Do you ever feel bad about being a hobbyist? Lately, I think of those that respect me and love me and value me ... and sometimes I think that I am betraying them by being a hobbyist. I am not married, however, there are those in my life who would feel disappointment if they knew about this side of my life. Their respect for me would be diminished. I have been a hobbyist for over 30 years and it has never bothered me. I have never thought about what others would think. But lately, for some reason, it has started to bother me. Not that I will stop. I will go from hobbyist to dirty old man someday. This twinge of conscience will hopefully be brief.
Does being a hobbyist bother you?
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Maybe you need punishment...
There are SPs on this board who could accomodate you quite willingly.
There are SPs on this board who could accomodate you quite willingly.
My view
Everyone has two or more sides of his/her life. Perhaps some of your male friends are hobbyists and/or some of your female friends are SPs. They probably don't want to let you know, just like you don't want to let them know. This might happen to a lot of people. Morally, I don't see any difference between a hobbyist and someone who's trying to find some free pussies at the bars. Instead, we hobbyists at least pay for the service and won't take advantage of someone that is drunk!
Everyone has two or more sides of his/her life. Perhaps some of your male friends are hobbyists and/or some of your female friends are SPs. They probably don't want to let you know, just like you don't want to let them know. This might happen to a lot of people. Morally, I don't see any difference between a hobbyist and someone who's trying to find some free pussies at the bars. Instead, we hobbyists at least pay for the service and won't take advantage of someone that is drunk!
May be it is time to become a hobbyist of different sorts, like pick up a game of chess or two; collecting stamps does not sound too bad; probably cheaper than collecting SPs if you don't spend big bucks on rare stamps.havingfun said:
LORL!!!Once, I was fucking an 18 year old independent SP who had just graduated high school 2 months eariler. Tightest pussy I have ever been inside, and her ass was hard as a rock, too. She was very mechanical, and I kept asking her if she was ok, because I felt like I was ruining or raping or otherwise insulting this beautiful young girl. But she kept saying that she was fine and that everything was ok.
I felt dirty after having had her, but I gave her three or four opportunities to end things. She wasn't a virgin by a long shot, and she wanted my money,so since she was sober and clear headed and in control of what she was doing, I am hard pressed to feel guilty about using her. She got my money and I got her body. No one was hurt and we both came out of the encounter with what we wanted. If I can use a young thing like that and accept that she has the right to do what she wants with her body, I certainly can't complain about the more typical SP who offers her services of her own free will.
I felt dirty after having had her, but I gave her three or four opportunities to end things. She wasn't a virgin by a long shot, and she wanted my money,so since she was sober and clear headed and in control of what she was doing, I am hard pressed to feel guilty about using her. She got my money and I got her body. No one was hurt and we both came out of the encounter with what we wanted. If I can use a young thing like that and accept that she has the right to do what she wants with her body, I certainly can't complain about the more typical SP who offers her services of her own free will.
I wouldn't say being a hobbyist bothers me. But I also wouldn't say it is anything I am really proud of either. Paying for sex still retains a social stigma in most circles, at least in North America. There have been plenty of threads about whether we talk about his hobby with our friends, and for the most part, the answer is no, which tells you something.
For the most part, I think the hobbyist/sp transaction is about one of the most honest and mutually beneficial transactions there can be between two people. Both sides get something they want. When it works, there are no lies, no games, and no hurt feelings.
For the most part, I think the hobbyist/sp transaction is about one of the most honest and mutually beneficial transactions there can be between two people. Both sides get something they want. When it works, there are no lies, no games, and no hurt feelings.
Can't think of anything witty to say, but no it does not. Mind you I have been at this for 25 years. The conscious is the first to go.
You're kidding me, right?? First of all, if you're that worried about it, don't tell anyone. On the other hand, you're not married - I'm assuming you're single, so you aren't cheating. Let's face it, we all need sex, and at least a SP/hobbyist transaction is brutally honest. If someone is offended by it, that's OK, but it shouldn't become your problem.havingfun said:
Look at what happened when I told my LF that I hobby. Sure, she was disgusted at first, but only because the notion was outside her frame of reference. I told her that she had the right to her opinion, but at the end of the day, I'm still going to do what I want regardless. I'm certainly not going to tug on anyone's shirt sleeves to see if it's ok to be happy while I'm alive - and yes, seeing SPs is something I very much enjoy. I told my friend point blank that I was telling her no lies, simply the truth, and she would have to decide whether or not she could come to terms with it. Hobbying is part of who I am, plain and simple and I'm not about to change my behavior for anyone. Why should I??
PHNINE said:I am not a hobbyist...
Nor am I , after all this time I consider myself a Professional. Do not try this at home what you are watching was done by professionals on a closed set.
Like what has been said before I'm at the point that the only thing that gets bothered is my Wallet
PHNINE said:
I guess a case could be made for the title of "Professional Reviewer"? There's a whole adult industry out there and somebody has to write reviews, right? Kinda like the Roger Ebert of sex? And why the hell did I just write "Ebert" and "sex" in the same sentence?LancsLad said:
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