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As for genuine quality, how many guys are looking for women who just has genuine qualities? <exclude looks> I don't think there are many.
I'd say you are right that the majority of men, are attracted to looks initially, but looks alone are virtually irrelevant and become secondary, long term, and in many cases even short term. Mannerisms, demeanour, personality and other subtleties can and do effect a persons physical appearance and value; either enhancing or negating to varying degrees. How would one go abt judging, from an outside perspective, the percentage of people who value looks over other qualities anyway. By the standard we are brainwashed with by the media ? It doesn't take much observational skill to look around and realise that not everyone has the same idea as to what defines a primarily valuable personality trait or what is perceived as physically beautiful.
As for women, how many of them are looking for guys with genuine qualities? <exclude money & money making quality>
I don't doubt there are many women, who value money as a factor when seeking out a mate and it may come into play in their attraction, but there is much more to "supporting" someone than money and I think those assets are far more valuable to many women.
I'm not sure how to really answer this, because in "my world" most women do not seem to care too much about a mans money or ability to make money. I'm not really interested in stats, societies programming or what the media dictates to be reality. I tend to think that the importance of $ would vary,with some cross over, of course, between social groups and people of different upbringing, programming and / or social status. Not everyone buys into the Ikea nesting instinct and I think that many who do, are trying to compensate for lack of other real needs being fulfilled. There are a lot of unhappy, bitter, lost people who are well supported financially.
We, as human, a living organism seek to reproduce offsprings that are better than us.
You completely lost me on this one, I'm afraid. I can't imagine being attracted to someone based on such a notion. It sounds like some futuristic Aryan race type motivation. I think we are confusing attraction and actually seeking out a partner to some degree in this whole issue. The bottom line, as I alluded to earlier, is that we will end up with someone we are attracted to rather than what we seek and then the rest falls into place. At that point, if we feel the need to procreate, as such, all we would want is to have healthy and happy children.
For the sake of "bantering" [ : ) ] lets assume we do seek out partners that will produce "better" offspring. Wouldn't we seek out intelligent, caring, chemically balanced partners that would give our children a more secure chance in life, despite all the odds that society places on us.
BTW If I'm not mistaken, George Bush was nominated for "the noble peace prize" Enough said.
Sure, you might have the money, but how could the MPA trust you in that you wouldn't use it all in another MPA after you married her?
This, I have to agree, would most likely be an outlook many MPA's may have and in talking to some, in fact, do. Not that being hypocritical is an argument in itself, but many MPA's are leading double lives themselves and you would think that some may be open minded enough to realise that some hobbyists are only trying to fulfil a need, that in their mind, is better than cheating within in the context of another "real" relationship. Whether their perception is valid or not, is another issue. There's no doubt though that trust is a major issue in any relationship. Then there are clients who are trying to fulfil a need that would far better be served within that real relationship, so would no longer feel that need to attempt to fill it through "hobbying". I'm sure there are many variations on these and other possible scenarios.
As I said, in another thread recently I wish someone would tell one of my favourite MPA's who retired and married a client that she wasn't supposed to fall for him. It does happen, and some of those relationships work out while others, obviously would not.
Of course most women / MPA's would expect a certain level of income to come from a partner, but it cannot be a primary factor, if any at all, in most cases. It seems that people have an extremely skewed perception of an MPA's income and standard of living.
I also think that many of us will view all this, not from an objective standpoint, but through our own bias in how we learned to see the world and, in particular, insecurities. No big revelation, I know.
all MPAs would fall in love with you. Eat your heart out Sheik!
