Misstress or Mrtress?

[Jabba]

Tiger Woods and Jesse James have gotten a lot of tiresome press over their extra-marital indulgences. It looks like both will end-up in divorce court. That bites for everyone, but, does it have to be that way?

Here's the rub, I accept that I have my wondering ways too. To deny my nature is, well, unrealistic. I've been giving some serious thought to having a regular, undercover relationship. A FWB or something close. I don't want to piss-off my SO and have to do something ridiculous like go to sex rehab (sorry Tiger). I know there are some who could offer helpful opinions on morality or openness and truthfulness. Believe me, I would understand those concepts. I'm just asking for some "what if" thinking here.

Has anyone here been successful in having a LT affair? Is it worth trying? How would you start one? I'm addressing both sides of the table here - ladies, if you have experience, I would value your opinions.

 

[Dougal Short]

LT affairs get very complicated. I had one for many years, and ultimately left my wife at the time for her... and we got married. And still are. Oddly, I would describe myself as very happily married. She's much younger, hot, and has a good job...

But, like you, I still need the variety I guess. So I see SPs... no muss, no fuss. My advice is that if you want to stay married to your wife, avoid the "affairs" and just pay as you go.

 

[walk]

My opinion - a LT affair is probably not the way to go, in most cases feelings will develop and the result of that is that someone will get hurt. So my vote would be pay as you go.

 

[stripes2ca]

I believe that the only way a LT affair can survive is if both parties are married and are looking for that extra on the side that will satisfy their lack of attention at home. In my case, been seeing the same lady for 3 years now and because neither of us want to ruin our relationships at home we are happy to see each other once every two weeks or so. If we see each other out and around with our SO's we just smile as if to say hello..... so far it has worked pretty good. We also never use our own homes, always go to one of the local hotels in the city or out of town. We also have email accounts that only the 2 of us know about. It can work, both of us are 40 plus!!