alan9080 said:
This has happened to me in the past and to other friends of mine. As long as you wine and dine her at fancy restaurants, take them on shopping trips, they will make you feel like they are madly in love with you. Once they clean you out, they will move on to another victim. I have a friend who lost his life savings, half of his pension and other assets. My advice to you is not to take your emotions when you go this clubs. Just enjoy the beer, food and the dancers.
These are wonderful comments, absolutely wonderful, and oh so accurate. They reflect several of my own experiences to a tee but I'll confine my detailed comments to just two cases. There are exceptions of course but the exceptions are very few and far between.
I met a charming Haitian lady at the Playmate and Club 61 back in February (my first visits to a SC) and I gave her my business card (bad decision) and invited her to call me. She did indeed call me. We had a few meals together, she danced privately for me at my place and I paid her handsomely (no FS, just CBJ and HJ). Then came the "stories", e.g., "I can't pay my rent", "My cell phone fell into the toilet", "My handbag was stolen", "It's my birthday next week", etc. I fell for the stories hook(er), line and sinker! The legitimate private dancing cost me $1400 (4 sessions, no complaints there) but the "stories" cost me $2450 with absolutely nothing coming back to me in return. She then disappeared completely although she's probably still working at the Playmate and that awful Club 61 ... She's a very nice person to talk with and be with ..... just don't fall for her very creative "stories". Including additional "gifts" I spent a total of $4750.00 on this fine lady.
A few months later I met a Martiniquian hottie (a student) on Adult Friend Finder. Things started off quite well (BBBJ, HJ, FS @ $250/hour) but I failed to see the red flags until it was too late, things like "I need an MP3 Player" ($350) and "I have to pay my overdue tuition fees" ($2000 ....... yep, $2000!). After that things started going downhill but she still managed to get me to cough up $200 towards her rent, a $300 birthday gift (that was of my own volition) and a $200 emergency "I beg you" email money transfer. We had originally agreed that she would "work off" the $2000 tuition fee "loan" but that never happened. After the email money transfer she disappeared literally without a trace. No wonder she never wanted me to know where she lived ....
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I spent a total of $4800 on this fine lady.
I'm not really bitter as this is all part of life and life is a continual learning experience. However, I find it totally demoralizing that one human being can treat another human being like this. Whenever you try to genuinely help someone in need it always seems to backfire ...... Damn it, my wife wasn't such a bad person after all ...... !!
"Once bitten, twice shy", or so the expression goes, but in my case I've been bitten 5 or 6 times and I'm currently working on the 7th bite .... My savings have certainly taken a hit but, thankfully, my pension is still intact .... !!!
All of this reminds me of the 1973 song "PAINTED LADIES" by the Canadian singer Ian Thomas:
http://www.ianthomasband.com/
"Ooh ooh feeling fine mama,
PAINTED LADIES and a bottle of wine mama,
Ooh ooh feeling good mama
They took my money like I knew they would"
That's the way it is folks! If you want a lady with whom you have no real emotional attachment to give you some of the most intimate things that a woman can give to a man then you really have to pay for it .... no ifs, ands or buts (butts?) ...