Dating your fav SP ?

[waldointo]

I am sure this topic came up before.
I met this lady a few times and we clicked right away. She is a cute, well reviewed SP. I will hold all other details for obvious reasons. We have exchanged personal information, been out to dinner a few times and realized the attraction is even stronger 'in the real world'. Given the nature of this hobby you can't really ask friends for advice and run the risk of having the girl judged because of what she does.

We are both single, I enjoy this hobby and she seems to enjoy her job. I would not need to hobby anymore but she would still need to work as an SP for a short while at least... I confess, I will have a hard time dealing with this situation.

Considering the way we meet, it is a very unusual situation. Until recently hobbying was just two consenting adults having a good time with no strings attached, I guess things changed.

Still thinking about it but I would like it to work.

 

[Brill]

It's nice you're having a good time in the real world with her and it's good you're asking yourself if you're fine with her continuing in the biz.
I wouldn't ask her to stop, but she might decide to do so anyway or you might get used to the idea - these are things you have to sort out for yourself.

 

[freestuff]

Yeah, this topic has been discussed before.
They'll be people telling you to go for it. They'll be people telling you it's not going to work. I'm in the latter camp.
Relationships are hard as they are. Now you toss in the SP/john aspect and you have a disaster waiting to happen.
I must admit that the novelty of being in a relationship with a SP can at first be intoxicating. But take a step back and think about all the implications of being with a SP. As you pointed out, it is troubling. And how do you know she's going to stop? She might tell you that she did but who knows if that's true.
I guess the ultimate test is this: if she chose to be a SP, would you still want to be in a relationship with her?
GL whatever you do.

 

[Alex_Ontario]

I am sure this topic came up before.
I met this lady a few times and we clicked right away. She is a cute, well reviewed SP. I will hold all other details for obvious reasons. We have exchanged personal information, been out to dinner a few times and realized the attraction is even stronger 'in the real world'. Given the nature of this hobby you can't really ask friends for advice and run the risk of having the girl judged because of what she does.

We are both single, I enjoy this hobby and she seems to enjoy her job. I would not need to hobby anymore but she would still need to work as an SP for a short while at least... I confess, I will have a hard time dealing with this situation.

Considering the way we meet, it is a very unusual situation. Until recently hobbying was just two consenting adults having a good time with no strings attached, I guess things changed.

Still thinking about it but I would like it to work.

Been there, done that. It doesn't work. Ask yourself, do you like this woman? You hardly know her yet. Or are you in it just for the free sex as you mentioned above that you wouldn't have to hobby anymore meaning not having to pay for it. Many guys are until they meet someone special and marry them. In your situation, I would say it is too premature at the moment. This may sound difficult but I would get to know her without sex involved. Just as a guy would expect an escort to get involved with without money being exchanged. Then see if things change for better or for worse. Sex just like money can cloud your judgement on every aspect of a relationship so proceed with caution. I will leave the comments about her job to a minimum because you seem to be okay with this for right now but things change on both ends. Don't expect her to drop everything such as her job unless things become serious and don't give her an ultimatum either. This will make you look insecure and will drive her away.

SPs and clients click all the time but it is a huge step to take it outside of that business relationship. It is something I would never consider again. In my situation, I would have kept the guy as a client and not proceeded any further. He was nice but 15+ years than me and come to think of it we didn't have a lot in common but we did click in some way. We could talk for hours and hours about anything and he was very personable which is something I admired about him. I think I was just a short term stop for him, maybe some sex on the side and being younger I was naive and foolish for thinking there was any kind of future. Too many complications and thinking you know someone when you really don't. You live and you learn. LOL.

 

[topoon]

Been there done that! We had developed instant chemistry and she asked me out, during our first appointment. I was hesitant and but said yes. She was a VERY VERY popular girl on TERB. I felt on top of the world...i was banging her every night for free, and she was begging for it...Believe me im not the greatest in the sack, but we seemed to have intoxicating chemistry that brought out some of the best sex i ever had. She made so much money it was rediculous. $1000 a day at least. She would pay for everything, every dinner, transportation, fun stuff...everytime i offered to pay it was "Don't be silly"....she told me she was saving up enough money to pay her upcoming 3 years of uni off, and then quit in a couple months....i was okay with what she was doing for the time being, but wanted some exclusivity and was waiting for the day she would quit. It never came. "I'm just a little short, i need a few more months, just till chritmas....just till march...march came along and she was so addicted to the money she told me since the summer was so busy, she would quit when she went into 2nd year....I got the point then...the money was too good, it came too easily, and she wasn't quiting anytime soon....I wasn't heartbroken or anything but realized i would be sharing her for years to come if i stayed with her....haven't talked to her in almost a year Don't know if she works anymore!

 

[waldointo]

Alex,
Not in it for free sex at all but I do understand your point. Age difference is +/- 5 yrs, so the age factor is not a big deal. Alex, thanks for sharing, I appreciate this honest answer - it seems quite a few people experienced the same situation with more or less success.

 

[waldointo]

Topoon, interesting comment.
I can relate, the lady I am seeing is also a fairly popular lady. Some terb members would be sad to see her go I am sure. My head is sending me a message... not sure I want to listen to it
Cheers

 

[Brandon123]

Had the chance to do so but decided it would not be a good idea. How can you explain her to your friends. Here's my new gf, she's an escort.

 

[Brandon123]

Sukdeep I don't know what you tell people what you do for a living but I'm 100% sure that you have been asked that question before. You can't keep secrets from your friends or family, it would eventually come out. What do you do then Sukdeep??? Ops! I forgot to mention that my gf is an escort and that's how we meet. You can easily say that it wouldn't matter but you have no idea because you never dated an SP or even been offered to date one. Well I have and made the right decision to decline. I still have her number and call her from time to time. Even meet up with her for coffee but that's it.
By the way Sukdeep,you should learn from dapperdon, he knows how to respond properly to a discussion.

 

[fuji]

Are you still giving her money?

If you are still giving her money, she is still "in character".

 

[waldointo]

Are you still giving her money?

If you are still giving her money, she is still "in character".

Nope

 

[Brandon123]

No money is exchanged. I don't see her anymore because she was trying to get closer on a personal level. She has my number which I had for 10 years and and I don't want to change it so, she can always get in touch of me if she wanted too but she does respect my privacy.

 

[ElCoyote]

What Happens If

I've always been curious as to how a relationship with an sp would develop. For those guys that have experienced it, did you happen to see the girl many times before something happened? Or was it a one time kind of encounter as a client and then things developed from there?

There are times after a session with an sp, I've asked to hang out in the real world. Maybe grab dinner something together, but so far I have always gotten a smile and some have taken my number, but nothing develops further.

I guess you have to see the sp quite regularly for something to develop. True or False?

But lets assume that you are in a relationship with an sp who continues to work. Now what if you go to see another sp or go to an mp? Would the girl get pissed off? Is that considered cheating? I know there are alot of pitfalls to potentially experience if you decide to go down this way, but being fully aware of the reality of the situation could ground you and maybe allow for something to develop. Just my 2 cents.

EC

 

[hotsex2]

I am sure this topic came up before.
I met this lady a few times and we clicked right away. She is a cute, well reviewed SP. I will hold all other details for obvious reasons. We have exchanged personal information, been out to dinner a few times and realized the attraction is even stronger 'in the real world'. Given the nature of this hobby you can't really ask friends for advice and run the risk of having the girl judged because of what she does.

We are both single, I enjoy this hobby and she seems to enjoy her job. I would not need to hobby anymore but she would still need to work as an SP for a short while at least... I confess, I will have a hard time dealing with this situation.

Considering the way we meet, it is a very unusual situation. Until recently hobbying was just two consenting adults having a good time with no strings attached, I guess things changed.

Still thinking about it but I would like it to work.

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Done it... been there.. 2 times.. it never does work out.. I even introduce her to my family and friends. We went for 4 years.. I think its the trust factor was the issue

 

[keepmovingforward]

i personally would do it if she's clearly putting out as much money as you are in the relationship. at least it shows that she's not in it for the money. then i would just accept the fact that she's an escort and forever will be unless she got sick of the prof and left it. if you can't handle that...move the hell on.

personally...i couldnt give 2 sh!ts about what my friends would think. though my parents and grandparents would be a concern. lol..but lying can be a powerful tool. lol. but to be honest...if they were to eventually find out...i wouldnt mind either. just not really interested in throwing it in their faces.

at the same time...i would pursue it just as an experience. its what life is about. though the board seems to clearly say that its not likely to work out...and if you're bored...go for it. casual dating...casual relationship...and always keep in mind that you cant control what she does in the future and you accept it and move on.

 

[fnog9]

Been there done that! We had developed instant chemistry and she asked me out, during our first appointment. I was hesitant and but said yes. She was a VERY VERY popular girl on TERB. I felt on top of the world...i was banging her every night for free, and she was begging for it...Believe me im not the greatest in the sack, but we seemed to have intoxicating chemistry that brought out some of the best sex i ever had.

OMG!!! You bastards are making me so jealous!!!! I met an sp who wants to be friends..... but not have sex. Not even as a client!! We met for the first time, she seemed to LOVE me as a person, but had little interest in having sex with me even as a paying customer! She wanted to be friends, cut the appointment short, still took my money though.

 

[waldointo]

Hey EC,
I certainly do not have all the answers. I have been hobbying for 3 years and it never happended before even with an SP whom I've seen more than once. With this lady, right at the end of the second appointment we were exchanging infos. If she continues to work, it's her choice and it's the tough part. As for seeing SP again, I don't know. I hobby because I am single and because I can afford it ! I travel a lot and I like to experience new things. We are both pretty open minded about sex, it might be interesting !

 

[james t kirk]

Well what do you have to lose?

She's a whore, you're a whore-monger, so you're on even ground. If you even sense you're going to get judgemental, then you should call it quits.

Finding someone to truly care about and have them care about you is pretty tough to do sometimes. If she's a good person, you need to be able to look past it. If it goes south, it goes south. Not like that doesn't happen a million times a minute round the world.

I don't think too many women want to make being a call girl their lifetime career. (I can think of one old call girl who went on to be a major politician in Canada.) If she has a plan that she's working toward in order to be able to retire then that's something.

Personally, I would go for it, but I have come to realization that I am turned on by hot promiscous women.

 

[buttercup]

We are both single, I enjoy this hobby and she seems to enjoy her job. I would not need to hobby anymore but she would still need to work as an SP for a short while at least... I confess, I will have a hard time dealing with this situation.

It sounds as though you might want to dictate her choice of careers.

Who do you think you are, that you know better than she does, what she ought to do? I don't mean that aggressively - I mean, why should you think your judgement is better than hers?

Loving her does not mean owning her. Loving her means loving her for what she is, not for what you want her to be. If she asks you for advice about her career, by all means help her with what criteria she should use in making her decision -- but don't decide for her, and don't tell her what you would decide if you were in her place.

If you have a preference as to what career she should pursue, cancel it.

As Kipling (nearly) said:
If you can hear her dreams, and not make disapproval,
Yours is the earth, and everything that's in it,
And, which is more, you'll be a Man, my son.

 

[fuji]

Nope

Are you buying her lots of expensive things?

Sorry you might find my question insulting but there have been a lot of people come on here who have thought they were dating an SP but in some way or another they were still paying her and she was still in character. It happens.

There have been other people who have actually struck real relationships and wound up happily ever after. That happens too.

Unfortunately situation #1 happens a lot more than #2.