Hard time cumming

[Brill]

How about 30 minutes of tender licking, 30 minutes of hard pounding, then jacking off on her tits?

 

[LadyTY2Uall]

This topic should be made a sticky.

Assuming there are no medical explanation (the pipes work well, you're not on some medication such as antidepressant that are known to reduce your libido and ability to cum, good mental and physical health, healthy diet, etc.), a very common explanation for your trouble would be your wanking habits.

Many guys tend to use a very tight grip when jerking off, and/or to not vary much their wanking routine. The side effect of this is that Jr. gets into the habit and becomes unable to cum from other, often more subtle or gentle, forms of stimulation. As someone else as said, a pussy or a mouth is not going to provide Jr. with the same firm and vigorous stimulation as your hand does.

So what do you do? Re-train your cock by changing and varying your wanking routine. Jerk off with a condom (assuming that you are going to use them at least for FS, it's a good idea to train your cock to enjoy the sensations through a condom), use lots of lube, loosen up the grip on Jr. use your non-dominant hand to jerk off, get yourself a fleshlight, etc.

The key here is to be the bigger man, and to not give into Jr.'s protestations. It will most likely take a few wanking sessions for your cock to re-learn to enjoy and cum from different sensations and stimulations. But don't give up by reverting back to your old habits. After a few frustrating sessions, your cock will learn to take what it gets and to cum from it.

I have clients that wank 3 or 4 times daily,,,,they cannot cum any other way. As advised already, take a break from the hand. Or, at the end of the session just take things in your own hand and finish that way,,,,,most of us don't mind if you want to do this, and then you can cum in cool places,,,,ass, tits, etc.

 

[blank_dave]

Have to disagree with you there Brill... Why jerk yourself off when there's a perfectly willing and able woman with 3 "inputs" and 2 hands of her own to do it for you!

Alas, not all of use have that option.

 

[moviefan]

Sometimes trying new positions can help.

Also, I have found that taking a brief break during the sex, for some cuddling, can sometimes help make it easier to ultimately achieve an SOG. I'm not sure why this works, but it has worked for me.

You may also need to book longer sessions. In my case, I usually need more than an hour these days.

Hope this helps. At least you can take some comfort knowing you're not the only one who has had to deal with this issue (which can be embarrassing).

 

[GDLLover]

Have to disagree with you there Brill... Why jerk yourself off when there's a perfectly willing and able woman with 3 "inputs" and 2 hands of her own to do it for you!

Even when its there, not always perfectly willing.

 

[The Options Menu]

The one caveat I'd add to Gen's first post in this thread is that it taking a 'few' trial runs may be a little euphemistic. If you've spent 10 years jackhammering you penis by your lonesome self it may take a while to get out of that zone. While I haven't had the masturbation issue, I have has a couple of multi-year monogamous relationships, and changing up your style after one can be an issue. It actually takes quite some effort to break up an established stimulus and response pattern. It actually might be easier in the case of monogamy, because after that's over you should theoretically have another person demanding satisfaction. (And I couldn't date anybody that didn't demand 'satisfaction'.) I actually think that's one thing SPs can be bad for... (You can 'do a SP' like you did the EX plus a couple of things the Ex didn't do.)

 

[realthing69]

a lot of the times it's mental

Assuming you are in good health (nothing physical or no medical conditions), most of the time it's mental....all you can do is relax, enjoy and keep doing it!

I had the same issues, I'd go for over an hour without a SOG but kept trying and then one day I scored!!! From then on I started to score every game and even a few 2 goal games.

You just can't think about it which is the hardest thing to do especially when you have a time limit. Booking longer sessions might help too. In this case having an SP who is vocal or really into it will help you climax.

 

[Riley.Royal]

Yesterday I had a nice session with a SP. I was hard but I couldn't cum. I was frustrated (and I suppose to some extend so was she). Any advice? TYIA.

Sometimes that happens, don't be too hard on yourself. sometimes you can't predict when you will get a happy ending.