GF an escort?
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1. You focus only on who and what she is to you; the other stuff is irrelevant.
2. You accept the fact that she does what she does for a living. If you can't, you better be prepared to support her financially, to the standard to which she has become accustomed.
If you can't do the above, and you have that image stuck in your head, it won't work.
Even if you can do the above, you hope that she:
1. Keeps something special that is private and exclusive only to you.
2. Is honest and open with you and does nothing behind your back. (e.g., she sees guys in hotel rooms for sessions, but doesn't sneak around having dinner with them or seeing them off the clock)
It's all about trust. Once it is broken, you're fucked. That applies to any relationship. But, industry relationships are doubly fucked. These girls are actresses and they are pros at manipulating men. So, distinguishing between real and not is pretty well impossible. The best advice is to simply watch what she does rather than what she says. Words are cheap. Excuses are plentiful. What a person does is what counts.
If you find yourself making excuses for her to assuage your own feelings, or you find yourself doubting every word coming from her, it's time to pull the chute.
(p.s. look at it like a trip to the casino. Don't put on the table any more than you can afford to lose.)
2. You accept the fact that she does what she does for a living. If you can't, you better be prepared to support her financially, to the standard to which she has become accustomed.
If you can't do the above, and you have that image stuck in your head, it won't work.
Even if you can do the above, you hope that she:
1. Keeps something special that is private and exclusive only to you.
2. Is honest and open with you and does nothing behind your back. (e.g., she sees guys in hotel rooms for sessions, but doesn't sneak around having dinner with them or seeing them off the clock)
It's all about trust. Once it is broken, you're fucked. That applies to any relationship. But, industry relationships are doubly fucked. These girls are actresses and they are pros at manipulating men. So, distinguishing between real and not is pretty well impossible. The best advice is to simply watch what she does rather than what she says. Words are cheap. Excuses are plentiful. What a person does is what counts.
If you find yourself making excuses for her to assuage your own feelings, or you find yourself doubting every word coming from her, it's time to pull the chute.
(p.s. look at it like a trip to the casino. Don't put on the table any more than you can afford to lose.)
Make her pay for dinner when you go out, then you'll be thinking every forkful of steak you're putting in your mouth was paid for by a naked middle-aged bald fat guy.
I don't think it counts as sex if the guy calls you by your fake name. Plus, it isn't sex, it is work. Big difference imo.
Compartmentalization. An essential skill of sexwork.
I moonlight as a restaurant/food critic. When I dine out on the job, I'm not really eating.
I bet she's learned some good positions, even opened up her menu. Is she a squirter now?
You should be thanking us for giving her the bone. :thumb:
You should be thanking us for giving her the bone. :thumb:
LOL. I'm dense.
Sadly, I've heard that line from more than a few working girls. Even from one who honestly believed that it would be ok to fuck her SO's best friend, or a family friend, or her sister's bf because it was just work...
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Before I went independent and was probably a bit more able to talk candidly I expressed my views on this. I'm not sure that I can say something quite as candid now.
All I can confidently say that is (hypothetically) your girlfriend may do what she does.... but she separates "work" vs "real life" in her head some way. If she didn't, she'd go crazy.
It's doesn't mean she doesn't care about the ppl who see her... or enjoy having the chance to play the sex-pot roll.... but if a woman who knows a helluva lot about the average male and who may-well be a bit jaded or may have difficulty trusting (bc she has seen a lot) decides she trusts you enough to want a real relationship with you and if she is honest about what she does.. . She truly cares about you.
If you care for her. Get off Terb now. Reading her reviews isnt going to help you whatsoever.
Many ladies have successful relationships ether marriage or as BF/GF.....
but like Cupid said" isn't sex, it is work. Big difference"
Tease Please statement is also very wise, honesty,and communication is very important.
but like Cupid said" isn't sex, it is work. Big difference"
Tease Please statement is also very wise, honesty,and communication is very important.
I happen to think 90% of the population knows nothing about sex, so chances are she might not be that good at it.
It's actually quite simple.
If you're the monogamous type, it's going to bother you, and you won't get over it. If you're the non-monogamous type, you'll deal with it just like you would deal with her having relationship (sexual or otherwise) with other people than you.
I'm over-simplifying of course, and I know of monogamous type people who have dated/are dating escort and are doing just fine (and I'm sure some non-monogamous people would have issues with the sex-work thing), but as a general rule, some people are OK with their partner having sex with other people (for work or fun), and some people just can't wrap their head around it. Figure out which type you are, and proceed accordingly.
If you're the monogamous type, it's going to bother you, and you won't get over it. If you're the non-monogamous type, you'll deal with it just like you would deal with her having relationship (sexual or otherwise) with other people than you.
I'm over-simplifying of course, and I know of monogamous type people who have dated/are dating escort and are doing just fine (and I'm sure some non-monogamous people would have issues with the sex-work thing), but as a general rule, some people are OK with their partner having sex with other people (for work or fun), and some people just can't wrap their head around it. Figure out which type you are, and proceed accordingly.
Or, if you're Victoria Catherina, simply bare your breasts everytime your man gets lippy about you working in the biz and he will become incapable of coherent thought.
