How do you value your lady's pleasure?

[RockNRollMachin]

Hey guys ! As an introduction, some infos about myself so you get to know where I'm coming from. I'm a 27 years old, and until very recently, I cared little to not at all about whether the lady had a good time with me (or orgasmed). The only thing that mattered was wether or not I had a good time.

Incidently, I would barely go down for less than a minute (if at all) on them. Most of the time, I'd ask them to play with themselves instead to get them wet (and I cringe a lot at this thought...).

Well I had an epiphany when I pushed myself to start actually trying to please them, wether with my hands, orally, or by grinding on their clit while fucking. And surprise surprise, I realized that I enjoy it a lot to see them express so much pleasure due to my actions.

Since then, I've actually grown to get more enjoyment out of pleasing them than I'd get by my own orgasm/pleasure, if that makes any sense. Like I'd book a girl for an hour and spend at least 15min eating her out (unless she came and became too sensitive down there as a result) in a slow built up process, not trying to rush her to the finish line but slowly teasing her whole body.

What is your opinion on this ? How do you value your partner's pleasure ? How much effort are you putting in it ?

Cheers !

 

[Gntlmn]

Welcome to maturity as a lover! (not mine, but that's okay)

You also don't have to consider her achieving an O from you a "chest-thumping" achievement for which you NEED to put notches on your belt. I love the female body and DATY because it gets me REALLLY close to her pleasure centre. What's wrong with putting a smile on her face, especially if it can rev up her reciprocal services, know what I mean, nudge, nudge, wink, wink SAY NO MORE!

 

[Metoo4]

I met a super cute chica in Cuba a while ago. Good English and all. Despite being older, she was extremely shy and passive. I started to eat her out and she started to twirk, grabbing my head and resisting anytime I tried to move away. She came so hard I almost came myself, without her even touching me. Once she came. I reached for a condom but she reverted to 100% passive, no way to "restart" her so... I ended up with blue balls. I could have fucked her till I came but it just didn't work for me.

So yes, it's important for me the woman I'm with have pleasure, or at least is a good-enough actress I don't notice she's faking. If she think I'm not "doin it right", she need to tell me what she likes! It's quite a turn-off when you're doing something to a woman, get no reaction and, when you ask, all you get is "it's okay". If it's ok, I should see some signs. I'm not talking about jumping up and down the bed (mostly a sign of bad acting) or squirting on demand enough to make the bed is unusable (I can pee too, no need to be excited for that).

The biggest sex organ is the brain, many people don't know or forget that. I need to share pleasure in order to have pleasure with a woman. The older I get, the less there are any exception to this fact.

 

[RockNRollMachin]

I met a super cute chica in Cuba a while ago. Good English and all. Despite being older, she was extremely shy and passive. I started to eat her out and she started to twirk, grabbing my head and resisting anytime I tried to move away. She came so hard I almost came myself, without her even touching me. Once she came. I reached for a condom but she reverted to 100% passive, no way to "restart" her so... I ended up with blue balls. I could have fucked her till I came but it just didn't work for me.

So yes, it's important for me the woman I'm with have pleasure, or at least is a good-enough actress I don't notice she's faking. If she think I'm not "doin it right", she need to tell me what she likes! It's quite a turn-off when you're doing something to a woman, get no reaction and, when you ask, all you get is "it's okay". If it's ok, I should see some signs. I'm not talking about jumping up and down the bed (mostly a sign of bad acting) or squirting on demand enough to make the bed is unusable (I can pee too, no need to be excited for that).

The biggest sex organ is the brain, many people don't know or forget that. I need to share pleasure in order to have pleasure with a woman. The older I get, the less there are any exception to this fact.

I resonate with you so much. I mean I can still orgasm even though the girl is obviously not enjoying herself, but it just feels so dull and meh...

 

[Meaning]

Interesting takes in this thread. I would love to hear a genuine response from a SP/SW as to the ability to achieve actual pleasure from a customer. I always assume any pleasure they display is an act, which makes me perform in a more self-interested way (not sure if that makes sense). However if I knew that they are actually able to get genuine feelings of pleasure from a customer, I'd be more inclined to try to elicit that type of response from her.

 

[Bbw hunter]

Interesting takes in this thread. I would love to hear a genuine response from a SP/SW as to the ability to achieve actual pleasure from a customer. I always assume any pleasure they display is an act, which makes me perform in a more self-interested way (not sure if that makes sense). However if I knew that they are actually able to get genuine feelings of pleasure from a customer, I'd be more inclined to try to elicit that type of response from her.

Yes sometimes it is an act but it seems some sps often or least sometimes get pleasure from being with a client. These women are not made of stone and they aren't robots. If the chemistry is good and you are doing what she seems to like than her level of pleasure will be heightened. Plus some female orgasms cannot be faked unless there is a special effects guy in the room, if you know what i mean.

 

[OnTheWayOut]

When I know the woman has had a real orgasm it is a huge turn on and takes the session to a whole new level. Not that happens very often .......but I still try.

 

[Boss Nass]

Essential for me. Mutual pleasure is way better than just getting your rocks off. I know that some are probably faking it, but at least if they do it well you won't notice. If I'm with someone who is quite obviously putting on an act, it's a turn-off.

 

[kherg007]

It's essential to the date. Full stop.

 

[Respect1]

When I know the woman has had a real orgasm it is a huge turn on and takes the session to a whole new level. Not that happens very often .......but I still try.

Come on , I know you can make Sara orgasm in 5 minutes or less ,, she is so super Orgasmic .

 

[faveone]

I resonate with you so much. I mean I can still orgasm even though the girl is obviously not enjoying herself, but it just feels so dull and meh...

I agree 100% As guys we can 'cum' when required to release but I think the most orgasmic orgasm I've had is when the lady has just got off on her big O! Lately I've been working on developing an intimate relationship (given the confines of the 1 or 2 hours booked) with the lady and it is paying off for me, in the sense that I'm having a great time! Starts the moment I arrive. Showing up well groomed, clean, respectful, gifts in hand, all this definitely seems to be working as the ladies love to be made to feel they are being courted. Forget the $20 tip at the end. Spend the $20 on flowers, chocolates and couple Fugi waters and see where that takes you !

 

[RockNRollMachin]

I agree 100% As guys we can 'cum' when required to release but I think the most orgasmic orgasm I've had is when the lady has just got off on her big O! Lately I've been working on developing an intimate relationship (given the confines of the 1 or 2 hours booked) with the lady and it is paying off for me, in the sense that I'm having a great time! Starts the moment I arrive. Showing up well groomed, clean, respectful, gifts in hand, all this definitely seems to be working as the ladies love to be made to feel they are being courted. Forget the $20 tip at the end. Spend the $20 on flowers, chocolates and couple Fugi waters and see where that takes you !

That is so true, especially the gift part. With girls I repeat with, I always try to get a feel of what they like and bring them a small gift accordingly for the next visit. Hopefuly it helps to make them feel special ehe.