Gentlemen, do you feel beneath when you see SWs that you have a genuine desire for date men other than yourself?

[Tashki]

There’s this woman I’ve known before both of us hit puberty so I’ve known her for more than half of my life. She’s now a sex worker. I asked her out for dinner and she told me that she’s not looking for anything other than paid time at the moment.


I noticed that this behaviour pattern of women who work in this profession always bring up money in the conversation even outside of their work hours when I ask them out on a date. It’s quite tasteless if you ask me. I’d had a stripper ask me if I could pay for her nails, I’ve seen SWs on their personal instagram have something in their bio that reads something like “If you are going to DM me, E-transfer me.”
I don’t want to paint all SWs with one brush because I do know SWs that are in relationships and SWs who actually date in their personal life. So I asked the SW who pretty much rejected me: “Where is the line being crossed between women under your profession asking men to pay a fee to be with you vs you wanting to develop genuine relationships with men?”

As I’m paraphrasing she said “If SW wants to charge you for a fee, She’s not interested in you. She has to really like you to want you to take her out on an actual date.”

I read the book “Paying for it” by Chester Brown and there was a chapter where he was a regular of his escort Denise for 6 years and he brought up the thought about she might be dating guys in her personal life. I genuinely felt beneath for the author compared to the men that may be dating Denise; She’s using all of her free time for the men she’s dating meanwhile still charging Chester. If Chester is seeing Denise for 6 years, I believe there has to be some form of love and genuine desire for her yet he is still being charged.

So my question for the gentlemen is do you feel beneath when you see SWs that you have a genuine desire for date men other than yourself?

 

[bazokajoe]

No it doesn't bother me, even though I have never asked an escort out on personal time.
It's a business transaction for me and nothing more.

 

[Jenesis]

There’s this woman I’ve known before both of us hit puberty so I’ve known her for more than half of my life. She’s now a sex worker. I asked her out for dinner and she told me that she’s not looking for anything other than paid time at the moment.


I noticed that this behaviour pattern of women who work in this profession always bring up money in the conversation even outside of their work hours when I ask them out on a date. It’s quite tasteless if you ask me. I’d had a stripper ask me if I could pay for her nails, I’ve seen SWs on their personal instagram have something in their bio that reads something like “If you are going to DM me, E-transfer me.”
I don’t want to paint all SWs with one brush because I do know SWs that are in relationships and SWs who actually date in their personal life. So I asked the SW who pretty much rejected me: “Where is the line being crossed between women under your profession asking men to pay a fee to be with you vs you wanting to develop genuine relationships with men?”

As I’m paraphrasing she said “If SW wants to charge you for a fee, She’s not interested in you. She has to really like you to want you to take her out on an actual date.”

I read the book “Paying for it” by Chester Brown and there was a chapter where he was a regular of his escort Denise for 6 years and he brought up the thought about she might be dating guys in her personal life. I genuinely felt beneath for the author compared to the men that may be dating Denise; She’s using all of her free time for the men she’s dating meanwhile still charging Chester. If Chester is seeing Denise for 6 years, I believe there has to be some form of love and genuine desire for her yet he is still being charged.

So my question for the gentlemen is do you feel beneath when you see SWs that you have a genuine desire for date men other than yourself?

Are you asking if men feel below to totem pole when an SP choose to date another guy over him? Wouldn’t that apply in general?


You like a girl and she doesn’t like you, she dates another guy? What does her profession have to do with it?

She is right though, I will never date personally. I have no interest in it. So I will never have “free” sex. It will always be paid. It would take a lot of interest on my part to date a guy for free.

 

[NotADcotor]

They just are not that into you. If they were, not only would they not charge, but you can get them to pay you like a "romeo pimp" does.

Most girls will break all their rules for a guy they actually like in that sort of way.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

OP, you're in serious need of therapy and I don't mean it as an insult. Most of your other threads and messages suggest that you have a serious disconnect when it comes to women. There's a way to correct it and work on self improvement.

 

[onomatopoeia]

... I’ve known before both of us hit puberty so I’ve known her for more than half of my life...

I read the book “Paying for it” by Chester Brown and there was a chapter where he was a regular of his escort Denise for 6 years and he brought up the thought about she might be dating guys in her personal life. I genuinely felt beneath for the author compared to the men that may be dating Denise; She’s using all of her free time for the men she’s dating meanwhile still charging Chester. If Chester is seeing Denise for 6 years, I believe there has to be some form of love and genuine desire for her yet he is still being charged.

For those who don't know, Paying for It is a graphic novel, not a regular book of text.



Taski, you're in your mid-twenties, and you don't understand the difference between sex and love. Love is an emotion; sex is a physical activity. Anyone can have either one without the other.

If your heart beats faster when you see a woman, and/ or you get a chubby looking at her fully clothed, without touching yourself, you're not in love, you're just sexually aroused. If you have a deep emotional attraction for someone who does not feel the same way about you, you're not in love, that's called infatuation. People are in love only when the emotional attraction is mutual.

This is actually fairly rare. Many couples are composed of one person who loves, and another who allows themselves to be loved.

A woman can love you emotionally, without having any desire to have sex with you. A mother and child relationship is a good example, or a guy who's been friend zoned.

Lots of civilians have sex with people whom they don't love, and many more love someone with whom they do not have sex. Many married couples love each other, but don't have sex, often because they see themselves only as parents. Married men who see Escorts are often men who still have a desire for sex, but not with their spouse, or their spouse has little or no interest. Sex with an Escort is a different scenario from having an affair or a mistress. The former is a business transaction; the latter is called alienation of affection in divorce court.

It isn't necessary for two people to even like each other before having sex. That applies to a lot of the sex in pornography. In other cases, there is just a mutual physical attraction, and nothing more, or one of the two people just likes sex, and doesn't care with whom they have it.

Don't go looking for love in the sex trade. If you get it, it will be because it found you.

 

[Sonic Temple]

There’s this woman I’ve known before both of us hit puberty so I’ve known her for more than half of my life. She’s now a sex worker. I asked her out for dinner and she told me that she’s not looking for anything other than paid time at the moment.

I noticed that this behaviour pattern of women who work in this profession always bring up money in the conversation even outside of their work hours when I ask them out on a date. It’s quite tasteless if you ask me. I’d had a stripper ask me if I could pay for her nails, I’ve seen SWs on their personal instagram have something in their bio that reads something like “If you are going to DM me, E-transfer me.”
I don’t want to paint all SWs with one brush because I do know SWs that are in relationships and SWs who actually date in their personal life. So I asked the SW who pretty much rejected me: “Where is the line being crossed between women under your profession asking men to pay a fee to be with you vs you wanting to develop genuine relationships with men?”

As I’m paraphrasing she said “If SW wants to charge you for a fee, She’s not interested in you. She has to really like you to want you to take her out on an actual date.”

I read the book “Paying for it” by Chester Brown and there was a chapter where he was a regular of his escort Denise for 6 years and he brought up the thought about she might be dating guys in her personal life. I genuinely felt beneath for the author compared to the men that may be dating Denise; She’s using all of her free time for the men she’s dating meanwhile still charging Chester. If Chester is seeing Denise for 6 years, I believe there has to be some form of love and genuine desire for her yet he is still being charged.

So my question for the gentlemen is do you feel beneath when you see SWs that you have a genuine desire for date men other than yourself?

Mate - do not get into this hobby lifestyle to find a long-term relationship. That's it - one rule - don't fall in love or get emotional. You will lose all the time.

 

[Sonic Temple]

For those who don't know, Paying for It is a graphic novel, not a regular book of text.

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Taski, you're in your mid-twenties, and you don't understand the difference between sex and love. Love is an emotion; sex is a physical activity. Anyone can have either one without the other.

If your heart beats faster when you see a woman, and/ or you get a chubby looking at her fully clothed, without touching yourself, you're not in love, you're just sexually aroused. If you have a deep emotional attraction for someone who does not feel the same way about you, you're not in love, that's called infatuation. People are in love only when the emotional attraction is mutual.

This is actually fairly rare. Many couples are composed of one person who loves, and another who allows themselves to be loved.

A woman can love you emotionally, without having any desire to have sex with you. A mother and child relationship is a good example, or a guy who's been friend zoned.

Lots of civilians have sex with people whom they don't love, and many more love someone with whom they do not have sex. Many married couples love each other, but don't have sex, often because they see themselves only as parents. Married men who see Escorts are often men who still have a desire for sex, but not with their spouse, or their spouse has little or no interest. Sex with an Escort is a different scenario from having an affair or a mistress. The former is a business transaction; the latter is called alienation of affection in divorce court.

It isn't necessary for two people to even like each other before having sex. That applies to a lot of the sex in pornography. In other cases, there is just a mutual physical attraction, and nothing more, or one of the two people just likes sex, and doesn't care with whom they have it.

Don't go looking for love in the sex trade. If you get it, it will be because it found you.

Well said mate!

 

[Jenesis]

OP, you're in serious need of therapy and I don't mean it as an insult. Most of your other threads and messages suggest that you have a serious disconnect when it comes to women. There's a way to correct it and work on self improvement.

I have this so many times and without any insult, but he needs help and TERB is not the place for it.

 

[dirtyharry555]

I've always felt sad for the guy that's dating an SP. I'm here getting what I want with some $$$ yet he's there putting in time, effort, money, and has to take all her BS to get the same. He's also sharing her with hundreds of men without knowing it. That makes him a sucker which is just awful.

 

[KDK13]

There’s this woman I’ve known before both of us hit puberty so I’ve known her for more than half of my life. She’s now a sex worker. I asked her out for dinner and she told me that she’s not looking for anything other than paid time at the moment.


I noticed that this behaviour pattern of women who work in this profession always bring up money in the conversation even outside of their work hours when I ask them out on a date. It’s quite tasteless if you ask me. I’d had a stripper ask me if I could pay for her nails, I’ve seen SWs on their personal instagram have something in their bio that reads something like “If you are going to DM me, E-transfer me.”
I don’t want to paint all SWs with one brush because I do know SWs that are in relationships and SWs who actually date in their personal life. So I asked the SW who pretty much rejected me: “Where is the line being crossed between women under your profession asking men to pay a fee to be with you vs you wanting to develop genuine relationships with men?”

As I’m paraphrasing she said “If SW wants to charge you for a fee, She’s not interested in you. She has to really like you to want you to take her out on an actual date.”

I read the book “Paying for it” by Chester Brown and there was a chapter where he was a regular of his escort Denise for 6 years and he brought up the thought about she might be dating guys in her personal life. I genuinely felt beneath for the author compared to the men that may be dating Denise; She’s using all of her free time for the men she’s dating meanwhile still charging Chester. If Chester is seeing Denise for 6 years, I believe there has to be some form of love and genuine desire for her yet he is still being charged.

So my question for the gentlemen is do you feel beneath when you see SWs that you have a genuine desire for date men other than yourself?

No.

 

[jcpro]

ROTFLMFAO! Thos is a hilarious thread.