Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship
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"As per our prenuptual agreement, you must now leave this house, taking only what you brought with you into the marriage. What? The affair didn't mean anything? It was a one-off and will never happen again? I don't care. Fark you. Get out of my house. Now."
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The Scenario,aviator57 said:
I arrive home to find my wife doing reverse cowgirl with her ripped muscular lover.
My reacton:
"Kewl, MFM sex. Party on.... Can I have some of that pussy when you are done dude?"
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It happened to me... a long time ago...
I turned my back and walked away.,.. A day later I went back with a truck and a friend and loaded all my stuff into it and drove away. Never said a word to her.
She filed divorce a couple years later and that was it.
I turned my back and walked away.,.. A day later I went back with a truck and a friend and loaded all my stuff into it and drove away. Never said a word to her.
She filed divorce a couple years later and that was it.
I'm not married, but if I was:
I guess I'd feel sad/hurt if I discovered she was cheating on me.
Then I would want to know why. If our relationship wasn't working, we'd need to address that. A lot of women seek affaairs becasue they are not happy at home (whereas guys just like variety for the most part).
If she loved me and wanted me but was a nymphomaniac who wanted more action from fu-- buddies, then I'd say "OK, but I get to do SP's - fair is fair". I don't mind an open relationship if it is centered in love and commitment. Maybe I'd suggest joining a swingers club, having threesomes, etc. There would be an appeal of sorts in knowing I could do any cute SP without fear of being caught and just say "Well, you do the pool boy, so what if I did an 18-year-old hottie over lunch? Sure, I did her - I thought you liked open relationships - I'm just being open...you asked how my day went...
It all boils down to is she cheating becasue she no longer loves me/wants to be with me and wants to run off with the other guy (ie she's a bolter), or is she happy to be married and love me (and the kids) but just wants to foolaround for fun in a series of meaningless romps just for added sexual pleasure/entertainment. If it is the former, than the marriage is toast; if it is the later, well, if she is a good wife, good in bed with me, keeps house and is a good mother to the kids...I'm not going to throw it all away just becasue she is extra horny and likes the occassional trist with some guy she fancies. I'd say "bring a secret video camera in your purse and film the encounter, then we can watch it as an aphrodesiac before having sex ourselves one night. If there is more than 25 years age difference between us, I'd be even more inclined to shrug it off.
What every guy fears is the coming home to the conversation that goes: "Our relationship isn't working...I've met someone else. It's (insert one of) your brother, your best friend, your boss, MLAM, etc. We're running off together. Goodbye."
Of course I'd prefer a marriage to be one where she adores me and would never cheat, and I satisfied her needs, and she mine. I'm just saying that I'd rather have her bed bouncing and happy than unhappy and sighing round the house all day.
I guess I'd feel sad/hurt if I discovered she was cheating on me.
Then I would want to know why. If our relationship wasn't working, we'd need to address that. A lot of women seek affaairs becasue they are not happy at home (whereas guys just like variety for the most part).
If she loved me and wanted me but was a nymphomaniac who wanted more action from fu-- buddies, then I'd say "OK, but I get to do SP's - fair is fair". I don't mind an open relationship if it is centered in love and commitment. Maybe I'd suggest joining a swingers club, having threesomes, etc. There would be an appeal of sorts in knowing I could do any cute SP without fear of being caught and just say "Well, you do the pool boy, so what if I did an 18-year-old hottie over lunch? Sure, I did her - I thought you liked open relationships - I'm just being open...you asked how my day went...
It all boils down to is she cheating becasue she no longer loves me/wants to be with me and wants to run off with the other guy (ie she's a bolter), or is she happy to be married and love me (and the kids) but just wants to foolaround for fun in a series of meaningless romps just for added sexual pleasure/entertainment. If it is the former, than the marriage is toast; if it is the later, well, if she is a good wife, good in bed with me, keeps house and is a good mother to the kids...I'm not going to throw it all away just becasue she is extra horny and likes the occassional trist with some guy she fancies. I'd say "bring a secret video camera in your purse and film the encounter, then we can watch it as an aphrodesiac before having sex ourselves one night. If there is more than 25 years age difference between us, I'd be even more inclined to shrug it off.
What every guy fears is the coming home to the conversation that goes: "Our relationship isn't working...I've met someone else. It's (insert one of) your brother, your best friend, your boss, MLAM, etc. We're running off together. Goodbye."
Of course I'd prefer a marriage to be one where she adores me and would never cheat, and I satisfied her needs, and she mine. I'm just saying that I'd rather have her bed bouncing and happy than unhappy and sighing round the house all day.
Cheating on someone implies monogamy: that's a concept I am uncomfortable with. I'd be glad sex is that important to her.
Devastated and betrayed. Followed by a 'phone call to the Lawyer who drafted the prenuptial agreement - I guess we'll find out how ironclad it is. Followed by a trip to the Courthouse to file for Divorce.
It is my observation that although some couples are able to repair the relationship, cheating tends to be one of those things it is very hard to get over.
It is my observation that although some couples are able to repair the relationship, cheating tends to be one of those things it is very hard to get over.
I absolutely love your perspective. being adventurous is an important part of a marriage. I love to share my current partner, and if i was married, my significant other would simply have to accept my adventurous lifestyle and join in or simply move on.alexmst said:I'm not married, but if I was:
I guess I'd feel sad/hurt if I discovered she was cheating on me.
Then I would want to know why. If our relationship wasn't working, we'd need to address that. A lot of women seek affaairs becasue they are not happy at home (whereas guys just like variety for the most part).
If she loved me and wanted me but was a nymphomaniac who wanted more action from fu-- buddies, then I'd say "OK, but I get to do SP's - fair is fair". I don't mind an open relationship if it is centered in love and commitment. Maybe I'd suggest joining a swingers club, having threesomes, etc. There would be an appeal of sorts in knowing I could do any cute SP without fear of being caught and just say "Well, you do the pool boy, so what if I did an 18-year-old hottie over lunch? Sure, I did her - I thought you liked open relationships - I'm just being open...you asked how my day went...
It all boils down to is she cheating becasue she no longer loves me/wants to be with me and wants to run off with the other guy (ie she's a bolter), or is she happy to be married and love me (and the kids) but just wants to foolaround for fun in a series of meaningless romps just for added sexual pleasure/entertainment. If it is the former, than the marriage is toast; if it is the later, well, if she is a good wife, good in bed with me, keeps house and is a good mother to the kids...I'm not going to throw it all away just becasue she is extra horny and likes the occassional trist with some guy she fancies. I'd say "bring a secret video camera in your purse and film the encounter, then we can watch it as an aphrodesiac before having sex ourselves one night. If there is more than 25 years age difference between us, I'd be even more inclined to shrug it off.
What every guy fears is the coming home to the conversation that goes: "Our relationship isn't working...I've met someone else. It's (insert one of) your brother, your best friend, your boss, MLAM, etc. We're running off together. Goodbye."
Of course I'd prefer a marriage to be one where she adores me and would never cheat, and I satisfied her needs, and she mine. I'm just saying that I'd rather have her bed bouncing and happy than unhappy and sighing round the house all day.
I second that opinion.....
If more couples had the same or similar attitudes perhaps more marriages would last. It is difficult to stay faithful if you are not getting what you need at home and worse when you truly love the person you are with. Awful choices to make at times.
If more couples had the same or similar attitudes perhaps more marriages would last. It is difficult to stay faithful if you are not getting what you need at home and worse when you truly love the person you are with. Awful choices to make at times.
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