Help!! Someone is threating (physically? please read)!!

[Vancouver Femme Fatale]

I think your attitude and confidence in yourself are the best weapon you have in a close-quarters situation. I think you have to make a decision about what you'll do before anything happens - I decided that I will fight to the ground, and will use *anything* within reach to do as much damage as possible.

I've decided that I won't worry about 'hurting somebody'; they forfeit that the moment they become aggressive; I won't worry about getting hurt myself (hurt is better than dead); I won't worry about ending up in court (better in court than dead); and I'll face down a gun and fight rather than being put in a vehicle.

When you know these things about yourself I believe that potential aggressors sense this, at least subconciously, and are less likely to even try anything on you in the first place - bullies like easier pickings.

I think you need to sort this out regardless of what self-defense skills you have. They're useless if you are reluctant to use them fully.

 

[Vancouver Femme Fatale]

I'm a friendly gentle person, and in a strange way, I think knowing I can take care of myself makes sessions better; I think I can be nice and relaxed with clients because as an indy who does all my own screening, I've reduced the risk as much as possible in how I meet clients, and also know that, should somebody nasty get by all those precautions, I'll defend myself 110%.

 

[goodtime]

I think your attitude and confidence in yourself are the best weapon you have in a close-quarters situation. I think you have to make a decision about what you'll do before anything happens - I decided that I will fight to the ground, and will use *anything* within reach to do as much damage as possible.

I've decided that I won't worry about 'hurting somebody'; they forfeit that the moment they become aggressive; I won't worry about getting hurt myself (hurt is better than dead); I won't worry about ending up in court (better in court than dead); and I'll face down a gun and fight rather than being put in a vehicle.

When you know these things about yourself I believe that potential aggressors sense this, at least subconciously, and are less likely to even try anything on you in the first place - bullies like easier pickings.

I think you need to sort this out regardless of what self-defense skills you have. They're useless if you are reluctant to use them fully.

Robmeister, VFF, good advice. Having weapons can be deadly if you don't intend to use it and it is turn on you. Your strong will to survive is the best tool. Weapons and skill are no use if you don't intend to use it.

Liane, you have taken good precautions. But alway be vigiliant for signs of trouble. Should this person or others ever get out of hand, seek help, go to the police. Abuse and violence should not be tolerated. Be safe.

 

[Annessa]

I'd suggest that you immediately send someone copies of all your e-mails back and forth as a record. Maybe you could send an e-mail to maggies@bellnet.ca

Maggies is a sex worker advocacy / support group and they would certainly be helpful in knowing how to deal with something like this.

Despite the anonymous claims of hotmail etc, it can be traced. If you have other contact or identifying information about him you should record and pass it along also.

Then, send him a copy of your e-mail and tell him in no uncertain terms that it would not be in his best interests to do anything but cool down, apologize and forget you ever existed.

I sincerely hope you are ok.

Maggots? I mean Maggies? Are you kidding me? They should get back to you sometime in the next 5 years.

PM me Liane and I can direct you to the right person to speak to in the SCU that will track his IP to get his name and run a check on him in the criminal database to see if he has done anything like this before to another escort or person in general.

What he said to you IS an outright threat and should be seen as such and taken seriously until further investigation proves otherwise. Your identity will remain ann. and the person in the SCU I will help direct you to (and I can accompany you as support and comfort if you need that) only deals with any problems that are caused/done to ANY sex workers and this person has jailed 'johns' and seeked that justice that ALL sex workers all deserve.

Just because we sell our body for money does not mean we are less human beings and we have to put up with any kind of abuse in this industry. *hugs*





Annessa
xoxo

 

[HappyHookers]

I have recieved your email but not the forwards of the toher exchanges, can you please forward those on. I do have some ideas for you, which I will sent via email for privacy reasons.

HH