If your Manager was your buddy.....

[David Beckham 23]

If the person you worked for was your friend and you were planning on leaving, would you give him/her a heads up? Moreover, if you had a few offers on the table, but knew you were leaving in a month or so, would you tell him/her?

Keep in mine the friendship was built through work and he became your manager after the friendship was built.

 

[pool]

yes.

 

[Arunis]

If he reported to someone who had an active interest in my performance/attitude towards work, no. If he was the top of the totem pole as far as my job security was concerned (meaning that any higher ups wouldnt take offense to information I passed to him), then definately I would give him a heads up. Friends and business are things best kept separate, and I would be a poor friend to burden him with information which he may be obligated to pass on to his bosses which could hurt our friendship.

 

[Jaffo]

Do you have a reason not to tell your friend you're leaving? He's going to find out about you leaving sooner of later so isn't best he hear it from you before you submit your resignation. This also gives him time to recruite a replacement for your position and you don't leave him short handed.

I wouldn't say anything until I had a signed contract.

 

[1HandInMyPocket]

yes I would (and have, though my manager and myself aren't that close). There are several reasons to do so.

1. Out of respect to the company, if you've been with them for a long time
2. Out of respect to you manager/friend, wouldn't you want the same if your roles were reversed.
3. Don't burn any of your bridges. It is always good to leave your current employment on good terms. You never know if you need their help down the road.

If you have a good, legitment reason to leave your work, then your manager/friend will understand. My reason was that I did not see a future with my company, and that another career path was in the best for me, which he understood.

The only downside is, if your manager/friend takes it the wrong way and you end up finding your workload or shift changes. In this case, he isn't truely a friend but just a manager were you mistaken your relationship.

 

[CapitalGuy]

It depends on whether he is in a position to take any action that could jeapordize your chances of getting your new job. If he is, and if his superiors would expect him to take some action to keep you employed or to delay your departure from the company, then you are putting him in a bad spot. He will want to be a good friend and wish you well, but as a manager he may be required to take certain actions that could be detrimental to your new employment or your graceful exit from your current position.

Awkward spot. If, by leaving the company, you are not damaging your boss/friend in any way, then I would keep quiet until everything is in place (and in writing) and there is nothing that will prevent you from leaving the company on good terms and taking up your new position. As a professional, he will understand that you had to get your legal ducks in order before going public, and like I said, he may even appreciate not being put in a position of having to choose between a good management decision and supporting a friend's choice.

 

[Never Compromised]

I you are even thinking of walking out and not giving notice, you clearly are not friends.

 

[red]

no- it would be a mistake. you are also putting pressure on the friendship by asking him to keep it quiet.

 

[papasmerf]

Is he a god buddy?
You know someone who will go and get two BBBJTC and come back and give you one?