this sounds corny to all of you 'terb veterans' but this lifestyle is has been a god send to me.
I hope to exchange meaningful experiences with other hobbyists and hopefully hook up with other SP's so as to simple add variety to my new found lifestyle....I admit that prior to being married I took 'pity' on clients and escorts alike...considering them to be worthy of ridicule for 'paying for it' and having to deal with 'perverted strangers''.....the fact is that it was I that had 'Paid for it' and dearly as a married guy and the lady I have met as an SP could not be more delightful and worthy of admiration....my pity has been unwarranted and certainly not needed.
Ladies & gentlemen, any recommendations or advice for an 'escort virgin' like myself would be welcomed.
sincerely,
Vindicator
At the expense of sounding cynical I have come to the conclusion that my personality is not cut out for marriage or dating. I am not a misogynist by any means nor do I consider myself to be demanding, insensitive or even selfish chauvinist (many of best friends are women with whom I have platonic relationships with)...I simply find my career and circle of friends to be far more fulfilling as it affords me a considerable amount of freedom and (my career in particular) is inherently 'anti-nesting' (hence the reason for my failure as a husband).
Although my brand of bachelorhood is not the kind that demands a sexually hedonistic lifestyle I do have my physical needs...because of this I have discovered escorts to provide that happy medium that satisfies these desires without having to 'delude' perfectly decent women that I 'have feelings for them' when all I really want is casual female companionship (whether it be simply cerebral or carnal) on demand without commitment.
Does this make me a shallow person? Perhaps. But I would be far more dishonest if I were to continue meeting women, becoming intimate with them and telling them what they want to hear for the sake of satisfying my physical needs....that would not only be incredibly dishonest but remarkably cruel....clearly far worst qualities than being shallow.
Since being divorced in January this year....dating since March...and giving up in July I have enjoyed the regular services of an SP which for now shall remain nameless. What have I discovered about this new experience and about myself? Well a great deal.
For starters, even meeting with her on a weekly basis for an average expense of $450 a week it has come out to be cheaper than my previous dating activities (not to toot my horn but bedding the women I dated was never a problem) even if one factors the number of times I had sex versus the $ I spent on them...the return on investment is higher with an SP.
Also the level of stress involved in dealing with the 'emotional externalities' (the guilt of not calling back and the need to have to keep in touch so as to not let them down hard) is nonexistent with escorting.
I have also discovered that it is easier to be 'myslef' with an escort than with many of my dates....odd that....I attribute this to the fact that 'getting laid' is a certainty and there is no need to be careful about what one says (short of being outright rude, a trait which any escort would not tolerate regardless how $ is involved) while on a date 'politics' is ever present in the background.
I had just discovered this website 3 weeks ago and it has opened my eyes to a whole new world of possibilities!! I know this sounds corny to all of you 'terb veterans' but this lifestyle is has been a god send to me.
I hope to exchange meaningful experiences with other hobbyists and hopefully hook up with other SP's so as to simple add variety to my new found lifestyle....I admit that prior to being married I took 'pity' on clients and escorts alike...considering them to be worthy of ridicule for 'paying for it' and having to deal with 'perverted strangers''.....the fact is that it was I that had 'Paid for it' and dearly as a married guy and the lady I have met as an SP could not be more delightful and worthy of admiration....my pity has been unwarranted and certainly not needed.
Ladies & gentlemen, any recommendations or advice for an 'escort virgin' like myself would be welcomed.
sincerely,
Vindicator
