Lingam massage
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Here are 5 steps for giving him an out-of-this-world Lingam massage (aka penis massage):
1. Set the scene.
Forgo the bedside lamps and go for candlelight instead. Set the mood with relaxing music and incense to make the atmosphere extra exotic.
You’ll want to have an unscented, all natural oil like the kind in the Sliquid Balance Collection for the massage and one or two hand towels nearby. If you prefer to use a commercial massage oil with a scent, you’ll want to have some lube on hand for the main event, as some additives and scented essential oils can be very irritating to that sensitive area.
2. Use a deliberate touch.
Ask your lover to lie down face-up and close his eyes. Warming the oil in your hands, begin to spread the liquid over his entire body. As you are rubbing his body, set your intention to do this in the most loving and caring way. Make believe you’ve never touched this person before and slowly explore every part of his body with each rhythmic stroke.
These caresses will slow his heart rate, reduce any stress from the day and speed up the release of oxytocin, which promotes feelings of well-being.
3. Let massage time begin.
When it comes time to massage his penis, make certain your hands are oiled or lubed.
For beginners, think of massaging his penis as if you were deconstructing a handjob. Do everything you might do in a hand job, but break up the actions and go much slower:
Try cradling his balls and massage in between his testicles. Rub his perineum while you gently stroke his shaft.
Concentrate on just the head of his penis. Use one hand like a “juicer” and gently move the other up and down his shaft.
Really oil up your hands, put his dick in between your laced fingers, and move up and down with a firm grip.
Take your interlaced hands above his corona (head of his penis) and even more firmly bring them down again, mimicking the opening to your vagina. Then watch his toes curl.
4. Honor the Lingam.
Part of the mindset of a Lingam massage is honoring his penis.
Think about how much trust it takes for a man to give up complete control of not just his penis, but his entire body to another person. Respect this relinquishment and handle his body and his penis with the care and reverence it deserves. Intention is everything here.
Again, the goal is not for him to orgasm (although that’s a lovely side benefit if he does), but to allow him to receive pleasure and tune into the sensual array of sensations his penis can experience.
5. Be prepared for him to experience a full-body orgasm.
You might find that throughout the massage your partner could vary from hard to soft and everywhere in between. This is completely normal and has nothing to do with his level of enjoyment.
Continue your massaging, stroking, grazing and fondling of his cock. In fact, by “edging” his orgasm — bringing him close to coming and then back down again over and over — later, perhaps when both of you are having sex, this will make it more intense.
Some men report that they have a full-body orgasm. This is a powerful orgasm where he may also feel a pulsing sensation in other parts of his body, like his torso, thighs, and feet. Even others report a “heady” feeling of euphoria more profound and deep than they have experienced in orgasms past.
While there are way too many techniques to go over here, I highly recommend the book “Red Hot Touch: A Head-to-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms” by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer, as well as her companion DVD, “Red Hot Touch: Genital Massage for Men.” I have found Jaiya’s series of books and DVDs to be the best for beginners. They offer a more in-depth explanation of the specific techniques of Lingam massage.
1. Set the scene.
Forgo the bedside lamps and go for candlelight instead. Set the mood with relaxing music and incense to make the atmosphere extra exotic.
You’ll want to have an unscented, all natural oil like the kind in the Sliquid Balance Collection for the massage and one or two hand towels nearby. If you prefer to use a commercial massage oil with a scent, you’ll want to have some lube on hand for the main event, as some additives and scented essential oils can be very irritating to that sensitive area.
2. Use a deliberate touch.
Ask your lover to lie down face-up and close his eyes. Warming the oil in your hands, begin to spread the liquid over his entire body. As you are rubbing his body, set your intention to do this in the most loving and caring way. Make believe you’ve never touched this person before and slowly explore every part of his body with each rhythmic stroke.
These caresses will slow his heart rate, reduce any stress from the day and speed up the release of oxytocin, which promotes feelings of well-being.
3. Let massage time begin.
When it comes time to massage his penis, make certain your hands are oiled or lubed.
For beginners, think of massaging his penis as if you were deconstructing a handjob. Do everything you might do in a hand job, but break up the actions and go much slower:
Try cradling his balls and massage in between his testicles. Rub his perineum while you gently stroke his shaft.
Concentrate on just the head of his penis. Use one hand like a “juicer” and gently move the other up and down his shaft.
Really oil up your hands, put his dick in between your laced fingers, and move up and down with a firm grip.
Take your interlaced hands above his corona (head of his penis) and even more firmly bring them down again, mimicking the opening to your vagina. Then watch his toes curl.
4. Honor the Lingam.
Part of the mindset of a Lingam massage is honoring his penis.
Think about how much trust it takes for a man to give up complete control of not just his penis, but his entire body to another person. Respect this relinquishment and handle his body and his penis with the care and reverence it deserves. Intention is everything here.
Again, the goal is not for him to orgasm (although that’s a lovely side benefit if he does), but to allow him to receive pleasure and tune into the sensual array of sensations his penis can experience.
5. Be prepared for him to experience a full-body orgasm.
You might find that throughout the massage your partner could vary from hard to soft and everywhere in between. This is completely normal and has nothing to do with his level of enjoyment.
Continue your massaging, stroking, grazing and fondling of his cock. In fact, by “edging” his orgasm — bringing him close to coming and then back down again over and over — later, perhaps when both of you are having sex, this will make it more intense.
Some men report that they have a full-body orgasm. This is a powerful orgasm where he may also feel a pulsing sensation in other parts of his body, like his torso, thighs, and feet. Even others report a “heady” feeling of euphoria more profound and deep than they have experienced in orgasms past.
While there are way too many techniques to go over here, I highly recommend the book “Red Hot Touch: A Head-to-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms” by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer, as well as her companion DVD, “Red Hot Touch: Genital Massage for Men.” I have found Jaiya’s series of books and DVDs to be the best for beginners. They offer a more in-depth explanation of the specific techniques of Lingam massage.
This lady used to advertise it all the time. I have not seen her so can't comment on her skill. She advertises on Kijiji all the time and sometimes puts "try my lingam massage " in the ad. The following link had it this am but when I checked back she had removed it as I think Kijiji is cracking down on any ads that suggest that the massage is more than therapeutic.
https://www.kijiji.ca/v-health-beauty/ottawa/relaxing-full-body-massage/1479080827
This link is probably only good for today as she posts, deletes and re-posts to avoid paying any bump up fees to Kijiji.
Just found an old post where she lists it.
https://www.kijiji.ca/v-view-details.html?adId=1479031891
https://www.kijiji.ca/v-health-beauty/ottawa/relaxing-full-body-massage/1479080827
This link is probably only good for today as she posts, deletes and re-posts to avoid paying any bump up fees to Kijiji.
Just found an old post where she lists it.
https://www.kijiji.ca/v-view-details.html?adId=1479031891
