Ummmmm…. Have you seen your ass pic….. I mean avatar?Maybe since I am a provider I got a totally different experience here, when I first got on here everyone seemed friendly and helpful lol
Hazing and hostility
- Thread starter Oral-Bee
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To OP you may have posted a question that we find annoying, has been asked and it appears like a troll. There are many posted threads that have been deleted because of sealioning.
There are too many new members with reviews containing "best of all time", "the hottest ever", "my best experience ever","10/10 the best ever", etc..
I recently fell for 3 of those reviews and experienced the "worst of all time", never again!!!
I recently fell for 3 of those reviews and experienced the "worst of all time", never again!!!
Getting shit on on a hooker board is called a monday.
I think accurate reviews are more important than internet feelings.
I agree that the more crusty bastards of TERB should try to cut a little slack to newbies. However, one problem LEGITIMATE newbies of have is writing reviews in the afterglow of a session. That, combined with a lack of experience, can make an honest review sound like a shill.
If a newbie is shy about writing a full on review they can start by trying to contribute meaningful info on providers they've seen when their names come up. It's probably the single best way to build a good rep without going all out and writing a review.
It's a bit of a strange concept to be building "cred" and "rep" on an anonymous escort review board. When I decide to share my experience with any given provider, it'll be just that, MY experience. Believing or not is anyone's prerogative. If a member decides to buy into a hype, whether written by new or older members, then have a negative experience, it's no reason to bash other members for his negative outcome. Take responsibility for your actions and do better vetting next time.
I've been to a review section of the website. I've seen some reviews by "seasoned" members that read like a novel, sycophancy, degrading, insults, a mix of some etc. Doesn't seem like there's a legitimate correlation between seniority and outcome. One thing that's almost certain is that older members are desensitized to some aspects of intimate interactions and kiss'n'tell while being overly sensitive in other area. It might be completely in reverse for someone who just tipped their toes into the world of paying for pleasure. In my opinion, everyone should just chill and show more respect to each other.
I've been to a review section of the website. I've seen some reviews by "seasoned" members that read like a novel, sycophancy, degrading, insults, a mix of some etc. Doesn't seem like there's a legitimate correlation between seniority and outcome. One thing that's almost certain is that older members are desensitized to some aspects of intimate interactions and kiss'n'tell while being overly sensitive in other area. It might be completely in reverse for someone who just tipped their toes into the world of paying for pleasure. In my opinion, everyone should just chill and show more respect to each other.
I agree with you on most of it. I underlined it in some previous thread and was called a negative Nancy lol. Its notorious that people don't read and most don't follow instructions (men or women!). You can get mad at it or ignore it or make changes. But you can't change the way people will always be.
Suggestion : an automatic email for new subscriber on how to use the forum? Maybe...not more that 3 lines lol
Also, for the guys that says they had terrible expérience on well reviewed girl, 2 points:
1. Agencies buy reviews and some girls have handler.
2. Everything is YMMV a lots of girls including myself. Guys that goes around calling other simp and just being mean to girls ect. Well you are not that slick. I will generally picked up on your shitty demeanor in the first min of the appointment. You can't hide. I wont tell you how I picked up on it but really. Clients make the appointment just as much as the girls.
Suggestion : an automatic email for new subscriber on how to use the forum? Maybe...not more that 3 lines lol
Also, for the guys that says they had terrible expérience on well reviewed girl, 2 points:
1. Agencies buy reviews and some girls have handler.
2. Everything is YMMV a lots of girls including myself. Guys that goes around calling other simp and just being mean to girls ect. Well you are not that slick. I will generally picked up on your shitty demeanor in the first min of the appointment. You can't hide. I wont tell you how I picked up on it but really. Clients make the appointment just as much as the girls.
@Oral-Bee
I think you're mostly right.
Where credibility, or rep, becomes important is when you start having providers in common with other members. It lets other members get a feel for you, and they can mentally compare notes and extrapolate about providers they haven't seen. So being a known commodity has value, IMO. (Even if some of those known commodities are interested in things you aren't, or are disagreeable to you.)
I think you're mostly right.
Where credibility, or rep, becomes important is when you start having providers in common with other members. It lets other members get a feel for you, and they can mentally compare notes and extrapolate about providers they haven't seen. So being a known commodity has value, IMO. (Even if some of those known commodities are interested in things you aren't, or are disagreeable to you.)
This whole place is a strange concept, lol.
I agree, we should try to chill and show some respect for each other. Trolls or shills are usually easy to spot, and will eventually get weeded out. Welcome to TERB and enjoy this place. We look forward to your contributions.
Like everywhere, there's good and bad even worst because people are big mouthed sitting behind the internet. But I see it all over the internet you need thick skin online.
For me, there is a sub-set of people who feel entitled to have other people do their searches for them. They continually post, "any info" yet never provide any information on who they see. However, I'm not your mom, I'm not your wife, I'm not your GF, I don't have tits, I recognize purposely incompetence and have zero patience for it.
Perhaps it's their kink? They're more excited about the thought of seeing a SP and not actually seeing one.
IF a new guy has obviously done research and narrowed it down and THEN is asking for information, perfect. I'll help.
Never the less, I don't think the below is hostile.
If your complaint is about "the lounge" and the political forums, don't be a snowflake and learn to understand that people take their own opinions as seriously as you take yours.
Besides, WHY do you care what randos on the internet say or thing anyway?
Well... I'm observing that some people are ticked off by those who seek to benefit from this site yet seldom/never contributing. Instead of simply ignoring such members, you're choosing to voice your displeasure. I'm simply highlighting the fact that sometimes environment is less than friendly for no apparent reason. It has nothing to do with the thickness of my skin. It's noted though, I should expect some hostility because it's "internet".
The Durham section is big on teaching newbies. Therefore, they will often tell them to use the search function when they post ISOs and that this board is a give and take. You give info to get info. Some may think it harsh but it has in fact improved the section with more reviews and community input.
Newbies have to learn at some point. Ignoring them doesn't teach them anything. I'm not saying that posters need to be rude but Durham has taken a firm stand on this and I see it making a difference. It has changed the section from the wasteland it was a few years ago.
Now TO being a much bigger section, I can understand the annoyance of seeing the same ISOs. Some even a duplicate on the same page. At this stage of internet use, we all know how search functions work. Telling a newbie to use the search function should not be considered unwelcoming. It should be considered teaching.
It's one thing to passively leech information. That's fair enough. And it's generally fine to ask a question on a review (as long as it hasn't been covered a bunch of times). What tends to rub people the wrong way is when people actively try to get other people to try to do their homework for them. Most posters DO ignore those posts, some will try to explain why it's a bad question, and others will be less than kind.
Those questions are the Internet equivalent of bumping into an acquaintance, asking them to do you a tiny favour, and then requesting that they paint your deck. Often with no instructions provided on preferences or anything else. Sometimes they'll ask you to build the deck first. Some people react poorly to those kinds of requests.
What is funny is that in our industry when providers complain that clients don't follow instructions and we get frustrated when clients ask questions that they can answer themselves, we are automatically labeled as jaded and unprofessional. When guys on review board do exactly the same, it's absolutely terrible. That's a double standard I will never understand. I truly hope (and this is absolutely not your case as you are the def of the perfect client) that guys that screams and get mad when them ect know how to follow a provider's instructions to a T....
@Josephine
Yes, that is deeply unfair. Especially when most good providers make a point of covering the important points in their ads, with things spelled out in greater detail on their sites, or agency's site. I think part of it is that people perceive that to be part of your business, while the guys here are effectively 'volunteers'.
With that being said, getting the same damn question for the 500th time this year, when the answer is sitting there in plain sight, has to be frustrating. Most providers handle this with remarkable grace, if for no other reason than to avoid negative accusations, but I get the frustration being very real, lol. Especially with independents who handle their own communications, and are swamped with those sorts of questions.
PS- You made me blush. Just a little.
I hope your time off is going great. Why are you hanging out in here with us grognards? Enjoy you time! 
Yes, that is deeply unfair. Especially when most good providers make a point of covering the important points in their ads, with things spelled out in greater detail on their sites, or agency's site. I think part of it is that people perceive that to be part of your business, while the guys here are effectively 'volunteers'.
With that being said, getting the same damn question for the 500th time this year, when the answer is sitting there in plain sight, has to be frustrating. Most providers handle this with remarkable grace, if for no other reason than to avoid negative accusations, but I get the frustration being very real, lol. Especially with independents who handle their own communications, and are swamped with those sorts of questions.
PS- You made me blush. Just a little.
I hope your time off is going great. Why are you hanging out in here with us grognards? Enjoy you time! Ahah I thankfully would not call everyone here grognards otherwise I would be long gone. I had to post ads and answer messages! Now that it's done, on my way to the beach. Works never really stop for me but I love my job so its never so painful.@Josephine
Yes, that is deeply unfair. Especially when most good providers make a point of covering the important points in their ads, with things spelled out in greater detail on their sites, or agency's site. I think part of it is that people perceive that to be part of your business, while the guys here are effectively 'volunteers'.
With that being said, getting the same damn question for the 500th time this year, when the answer is sitting there in plain sight, has to be frustrating. Most providers handle this with remarkable grace, if for no other reason than to avoid negative accusations, but I get the frustration being very real, lol. Especially with independents who handle their own communications, and are swamped with those sorts of questions.
PS- You made me blush. Just a little.
I think the cagey veterans captured the newbie things that irk the members in the posts above. Here's my summary and a bit o' my opinion:
1. Very first post is a glowing review of an obscure LL lady. This always raises alarm bells. And, certain features of this post will suggest it was written by the woman herself.
2. First post that in essence asks the members to do a lot of work that the poster should do themselves; e.g., "I'd like a list of all the enhanced blondes dd or bigger who host downtown" or stuff like that.
3. A vague " I'm coming to town - who's the best lady?" (Or best kisser, best boobs, etc). Best is too particular.
4. I don't mind the newbies with questions who show humility as they ask questions (eg the "I'm not sure do i put my clothes back on after the shower or come out with the towel"). I realise many of those threads get lost or hard to find. I've searched for my own reviews from before the pandemic and most are gone.
Now my "in my day we walked 5 miles to school in the rain" story: When I joined, I lurked, read, analyzed, listed (back then ladies were more open about listing their services) etc for about 2 months prior to making a booking. Thats where you learned the reputations of various agencies, indies, the hazards of (back then) backpage, etc. I would have been mortified to make my first post "please list all the best non enhanced ebony women who host by the airport". Instead I read the reviews, drew up my own list, and eventually booked my first lady, then first duo, then another, etc, until after a handful of great experiences due to reading other's reviews I felt a bit guilty and realised it was time to give back. Thus posted my first review (a duo review of Laila and Jessica Steele from the now defunct Naughty Nuru agency lol). I've probably done 2-3 dozen or so reviews since. But I do them understanding the lady is a human being so show some sensitivity to her.
So, welcome aboard O-B. Show kindness and give back and you will be a valued member.
1. Very first post is a glowing review of an obscure LL lady. This always raises alarm bells. And, certain features of this post will suggest it was written by the woman herself.
2. First post that in essence asks the members to do a lot of work that the poster should do themselves; e.g., "I'd like a list of all the enhanced blondes dd or bigger who host downtown" or stuff like that.
3. A vague " I'm coming to town - who's the best lady?" (Or best kisser, best boobs, etc). Best is too particular.
4. I don't mind the newbies with questions who show humility as they ask questions (eg the "I'm not sure do i put my clothes back on after the shower or come out with the towel"). I realise many of those threads get lost or hard to find. I've searched for my own reviews from before the pandemic and most are gone.
Now my "in my day we walked 5 miles to school in the rain" story: When I joined, I lurked, read, analyzed, listed (back then ladies were more open about listing their services) etc for about 2 months prior to making a booking. Thats where you learned the reputations of various agencies, indies, the hazards of (back then) backpage, etc. I would have been mortified to make my first post "please list all the best non enhanced ebony women who host by the airport". Instead I read the reviews, drew up my own list, and eventually booked my first lady, then first duo, then another, etc, until after a handful of great experiences due to reading other's reviews I felt a bit guilty and realised it was time to give back. Thus posted my first review (a duo review of Laila and Jessica Steele from the now defunct Naughty Nuru agency lol). I've probably done 2-3 dozen or so reviews since. But I do them understanding the lady is a human being so show some sensitivity to her.
So, welcome aboard O-B. Show kindness and give back and you will be a valued member.
