thank you all for your support (no, not a Bartle and James ad). Well, after 8 months and a couple of bottles of wine on a beach in New England, I finally got lucky with my wife (I don't know why, but that statement seems odd...). No kiss, but when asked why not, quote: "we've been married too long to kiss like that anymore." Hmmmm, time to move on? Weirder still, she wanted anal for the first time. Ok, the beach was nice, the cottage on the beach was nice, I brushed, shaved, and did all the personal hygiene stuff, but the wine wasn't THAT good! Oh well, mindless sex with mediocre wine I can live with....for a while. On a separate note for the ladies: what are the hi's and low's of anal sex, and what makes it better for you by numbskulls like us?