Making the decision to see an SP

[Bigbossfan]

My personal story. I've been lurking here for well over two years now. Just recently started posting because I'm getting more and more interested in testing the waters with the reviews I read on here.

I'm married (somewhat happily), but something is missing and the excitement of seeing an SP is getting the better of me. I've come very close to booking on a few occasions now. As a matter of fact I had my first session booked for this evening but cancelled due to a conflict, but if I really really wanted to keep the booking I could have. The one thing that kept buzzing in the back of my head is "Damn, she's gonna sense something.....I'm going to be nervous when I get home she'll figure something's up" etc etc. Seeing an SP will be my first venture outside my marriage other than some flirtatious activity on about 3 occassions after 11 years of marriage.

So, my question is essentially for anyone who struggled with the decision to see an SP. How did you come to the decision to do so?

If this is a retarded question, flame away!

BBF

 

[papasmerf]

Let us know when you make the appointment

Oh and book 2 hours will free your wife up longer

 

[Bigbossfan]

Well, that's got to be the funniest post I've ever read on TERB

For someone who has as many posts as you do, I'd think you'd have the common courtesy to keep negative comments to yourself. But to each his own I guess.

 

[canbreathethroughearsmale]

Now, saying this, I'm not married, but, I finally just said f*&k it. I just found a girl I really felt I could be comfortable with, that being Jennifer. Make no mistake about it though, I was still extremely nervous. I know for you, it's different, because you are married. For me it was what if someone finds out as I am quite involved with the community as a volunteer.

 

[freshbreath]

my advice would be to (if you haven't already) visit an MP first
look at the various sites and reviews, and find a lady you seem you might like (I have some suggestions if you want, PM me)

you'll get used to being nude with a strange lady, and dealing with the fact that you did something outside of your marriage, even though there was no real sex

it's a good safe stepping stone for you to evaluate how to safely negotiate around your wife

 

[PHNINE]

As you said in your post above, this is a hobby, your hobby. Don't rush into it, or do it when you are not ready. There will always be SP's to see and trust me they aren't going anywhere. So take your time, lurk some more and the key here sounds like you need to find the exact women that fits your criteria, instead of just some random girl. If there are many women you'd liek to see, then narrow it down to a top three. Get in contact with them if that would make you feel better. Just remember to take your time...

If I am correct, it sounds like you wanted to have an outcall to your home. If this is your fist time, then I would suggest you book a room at a hotel or motel instead. Keeping your private residence away from this hobby is key. Never know what unfortunate circumstance may occur. Being at a hotel eliminates all these variables. Even if you check out of the hotel at 1am, the only person that will know is the clerk at the front desk. You can shower, you can relax, you get home clean and technically hobby free. If a paper trail is what you are worried about, then pay with cash instead of a credit card. They will not bill the card if you ask them not too.

Aside from these quick pointers, I cannot stress enough for you to take your time with this. Only do it when you are ready. And of course, the only thing this hobbyist asks in return is to write a review for all of us to read. If you have been lurking for two years, then you should know what a good review looks like.

Happy hunting buddy...

 

[skypilot]

When you get home, your wife will see the guilt written on your face. She will make you drop your pants and she will smell your dick. Thats not my pussy! she will exclaim. Just lie, lie, lie. Never admit it and you will get away with it.

 

[canbreathethroughearsmale]

your wife can smell her own pussy, lucky guy, she must be really flexible, lol, just kidding

 

[Dodger]

I would follow Freshbreathes advise here and that is what I did when I started in the hobby. I had a similar history and story to yours when I started and I was nervous and scared the wife would find out.

My first visit to an MP was a well established spa that was and still is highly recommended. Oh at it was miles from my residence so no fear of running into some one that I know. The lady was carefully chosen after months of research and checking reviews. It was a good experience for me, but I was still nervous and showered when I got home to put the normal smells back on, ie deoderant and soap. The wife was away for a few hours yet so it all worked out well.

The first visit didn't come right away there were many almost first visits before I got the nerve up to finally pull the first one off, no pun intended.

After about 6 months or a year of MP's I moved into the SP side of the hobby and have rarely visited MP's since. I believe I am getting better value for the dollar with the SP than the MP.

Also as Phnine has said be slow and careful when starting out. Research the ladies as best you can and use the resources on here to your advantage. There are a lot of threads for newbies and they all have valuable information about what to do, expect and not to expect. Also a lot of helpful ideas on diverting the wifes possibility of finding out.

Enjoy and make sure to give us a review when you do finally make the plunge.

 

[freshbreath]

Dodger brings up two great points,

1. make sure it's an established "upscale" MP
2. make sure it's not too close to your residence or work

 

[PHNINE]

Sorry I was under the impression BBF had already been through the MP scene or has at least tried it and was looking to see an SP now. If this is in fact the case, then I would also recommend seeing an MPA first. We'll have to see what he says...

 

[MarkII]

Phine's advice is bang on..so to speak.

Your guilt will be your problem..ease into it.

Remember one thing though..marriages do not fail because of one person..it is a mutual failure.

M2

 

[Meister]

Don't do it. After you see your first SP it's all downhill from there. Before you know it you'll be in the hole for 20k or more. The more you do it the less fulfilled you'll feel. Instead take up Parkour, it's wicked. It's all the rage in Europe.

Parkour is a physical discipline of French origin in which the participant — called a traceur — attempts to pass obstacles in the fastest and most direct manner possible, using skills such as jumping, vaulting and climbing, or the more specific parkour moves. The obstacles can be anything in the environment, so parkour is often practiced in urban areas because of many suitable public structures, such as buildings, rails, and walls.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parkour

..or just forget what I said and get your knob polished.

 

[Svend]

You say you're somewhat happily married, my advice is to stay faithful to her - you're one of the fortunate ones.

 

[Bigbossfan]

Took the advice

Well, first and foremost thanks very much for all your input. It is much appreciated. I did take the advice of those that told me to see a MPA to start out. Which I did. I saw Christina @ Platinum. (I'll post a review in the forum).

So I went from sitting on the fence to having my first experience in a few short hours. It was amazing how once things began my nervousness and shyness was gone

When I do finally make that leap to SP it would never be to my home. To many nosy neighbours!

Thanks again to all who provided constructive input.

 

[daKoolGuy]

BBF, I faced the same predicament as yourself. I practice this hobby when my SO is out of town. Research definitely helps in finding the right person. I did realize one thing and that is, it was only physical and when I step out of the room, I do not think of the incident or the lady in question. Just a change of taste, I would say.

 

[Dodger]

BBF glad that it went well. The next decisions that you make, stay in the MPA side or move to SP's will come pretty easy. You will feel comfortable with the level of intimacy or want more. Good hunting

 

[toughb]

Remember Tie "whoever". The guy who's now a notch on Belindas belt.

Your wife will find out. Sooner or latter. Your SP will charge you a fortune to snuggle up to you night after night. Never mind the sock folding charge.

I'm not cheating. I'm single.