Many of the women in the business profess that they really do love what they do but I have also met a few with stories of poverty, abuse, struggle, a strong desire to retire and no other choice but to "sell themselves" to survive. So this post mainly asks for comments from them.
Do they really love what they do
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No working lady will answer this question. They do not like it for the most part. Would you like to have sex with unnattractive strangers for money, be reduced to an object, compared based on tightness of pussy, etc etc? Some will say that they love sex, sure the odd girl may really be telling the truth when they say they "love" their job, but in my experience, a very large proportion of the girls are doing it for the $ and cant wait till you leave. I mean come on, there are always reviews about girls "with a cold", who are "acting odd", "seem drunk". they are getting drunk/high/snorting coke/taking pills to be able to have sex with you. Does that sound like a person who "loves" their job?
I think this is a hard question to answer for men. Alas...if we had to have sex on and on and on..with ugly fat stinky girls..WE WOULD FAIL ...as our abilities would be exposed due to limpness!!
However women...can at least fake it. Get showered...compartmentalize the act...and get outta Dodge. The 200+ an hour makes it pallatable...however I think anyone who says they like it is lying!!
A woman...with low self esteem (The majority of SP) I am sure likes to be wanted and told she is beautiful and hot and all that.... but sadly they cannot get proper attention via more conventional routes
However women...can at least fake it. Get showered...compartmentalize the act...and get outta Dodge. The 200+ an hour makes it pallatable...however I think anyone who says they like it is lying!!
A woman...with low self esteem (The majority of SP) I am sure likes to be wanted and told she is beautiful and hot and all that.... but sadly they cannot get proper attention via more conventional routes
Not all women who work in the industry have low self esteem... In fact it takes a fair amount of confidence to make it past the end of the first week. Not to mention a thick skin to be on or around the boards. There are a number of men who take great pleasure in attacking the nitty gritty details.
This isn't for the faint of heart. Maybe the narcissistic ones though.
Interesting thread.
Anyone know of anywhere where the women open up and discuss their true feelings without fear of economic reprisal? Somehow I doubt such a place exists, but it should... Then again, there was that thread by one desperate woman who lived "on the streets" to survive, but I don't think she's the typical SP.
Anyone know of anywhere where the women open up and discuss their true feelings without fear of economic reprisal? Somehow I doubt such a place exists, but it should... Then again, there was that thread by one desperate woman who lived "on the streets" to survive, but I don't think she's the typical SP.
I used to love the business. There were things that happened that made me feel like I just needed to get out. I might return someday, I might not. But either way, it was still, overall, good while it lasted. A great deal of the clients are good people, who just want to feel good for a little while. As with anything, there is always a reverse side, where the bad clients or agencies come in to play. Nothing is ever perfect. It is always good to take a break if you feel yourself staring to dislike the business. Unfortunately most girls like the money too much to take a break, even for a month or so.
I used to think that there were a few girls who truly enjoyed the work. But every girl I've talked to openly, in private moments, has had regrets and doubts. No one would choose this path if they had a better option (for the same money and effort, etc.)
The most striking example in my mind is a very popular MPA who excelled at her career; consistently stellar reviews, always marvelling at her complete devotion to great service. I recall one reviewer who said that she truly enjoyed men and another who thought that she epitomized what this industry is about. She doesn't regret getting into the biz, but she does think about how different her life would be if she hadn't. She knows that the biz messed her up personally, and knows that it has cost her a lot in her private life. I also remember clearly when she said she never wanted to get naked again for money. It blew my mind to hear all of this from her.
I also remember another legendary MPA who told me that being a sexworker is the loneliest job in the world. You can have the most amazing clients, who are considerate and thoughtful, clean and handsome. But after sharing the ultimate physical intimacies, being adored and flattered, at the end of the day, you're still alone. It leaves you feeling completely hollow.
The most striking example in my mind is a very popular MPA who excelled at her career; consistently stellar reviews, always marvelling at her complete devotion to great service. I recall one reviewer who said that she truly enjoyed men and another who thought that she epitomized what this industry is about. She doesn't regret getting into the biz, but she does think about how different her life would be if she hadn't. She knows that the biz messed her up personally, and knows that it has cost her a lot in her private life. I also remember clearly when she said she never wanted to get naked again for money. It blew my mind to hear all of this from her.
I also remember another legendary MPA who told me that being a sexworker is the loneliest job in the world. You can have the most amazing clients, who are considerate and thoughtful, clean and handsome. But after sharing the ultimate physical intimacies, being adored and flattered, at the end of the day, you're still alone. It leaves you feeling completely hollow.
This would sound like the experience of more than a few of the clients I'd think.
I would say the same is true for men!!! The world of sex (fucking) can be a lonely game as well with mindless ladies.
There is no real connection but for the wee short hour!
If the girls really DID LIKE the industry..... they would not be getting out of it as quickly as they do!
There is no real connection but for the wee short hour!
If the girls really DID LIKE the industry..... they would not be getting out of it as quickly as they do!
We all have our crosses to bear.
Do you think I love all of my clients?
Not in a million years.
Do you think I adore all of the people I work with?
Nope
Do you think that I don't have day where I question what the fuck I am doing?
I sure do.
On top of that, I need to chase people for money. I have suppliers who underbid, make errors in their estimates, then expect me to bite it and pay them anyway. I have to deal with owners who are unrealistic nasty bastards. I have to deal with consultants. I have to out smart my competition and even then, they are out to fuck me.
It's a job.
It has its moments, but at the end of the day, it's a job and I'm a professional. While I may not be literally getting fucked, I do have to figuratively bend over and for a hell of lot less money than 250 or 300 an hour. So it is what it is. I would imagine that sex work is much the same - it has its moments.
Do you think I love all of my clients?
Not in a million years.
Do you think I adore all of the people I work with?
Nope
Do you think that I don't have day where I question what the fuck I am doing?
I sure do.
On top of that, I need to chase people for money. I have suppliers who underbid, make errors in their estimates, then expect me to bite it and pay them anyway. I have to deal with owners who are unrealistic nasty bastards. I have to deal with consultants. I have to out smart my competition and even then, they are out to fuck me.
It's a job.
It has its moments, but at the end of the day, it's a job and I'm a professional. While I may not be literally getting fucked, I do have to figuratively bend over and for a hell of lot less money than 250 or 300 an hour. So it is what it is. I would imagine that sex work is much the same - it has its moments.
" No one would choose this path if they had a better option (for the same money and effort, etc.)"
Where else can you make $250 per hour with no education, with hardly any physical effort?
.... I honestly like what I do.
There was a time I didn't ~ it took me up until the past year or so to totally feel comfortable with what I do. (probably because my work affected a few of my personal relationships back in the day and I felt a bit of shame due to the reactions a few people I cared about had when they learned of what I do).
I've been in the business for a quite awhile now.... Most of the difficulty I've found with the "job" over the years has come from workplace drama, not from my clients. The people who are close to me in my personal life know what I do; I'm not ashamed of my work, I haven't started to hate men, I'm more comfortable with my body and mind than I probably was back when I got into this world....
I find this job actually done a lot of good for me. Some may laugh at that.... but the rewards I find in my work are more significant than financial or sexual....
My experience has not been all sunshine and rainbows but it's certainly has not been as tragic as many would believe the average sex workers' experience would be.
There was a time I didn't ~ it took me up until the past year or so to totally feel comfortable with what I do. (probably because my work affected a few of my personal relationships back in the day and I felt a bit of shame due to the reactions a few people I cared about had when they learned of what I do).
I've been in the business for a quite awhile now.... Most of the difficulty I've found with the "job" over the years has come from workplace drama, not from my clients. The people who are close to me in my personal life know what I do; I'm not ashamed of my work, I haven't started to hate men, I'm more comfortable with my body and mind than I probably was back when I got into this world....
I find this job actually done a lot of good for me. Some may laugh at that.... but the rewards I find in my work are more significant than financial or sexual....
My experience has not been all sunshine and rainbows but it's certainly has not been as tragic as many would believe the average sex workers' experience would be.
That's what I mean. No education and great $/hour of work...but at a fairly high psychological/emotional cost.
hardly any psysical effort?
so your saying having sex with men all day isnt hard on your body?
what about safety? there is a chance a sex worker could be raped and killed by seeing random strangers...
so your saying having sex with men all day isnt hard on your body?
what about safety? there is a chance a sex worker could be raped and killed by seeing random strangers...
Something to remember is that the per hour isn't 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. Agency girls get half the hourly usually and indies have their overhead. In 25 years in the industry I've seldom seen a girl make decent money for an extended amount of time. They burn out. My hourly breaks down to $20-25 per hour before taxes/after expenses depending on my week. The costs of this industry to the providers is enormous and only those forged in fire make it a career.
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