It’s normal to be nervous. I still even get a little nervous seeing someone who I’ve seen many times before. In the world outside of this forum, the sex industry, sex workers and clients are heavily stigmatized. We have been conditioned to think that providers are either dirty sluts and hustlers who are out to take advantage of clients or victims of misogyny, abuse and trafficking, who exist on the margins of society and the law. Clients are portrayed as perverts, creeps, pedophiles and criminals, who abuse women for their own gratification. Combine that with a Catholic upbringing, where any sex out of marriage, you have a toxic view of this world that has been hammered into you from all sides. That’s part of the reason why you get nervous or cold feet. It’s also opposite to how we are supposed to have sex, ie get to know them, establish a relationship, then have sex.
As for how to get past that, I’ve a few suggestions. 1. Decide if this is something you really want to get into for sure. It’s not for everyone. 2. Choose wisely. Book a provider who has an excellent reputation for good service. These reputations are earned not only for performance of acts you see in a porno, but also because these women are incredibly skilled at making you comfortable, and protecting your safety and privacy. 3. Don’t skimp on your budget for this. Many of the horror stories we see here are when guys are trying to get something for next to nothing and end up in a bad situation. 4. Remember for the great quality providers, they do this for a living, have seen it all, and won’t shame you for wanting to do this. 5. Finally, just do it. You can talk all you want about how to jump off the high diving board, but you actually need to step off it and hit the water. Don’t overthink it too much. Tons of guys who are in this world are just nice normal guys who are looking for something that is missing in life. There are more guys that see escorts, MPAs and strippers than society would like you to believe.
