I hear it all the time

[Marla]

My married clients tell me they get a mercy f**k if they are lucky. I think it is so unfair. A lot of them end up with escorts and sometimes I have to assuage their guilt. So it is a double edged sword. They are either excruciatingly horny or terribly guilty. So even after the act, and feeling a moment of bliss, they are filled with remorse.
I am not sure, but I heard in the Catholic Church there is a course for couples to take before they get married. Why isnt there a course for ALL couples to take before marriage educating the woman about male testosterone. Let's face it. It is a God Given factor and there is no escaping it. it is here to stay and it isn't the male's fault or a problem with his upbringing. Testosterone reigns if you are male so why do these clients feel the need to suppress it? and feel ashamed of it? I blame the women for not getting it and short changing her husband.

It seems no sooner do kids come into the picture and sex goes out the window. The wife puts on weight and stops taking care of her apppearance. I am just generalizing based on what my clients tell me. So if I am wrong I stand to be corrected. Het attention diverts strictly to the newborn and she ignores the husband. There was a show on Oprah a few years ago where an author proposed taking care of the husband first and the child second and she got booed off of the stage. She had a happy marriage. Anyway I just want to give a shoutout to married men who suffer from guilt about seeing escorts because they shouldn't. They have testsosterone and can't help it. It doesn't make them bad people. Go see an escort today and celebrate!

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

How about the church giving masturbation lessons to all couples before they are wed?

 

[JohnHenry]

How about the church giving masturbation lessons to all couples before they are wed?

I thought some priests were already giving individual lessons.

 

[bolt.upright]

Sigh. Sounds like you know me Marla. There's nothing to correct.

I took that Catholic marriage course with my fiancee (30+ years ago) and, it sure made for a long-lasting marriage, but hasn't helped much in the bedroom.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

Seriously, sometimes there's an underlying issue between them and the lack of sex is a symptom, not the main problem.
I wouldn't automatically blame the wife.

 

[ValeriaBeleza]

I don't completely agree with the logic of the argument, so the premise of the post goes that 'married men see escorts because of mother nature (uncontrollable testosterone level management) and lack of attention by the wife" ?
I believe that men, are not animals that can't control their bodies, this is a hobby, many men go to the gym, golf or sail.......
you see sex is not just physical act, it's a synergy of the mind and body and chemistry with the other person, mutually pleasing.
married or not would at some point men look for an alternative in intimacy that is not attached completely by the levels of hormones or visuals a woman (wife or not) could or could not provide. Men who've I've seen, for instance, have great sex with wife but lack communication, men crave attention and touch a such as women do; seeing an escort is about an experience not commitment, it is not about shame, but rather, that the experience awakens thoughts and feelings some never thought possible, if anything we as providers boost their confidence and most of my clients say the feel empowered because with companions they get to leave inhibitions and explore before they bring it up to civilian girls in their lives.....i can go on but these are my 2cents...

 

[FearlessFreep]

if anything we boots their confidence and most of my clients say the feel empowered because with companions they get to leave inhibitions and explore before they bring it up to civilian girls in their lives.

This plus the fact that after 23 or 30 years of sex with the same woman, sex becomes a numbing experience where one has to fantasize about great sex with someone else in order to have an orgasm. I would rather have the fantasy in person.

 

[ogibowt]

My married clients tell me they get a mercy f**k if they are lucky. I think it is so unfair. A lot of them end up with escorts and sometimes I have to assuage their guilt. So it is a double edged sword. They are either excruciatingly horny or terribly guilty. So even after the act, and feeling a moment of bliss, they are filled with remorse.
I am not sure, but I heard in the Catholic Church there is a course for couples to take before they get married. Why isnt there a course for ALL couples to take before marriage educating the woman about male testosterone. Let's face it. It is a God Given factor and there is no escaping it. it is here to stay and it isn't the male's fault or a problem with his upbringing. Testosterone reigns if you are male so why do these clients feel the need to suppress it? and feel ashamed of it? I blame the women for not getting it and short changing her husband.

It seems no sooner do kids come into the picture and sex goes out the window. The wife puts on weight and stops taking care of her apppearance. I am just generalizing based on what my clients tell me. So if I am wrong I stand to be corrected. Het attention diverts strictly to the newborn and she ignores the husband. There was a show on Oprah a few years ago where an author proposed taking care of the husband first and the child second and she got booed off of the stage. She had a happy marriage. Anyway I just want to give a shoutout to married men who suffer from guilt about seeing escorts because they shouldn't. They have testsosterone and can't help it. It doesn't make them bad people. Go see an escort today and celebrate!

first of all, imo, you are using anecdotle evidence to make conclusions............with all due respect you are saying that men are hapless human beings, who are slaves to testosterone, and they cant help it...........really we are not that weak that some how we have no choice but to give in to our urges..............lets be clear, marriage is a 2 way street, and the onus is not just on the female to "please" her man.....it goes both ways.just remember, we are humans, not animals.we have free will, impulse control, and a moral compass............with all due respect, you are gathering info, based on married men cheating on their wives, and tv shows............btw, i can also imagine how many guys you see who "have put on weight and stopped taking care of their appearance"

 

[bolt.upright]

But, I can control it, and did for thirty years of marriage. I decided that I didn't want to spend my last couple of decades (if I'm lucky) without the stimulation and touch of a beautiful woman. If my wife (who I still consider a beautiful woman) was not interested in providing anything other than the occasional "mercy fuck" then I needed to take action. I have, and I've never been happier. My last few decades are going to rock! As long as I can still function, anyway.

 

[AdamH]

I don't kid myself. I don't see escorts because I "need" more sex and my wife can't give it. If I ever feel that I "need" a release that my wife can't (or won't) provide, then I usually just take a few minutes by myself and take care of business.

I see escorts because it's the escape that I seek out. It helps me step out of my life for an hour, and into a world where I can be and do something exciting and out of character.. Some guys go skydiving, some guys go mountain biking, other guys drive fast cars.. I see escorts..

Men see escorts for all kinds of reasons (I'm sure sexless marriage is up there in the top 3), but I seriously doubt any men are being honest with themselves if their reason is that their wife (not matter how hard she tries) just can't satisfy them enough.

 

[Mr Deeds]

This plus the fact that after 23 or 30 years of sex with the same woman, sex becomes a numbing experience where one has to fantasize about great sex with someone else in order to have an orgasm. I would rather have the fantasy in person.

I agree having sex with the same woman (at least for me) gets boring. I seek companionship else ware because I like variety. Imho men were not meant to be monogamous in that way at least we are much like most of the animal world.

 

[DB123]

first of all, imo, you are using anecdotle evidence to make conclusions............with all due respect you are saying that men are hapless human beings, who are slaves to testosterone, and they cant help it...........really we are not that weak that some how we have no choice but to give in to our urges..............lets be clear, marriage is a 2 way street, and the onus is not just on the female to "please" her man.....it goes both ways.just remember, we are humans, not animals.we have free will, impulse control, and a moral compass............with all due respect, you are gathering info, based on married men cheating on their wives, and tv shows............btw, i can also imagine how many guys you see who "have put on weight and stopped taking care of their appearance"

In her defence, if I started 25 random threads a day, I'd run out of fresh, well thought out material too...

 

[DB123]

Why that makes me want to see you even more, I don't know, but it totally does

 

[IM469]

My married clients tell me they get a mercy f**k if they are lucky. I think it is so unfair. A lot of them end up with escorts and sometimes I have to assuage their guilt. So it is a double edged sword. They are either excruciatingly horny or terribly guilty. So even after the act, and feeling a moment of bliss, they are filled with remorse.

I'll wager more than 9 out of 10 who mention the term 'mercy f**k' are lying through their teeth. I've gone out to a club with friends and it seems everyone of them suddenly develop marriage problems that didn't show at our last couples BBQ. BTW: 'Mercy f**k' indicates there is still activity even if not as frequent as he wants. I suggest that 'no sex' is a much more believable story.

The wife puts on weight and stops taking care of her appearance.

I can't figure this out. This is a common complaint of husbands and we are not talking an aging process. The diet goes out the window, even the most mundane efforts to look attractive to the husband go out the window. All the effort to bring the partner to the alter is abandoned when the goal is achieved. It is odd that the term 'marital fraud' can't be used to let a guy out without penalty within 5 years of the marriage.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

You're turned on by catty remarks, DB123? :eyebrows:

 

[DB123]

You're turned on by catty remarks, DB123? :eyebrows:

Apparently so...go figure :thumb:

 

[Titalian]

I don't completely agree with the logic of the argument, so the premise of the post goes that 'married men see escorts because of mother nature (uncontrollable testosterone level management) and lack of attention by the wife" ?
I believe that men, are not animals that can't control their bodies, this is a hobby, many men go to the gym, golf or sail.......
you see sex is not just physical act, it's a synergy of the mind and body and chemistry with the other person, mutually pleasing.
married or not would at some point men look for an alternative in intimacy that is not attached completely by the levels of hormones or visuals a woman (wife or not) could or could not provide. Men who've I've seen, for instance, have great sex with wife but lack communication, men crave attention and touch a such as women do; seeing an escort is about an experience not commitment, it is not about shame, but rather, that the experience awakens thoughts and feelings some never thought possible, if anything we as providers boost their confidence and most of my clients say the feel empowered because with companions they get to leave inhibitions and explore before they bring it up to civilian girls in their lives.....i can go on but these are my 2cents...

What an amazing post!!!!

 

[Titalian]

My married clients tell me they get a mercy f**k if they are lucky. I think it is so unfair. A lot of them end up with escorts and sometimes I have to assuage their guilt. So it is a double edged sword. They are either excruciatingly horny or terribly guilty. So even after the act, and feeling a moment of bliss, they are filled with remorse.
I am not sure, but I heard in the Catholic Church there is a course for couples to take before they get married. Why isnt there a course for ALL couples to take before marriage educating the woman about male testosterone. Let's face it. It is a God Given factor and there is no escaping it. it is here to stay and it isn't the male's fault or a problem with his upbringing. Testosterone reigns if you are male so why do these clients feel the need to suppress it? and feel ashamed of it? I blame the women for not getting it and short changing her husband.

It seems no sooner do kids come into the picture and sex goes out the window. The wife puts on weight and stops taking care of her apppearance. I am just generalizing based on what my clients tell me. So if I am wrong I stand to be corrected. Het attention diverts strictly to the newborn and she ignores the husband. There was a show on Oprah a few years ago where an author proposed taking care of the husband first and the child second and she got booed off of the stage. She had a happy marriage. Anyway I just want to give a shoutout to married men who suffer from guilt about seeing escorts because they shouldn't. They have testsosterone and can't help it. It doesn't make them bad people. Go see an escort today and celebrate!

I can remember when I was a kid, we were 4 brothers, and my mother loved us all but my Dad was her first priority. They had a long
and for the most part wonderful marriage together. It was very upsetting seeing my Mother in so much pain, when my Dad passed away from some rare disease. She truly loved him.

 

[Mikehorn]

I've talked to a couple of SPs and they told me lots of men have told them that once women get married, they forget how to do oral. Yep I agree.

You know the old joke, a bride smiles on her wedding day because she never has to do it again.

 

[rubbertugger]

My married clients tell me they get a mercy f**k if they are lucky. I think it is so unfair. A lot of them end up with escorts and sometimes I have to assuage their guilt. So it is a double edged sword. They are either excruciatingly horny or terribly guilty. So even after the act, and feeling a moment of bliss, they are filled with remorse.
I am not sure, but I heard in the Catholic Church there is a course for couples to take before they get married. Why isnt there a course for ALL couples to take before marriage educating the woman about male testosterone. Let's face it. It is a God Given factor and there is no escaping it. it is here to stay and it isn't the male's fault or a problem with his upbringing. Testosterone reigns if you are male so why do these clients feel the need to suppress it? and feel ashamed of it? I blame the women for not getting it and short changing her husband.

It seems no sooner do kids come into the picture and sex goes out the window. The wife puts on weight and stops taking care of her apppearance. I am just generalizing based on what my clients tell me. So if I am wrong I stand to be corrected. Het attention diverts strictly to the newborn and she ignores the husband. There was a show on Oprah a few years ago where an author proposed taking care of the husband first and the child second and she got booed off of the stage. She had a happy marriage. Anyway I just want to give a shoutout to married men who suffer from guilt about seeing escorts because they shouldn't. They have testsosterone and can't help it. It doesn't make them bad people. Go see an escort today and celebrate!

the wives that let themselves go were not probably too hot in the first place.