need help: should i go through with it?

[tomtom123]

Hello All,

Bascially, my question is whether I should go through with seeing an escort. While I dont think i find anything morally wrong with seeing one, I do have doubts and am uncomfortable with the idea. That being said, here is some background information.

I am 25 years old and not very sexually experienced. By that i mean that i have had lots of sexual encounters but have never actually had intercourse. In my younger days i never really dwelled on it as i figured it would just happen when it happens but now im in a bit of a weird situation because ive had lots of opportunities to have sex but i find some way not to do it for fear that i am not experienced enough for whoever my partner is and what she will think. If i tell her ive never had sex, it'll be weird and if i dont and go ahead with it she'll think i just suck at it or call me out on it. Im not sure which is worse.

As you can see my lack of experience is causing me some performance anxiety in that when things get sexual (non intercourse) i dont last very long and i subconsiously dont try to get to intercourse for the reasons mentioned above. If it was a matter of a one night stand i wouldnt care about what the other person thought about my experience or performance, but the problem is when i actually do meet someone special. Also, please dont respond by saying that someone special wont care about my experience or that im a virgin, its more about what i think of myself and my confidence.

So back to my question, should i see a couple escorts for "practice" and to finally get the virginity monkey off my back?

Thank You,
Any help would be appreciated.

 

[MrJake]

I don't think anyone here is going to try and talk you out of seeing an escort, having said that I'm sure someone will now

My advice is to do research and find a lady that you're attracted to, try and talk with her, email or phone and explain your situation, I'm sure many would be happy to help you out and make you feel as comfortable as possible.

 

[mandrill]

Assuming you're a genuine poster and not a prankster, the answer is "Yes, of course".

You need to get a little sexual experience, both to enhance your own performance and to enable you to appreciate the type of women you are truly attracted to. And seeing escorts is..... err, fun. At least once you get used to it. And really not that expensive these days.

 

[tomtom123]

im just nervous about actually seeing one. I was hoping for people to talk me into it not talk me out of it lol. Is there any suggestions of how to go about it for a first time person like me or any posts about this subject that anyone can dig up of similar people with this kind of issue.

I donno, i dont wanna just rush into it and regret it but the clock is ticking and ive missed out on enough "real" sexual opportunities because of my own issue with experience. Its either this or constant drunken one night stands and im pretty sure this way would be easier and the girls better looking and more rewarding.

 

[GG2]

Absolutely, but remember you won't be able to stop once you've started, so you're going to be in debt for many years. But think of it as an investment like university tuition or a mortgage.

 

[Dong Joe]

Practice makes perfect! Spit on your dick and fuck her bro!!

 

[tomtom123]

Assuming you're a genuine poster and not a prankster, the answer is "Yes, of course".

You need to get a little sexual experience, both to enhance your own performance and to enable you to appreciate the type of women you are truly attracted to. And seeing escorts is..... err, fun. At least once you get used to it. And really not that expensive these days.

how dangerous is it? ive browsed the forums here for a while so i know of what agencies there are but is it generally safe?

 

[amaya777]

Just make sure is Lady with a good rep. dont wanna waste your money on an unknown that will give you a crappy exp and leave you regretting wasting your money on a SP.

 

[Dong Joe]

Well you might get the clap, basically a throat cold of the dick. Go to a walk in and take antibiotics for 2 weeks. But really, you have a better chance of getting that from a bar girl. If the pussy stinks, don't touch it with anything or touch yourself after touching it. DATY is good for inspecting the area for obvious cuts or sores before you pound her out. pc

 

[tomtom123]

Well you might get the clap, basically a throat cold of the dick. Go to a walk in and take antibiotics for 2 weeks. But really, you have a better chance of getting that from a bar girl. If the pussy stinks, don't touch it with anything or touch yourself after touching it. DATY is good for inspecting the area for obvious cuts or sores before you pound her out. pc

I should clarify that i dont plan on doing anything without a condom and since i have lots of experience with the foreplay stuff (bj's and all that) im not looking for that kind of service. I dont plan on kissing them or going down on them or anything. The only thing i need experience with is intercourse. If the girl is stunning and i cant resist then thats a different story but im "planning" on only the intercourse side of things.

 

[tomtom123]

also, i mean dangerous as in terms of getting caught/arrested not healthwise. It would not be worth it for me to end up in jail or arrested and have people i know find out about it. That would be worse than death.

 

[Aardvark154]

Assuming you're a genuine poster and not a prankster, the answer is "Yes, of course".

You need to get a little sexual experience, both to enhance your own performance and to enable you to appreciate the type of women you are truly attracted to. And seeing escorts is..... err, fun. At least once you get used to it. And really not that expensive these days.

"What he said."


It appears: a) you are unmarried, b) not in any mutually exclusive relationship (or the other partner believes it to be), if so why not!

p.s. Kissing is fun!

 

[Dong Joe]

A condom won't protect you from the clap bro! That shit contagious!

You should warm her up regardless of whether she's getting paid or not. At least finger her if you won't eat it. 5 minutes of foreplay should be enough.

Stick to outcalls if you're worried about getting caught, but sometimes that's half the fun!

 

[CUTTERBUCK]

Also, i mean dangerous as in terms of getting caught/arrested not healthwise. It would not be worth it for me to end up in jail or arrested and have people i know find out about it. That would be worse than death.

You need to remember that prostitution is legal in Canada. The risks of getting “caught” are minimal if you stick with the professional, well reviewed ladies.

 

[Dong Joe]

I'll share one of my own personal tricks for the massage parlour or whatever that I've learned the hardway more than once:

Touch her pussy / remove the condom with one hand only, and only use the other hand to touch yourself.

Then just don't clap

 

[tomtom123]

A condom won't protect you from the clap bro! That shit contagious!

You should warm her up regardless of whether she's getting paid or not. At least finger her if you won't eat it. 5 minutes of foreplay should be enough.

Stick to outcalls if you're worried about getting caught, but sometimes that's half the fun!

Outcalls are not logistically possible for me. Are incalls prone to getting busted? I understand that its "legal" but the humiliation of just getting busted on some sort of weird technicality is enough of a deterrent for me.

If i stick with a reputable company (one advertised here) is there still a risk of getting busted?

 

[Dong Joe]

Outcall to a hotel is an option too, but expensive I know. Incalls go against the "keeping a common bawdy-house" laws, and they used to get raided all the time. Now this is a grey area due to some pending appeals and possible new legislation.

The women have a point, they deserve to be off the streets and have a safe place to work out of.

Do yourself a favour and drive by and scope out the incall before you show up. Park nearby and walk there. Keep your wits about you. If anyone asks, you're just there for a massage or to visit a friend. If you get weirded out, or she is unacceptable, just say you're sorry for wasting her time and walk out of there even if they try to strongarm you.

 

[mightymouse007]

Hello All,

Bascially, my question is whether I should go through with seeing an escort. While I dont think i find anything morally wrong with seeing one, I do have doubts and am uncomfortable with the idea. That being said, here is some background information.

I am 25 years old and not very sexually experienced. By that i mean that i have had lots of sexual encounters but have never actually had intercourse. In my younger days i never really dwelled on it as i figured it would just happen when it happens but now im in a bit of a weird situation because ive had lots of opportunities to have sex but i find some way not to do it for fear that i am not experienced enough for whoever my partner is and what she will think. If i tell her ive never had sex, it'll be weird and if i dont and go ahead with it she'll think i just suck at it or call me out on it. Im not sure which is worse.

As you can see my lack of experience is causing me some performance anxiety in that when things get sexual (non intercourse) i dont last very long and i subconsiously dont try to get to intercourse for the reasons mentioned above. If it was a matter of a one night stand i wouldnt care about what the other person thought about my experience or performance, but the problem is when i actually do meet someone special. Also, please dont respond by saying that someone special wont care about my experience or that im a virgin, its more about what i think of myself and my confidence.

So back to my question, should i see a couple escorts for "practice" and to finally get the virginity monkey off my back?

Thank You,
Any help would be appreciated.

I say just go with your instinct. If you want to try it out, go for it.
I'm also too indecisive with this decision just like you. I'm 27. So far, I have only been to strip clubs, spa's and see MPA's
I would prefer going through it with YMMV.

But for me, escort service definitely not the break for me. As long as I feel I had fun, and a wonderful experience, that's all good.

 

[therocket]

Yes go for it...you will gain confidence and be able to get laid with civvies...and have fun...just remember the pros are people too and treat them with respect they are fantastic

 

[trod]

I was in a similar position.

I would highly recommend an outcall to your hotel. If you can afford it, do 2 hours. Would also say you book a well reviewed SP. Research the reviews here and I also suggest you try one of the lovely independent escorts that advertise here as doing some email exchange prior to meeting would help you make things clear to the SP that you are not experienced and the connection with the girl will feel more personal than say calling up agency or going to an incall. Most if not all SPs have had guys who popped their cherry seeing an escort so its not like they will laugh at you.

Show them respect, good hygiene, relaxed attitude and trust me, they will counter that with giving you an enjoyable experience.

Good luck and have fun.