Help me justify the risk.

[mcross123]

I've been lurking for years and been wanting to start hobbying. I started out by going to strip clubs, then saw a few MPs. Now I'm thinking of "upgrading" the experience to seeing an SP. But there's just one last thing stopping me from plunging in. How do you guys get over the risk of getting an STI? I've come to terms and justified the morality of doing it (I'm married), but I just can't get over the STI risks. I don't plan to do BBFS and I'm not into DATY, but going through the Health forum and reading that STIs can be passed by DFK and BBBJ was just enough to scare me. I plan to start by going to a reputable agency (not some cheap place), I already know which one and I already have a well-reviewed SP picked out.

How do you guys justify and/or mitigate the STI risk?

 

[rhymenoceros]

LK & CBJ all the way.

 

[freestuff]

How do you guys mitigate the STI risk?

No BBBJ and no DFK.

 

[tommmyyy]

My thought has always been to find a girl that works 2 days a week, this is a girl that has an main gig and is looking for a little extra. There are a ton of all safe girls that will not kiss and shower after each guy. This will reduce your risk greatly, bUT some of the passion may be. Missing. My other thought is only see weekday - day working girls. They See the least risky types, married office guys.

 

[legmann]

My other thought is only see weekday - day working girls. They See the least risky types, married office guys.

Bit stereotypical but probably true. The 24/7 BP-types at budget rates are likely catering to an entirely different clientele altogether.

 

[Butler1000]

Well. No I won't. Justify it for you. Here's the way I look at it.

So you started by going to see the rippers. Graduated to MP. Now looking into SP's.

In other words you are already in. You state you have no guilt issues and have picked someone out. And all that's left is STD fears. Want to know waht I think. I won't matter to you in the long run. You're going to do it anyway. Sure you'll try to lessen the risk. But its going to happen.

You don't need anymore information as you've done the research and know the risks. We all do. And we take them. Just like a skydiver, or a bike racer. Will you take the word of some hobbyists? A pat on the head that it will all work out?

We can't guarantee that. So make this simple decision. What's more important. The percentage risk that you could get an STD (and pass it along) or fulfilling your desires?

Simple decision really with all the information you have on hand.....

 

[zefroggy]

Nothing can justify the risk, especially when you're married.

I don't justify it. I just take it and have agreed that should anything happen I will need to be ready to act accordingly.

 

[TeasePlease]

OP - what risk do you think you accept with SP but not with MPAs?

It's not that different.

 

[Ridgeman08]

Don't hobby. Sex is a messy and dirty activity and you should avoid contact with all other humans!

Seriously, if you have paranoia about STI's pick a different hobby. If an STI doesn't "get you" the paranoia will.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

Sex doesn't have to be about penetration or exchanging fluids. Since you come from the stripper scene you could make it about the tease, or you could go in another direction like being tied up and humilated by a dom.
Good on you for considering your wife and safety issues, many do not.

 

[Shakeandbake]

There is no justifying the risk , it is accepting that there is risk and making a choice. It doesn't matter how many clients a SP sees , doesn't matter what the agency is or the girl for that matter. We are all swimming in the same pool and you can get an sti from a 500$ an hr SP or a 5$ SP.
If you CHOOSE to see an SP you can minimize the risk by not partaking in kissing , daty, bbbj but even then there is still some risk. Even if you minimize the risk there is still a chance that you can bring something home. This has happened to hobbyists in the recent past (there were several threads about it but they got deleted).
Bottom line is noone can justify it for you , its your choice and your risk. You are a grown man and you make your own choices.

 

[Laird]

You trying to live forever?

 

[Titalian]

I've been lurking for years and been wanting to start hobbying. I started out by going to strip clubs, then saw a few MPs. Now I'm thinking of "upgrading" the experience to seeing an SP. But there's just one last thing stopping me from plunging in. How do you guys get over the risk of getting an STI? I've come to terms and justified the morality of doing it (I'm married), but I just can't get over the STI risks. I don't plan to do BBFS and I'm not into DATY, but going through the Health forum and reading that STIs can be passed by DFK and BBBJ was just enough to scare me. I plan to start by going to a reputable agency (not some cheap place), I already know which one and I already have a well-reviewed SP picked out.

How do you guys justify and/or mitigate the STI risk?

If this is the way your thoughts are going. Why bother?

 

[op12]

search this forum for threads on safe girls. i think kelly arseneau is a safe provider.

 

[elwoodinontario]

Has discussing whats missing in your relationship with your wife even crossed your mind?

 

[George The Curious]

Morality is just a thin veil for practical disease control. Until they find cures for hsv and hpv, whores and sluts will always be considered filthy.