Just throwing this out there...

[Josephine]

I have seen a lot on review boards over the years. Lots of stuff that I couldn't name here so I would start by admiting that as of this day in 2024, I am a bit cynical about everything that has been going on in here. Nevertheless, I think there are great members still today. I don't think you qualify as a slobbyist because you frequent review boards. I still think a lot of good can come out of it.

However! As a client and as a community there is one thing that we should have in common and it's to keep our ladies safe. I see a lot of recommendations of great providers made in threads where the OP sounds careless, unhinged or even worse potentially violent. I truly believe that while recommendations are a wonderful way to thank a lady for her business, not all business is good business. So when you see a post of a guy that ask for recco, can we take a minute and wonder if we would like this guy to visit our favorite? Do you want this for her?

That would be great if we could stop and reflect for a min before dropping all the names we love....just throwing this out there.

 

[farquhar]

I truly believe that while recommendations are a wonderful way to thank a lady for her business, not all business is good business. So when you see a post of a guy that ask for recco, can we take a minute and wonder if we would like this guy to visit our favorite? Do you want this for her?

I agree that not all business is good business.

I know of one good independent girl I found on LL (amazing, I know) that doesn't want to be reviewed on here, because she doesn't want to meet any guys from here.

I am of the mindset that if one does find a good independent girl (who doesn't advertise on here and keeps her business low key), that one never reccos her to anyone else; because as much as she may appreciate the business, I end up hurting myself because then she gets so busy that it may be difficult for me to see her when I want to see her. The point you made is valid as well.

 

[Josephine]

I agree that not all business is good business.

I know of one good independent girl I found on LL (amazing, I know) that doesn't want to be reviewed on here, because she doesn't want to meet any guys from here.

I am of the mindset that if one does find a good independent girl (who doesn't advertise on here and keeps her business low key), that one never reccos her to anyone else; because as much as she may appreciate the business, I end up hurting myself because then she gets so busy that it may be difficult for me to see her when I want to see her. The point you made is valid as well.

We have to respect as well this desire of not wanting to be reviewed. It's not always a sing of bad service. That is a good point. Not everything is for everyone.

 

[IM469]

We have to respect as well this desire of not wanting to be reviewed. It's not always a sing of bad service. That is a good point. Not everything is for everyone.

I disagree. I agree if a review was revealing personal information that affects their personal life. However, they are providing a service and grading that service on a review board that focuses on these services should be encouraged - particularly if the service is bad. The concept is to warn fellow customers of bad service and is not any different than warning people of bad house contractors, bad mechanics, etc.

I admit that I have the same selfish streak as Farquhar If I find a particularly bright nugget of gold out in an undisclosed review location, I have a tendency to milk all the ore I can for myself.

 

[Josephine]

I disagree. I agree if a review was revealing personal information that affects their personal life. However, they are providing a service and grading that service on a review board that focuses on these services should be encouraged - particularly if the service is bad. The concept is to warn fellow customers of bad service and is not any different than warning people of bad house contractors, bad mechanics, etc.

I admit that I have the same selfish streak as Farquhar If I find a particularly bright nugget of gold out in an undisclosed review location, I have a tendency to milk all the ore I can for myself.

In this case it was not bad service and it's nice of him to respect it. However I think we are digressing. The point is to be careful who we gives recommendations to in order to avoid sending bad people to providers. I hope because you are not "milking all the ore" anymore, you still care about who gave you a good service then.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

I disagree. I agree if a review was revealing personal information that affects their personal life. However, they are providing a service and grading that service on a review board that focuses on these services should be encouraged - particularly if the service is bad. The concept is to warn fellow customers of bad service and is not any different than warning people of bad house contractors, bad mechanics, etc.

I admit that I have the same selfish streak as Farquhar If I find a particularly bright nugget of gold out in an undisclosed review location, I have a tendency to milk all the ore I can for myself.

I disagree. Unless it's obvious that the SP is obviously working some sort of scam, shorting, promises not met I think any negative experiences are my fault due to YMMV and I keep my mouth shut.

Think about it. Say a SP has been in business for period of time, has a website, advertises blah blah. Whatever. She's good enough that this is her job and good enough that she has repeat business and makes a decent living from it.

You (not you specifically, a generic you) come along and think she sucks. You think she's unattractive (a VERY YMMV thing) or thinks she doesn't know what service is. There is a very very STRONG likelihood it's due to you and your personal preferences, not her. So, any negative review, due to you, impacts her livelihood and, because of some fucking morons on here, her safety as they start targeting her for entertainment value. This is going on right now with someone I like.

I'm sorry, not sorry, but that vast majority of men on here can go fuck themselves. There's no 'bro code' here so I'm not providing a negative review that may negatively impact a woman's life & livelihood.

Josephine does have a good point about the negative effects of positive reviews. Unintended consequences.

 

[IM469]

In this case it was not bad service and it's nice of him to respect it. However I think we are digressing. The point is to be careful who we gives recommendations to in order to avoid sending bad people to providers. I hope because you are not "milking all the ore" anymore, you still care about who gave you a good service then.

Yes, I'm riddled with guilt that I don't publish the location of my gold find and when I get those constant busy tones - I will be unselfishly happy that she is now very busy.

However, then I tell myself I am doing extended research to insure my results are valid before sharing them with the Terb horde. Yes, yes ... more research...

 

[Josephine]

I disagree. Unless it's obvious that the SP is obviously working some sort of scam, shorting, promises not met I think any negative experiences are my fault due to YMMV and I keep my mouth shut.

Think about it. Say a SP has been in business for period of time, has a website, advertises blah blah. Whatever. She's good enough that this is her job and good enough that she has repeat business and makes a decent living from it.

You (not you specifically, a generic you) come along and think she sucks. You think she's unattractive (a VERY YMMV thing) or thinks she doesn't know what service is. There is a very very STRONG likelihood it's due to you and your personal preferences, not her. So, any negative review, due to you, impacts her livelihood and, because of some fucking morons on here, her safety as they start targeting her for entertainment value. This is going on right now with someone I like.

I'm sorry, not sorry, but that vast majority of men on here can go fuck themselves. There's no 'bro code' here so I'm not providing a negative review that may negatively impact a woman's life & livelihood.

Josephine does have a good point about the negative effects of positive reviews. Unintended consequences.

I might not have explained it all properly. It comes to the fact that sometimes you will have guys asking for let's say: "a Submissive that they want to see scream in pain" (I saw this one for real), and you have guys piling up saying "oh you should book X an Y" . Can we wait a minute to analyze this guy request. Do we want our reg to scream in pain?

I am also sorry for what is happening to your regular. Personal vendetta on review boards are horrible and too frequent.

 

[IM469]

I disagree. Unless it's obvious that the SP is obviously working some sort of scam, shorting, promises not met I think any negative experiences are my fault due to YMMV and I keep my mouth shut.

Think about it. Say a SP has been in business for period of time, has a website, advertises blah blah. Whatever. She's good enough that this is her job and good enough that she has repeat business and makes a decent living from it.

You (not you specifically, a generic you) come along and think she sucks. You think she's unattractive (a VERY YMMV thing) or thinks she doesn't know what service is. There is a very very STRONG likelihood it's due to you and your personal preferences, not her. So, any negative review, due to you, impacts her livelihood and, because of some fucking morons on here, her safety as they start targeting her for entertainment value. This is going on right now with someone I like.

I'm sorry, not sorry, but that vast majority of men on here can go fuck themselves. There's no 'bro code' here so I'm not providing a negative review that may negatively impact a woman's life & livelihood.

Josephine does have a good point about the negative effects of positive reviews. Unintended consequences.

I got the generic 'me' part - no offense taken.

It's a reveiw board ! If I follow your logic, there should be no negative reviews. If it is a personal preference, then people with the same preferences won't waste their time. Again - it is a review board. I have seen reviews people do not agree with and Terb members have no problem stepping up and contradicting the review.

Like any service industry (gardening, painting, mechanics, sex, ..) - there are good service providers and bad service providers. The idea that people get carte blanche because you don't want to hurt feelings is disingenuous and undermines the legitimacy of a review board.

 

[The Oracle]

I might not have explained it all properly. It comes to the fact that sometimes you will have guys asking for let's say: "a Submissive that they want to see scream in pain" (I saw this one for real), and you have guys piling up saying "oh you should book X an Y" . Can we wait a minute to analyze this guy request. Do we want our reg to scream in pain?

I am also sorry for what is happening to your regular. Personal vendetta on review boards are horrible and too frequent.

Maybe check with the provider first to get the go ahead before passing on a recommendation.

Oh and The Oracle still loves the fluffy white slippers....

 

[Josephine]

Maybe check with the provider first to get the go ahead before passing on a recommendation.

Oh and The Oracle still loves the fluffy white slippers....

Yayyy! I love the fluff too

 

[Jenesis]

So basically we all know user “CaptainIncel” is an incel who would probably be somewhat undesirable to the ladies at the very least, maybe don’t recommend me to him please.

Is that what you are saying? If so, I totally agree.

 

[The Oracle]

Yayyy! I love the fluff too

LOL..I never knew I had a slipper fetish until I saw your pics a few years ago...Crazy what you learn about yourself sometimes.

 

[Josephine]

So basically we all know user “CaptainIncel” is an incel who would probably be somewhat undesirable to the ladies at the very least, maybe don’t recommend me to him please.

Is that what you are saying? If so, I totally agree.

Yes! Correct!

 

[The Oracle]

So basically we all know user “CaptainIncel” is an incel who would probably be somewhat undesirable to the ladies at the very least, maybe don’t recommend me to him please.

Is that what you are saying? If so, I totally agree.

When you do your screening, doesn't that catch the problem cases?

I would think the more experience you have in the biz you would develop a ''spider sense'' to root out the undesirables.

 

[Josephine]

When you do your screening, doesn't that catch the problem cases?

I would think the more experience you have in the biz you would develop a ''spider sense'' to root out the undesirables.

The question was not for me but yes, screening help. I however think that working at the source by not encouraging or giving positive reinforcement to these type of client would help even more. If that make sense...

 

[Josephine]

LOL..I never knew I had a slipper fetish until I saw your pics a few years ago...Crazy what you learn about yourself sometimes.

It always warms my heart when I see fluffy people coming out of their shell! May the fluff be with you forever.

 

[Jenesis]

When you do your screening, doesn't that catch the problem cases?

I would think the more experience you have in the biz you would develop a ''spider sense'' to root out the undesirables.

We can’t always screen against undesirable personality. We can try and as time goes on, we can use our gut but can’t you guys take some steps to help out and just not recommend us to users like this? Is that really to much to ask?

 

[SchlongConery]

We can’t always screen against undesirable personality. We can try and as time goes on, we can use our gut but can’t you guys take some steps to help out and just not recommend us to users like this? Is that really to much to ask?

And @Josephine


If you search back a ways I've called rocco_s out on his interjecting "does she like choking, face slapping, spitting in her mouth", etc etc into girls that were described as particularly sweet. I've gone so far as to try to convince him respectully that even fantasizing (let alone being obsessed with) such degrading and violent acts (even if consensual) is NOT normal mental health. That he should try to find out why he feels the need to seek out such acts.

Well fuck me but doesn't everyone pile on me for "shaming" him! Lots of guys agreed with me but I was astonished as to how many tried to tell me that it is perfectly normal mental health etc.

It is a known fact that most serial killers started out with abusing, torturing and killing small animals as children.

Look at that pig farmer Picton. Whatever he wanted to act out with a professional sure escalated. I don't think a GFE wold have satisfied him.

So, yes, I personally am careful when I review. I hate to say it but I severely limited the reviews I could have posted because there are SO MANY fucking weirdos here. Whether they are criticizing the review or asking about violence, I am reluctant to review.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

@Josephine what you're talking about in this thread is a double edged sword. It's kind of unreasonable to ask of people to only recommend you to "safe" clients. Typically we recommend someone because we like a provider and her service. We sincerely wish her well and have as much business as she can possibly handle. Most guys don't go to see SPs daily or even weekly. With that said, we most often recommend the ones we like because we wish for our faves to have continuous business while we're not able to attend.

Obviously, when someone is clearly unhinged, then recommending any SP, let alone your favorite, is a disservice. Otherwise, it's up to a provider to screen and look out for her safety.