Dating someone who is very independent

Would you date a very independent person

  • No, the person I date must want ALL of me.

    Votes: 2 4.4%
  • No, I don't mind giving her some alone time but not THAT much.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Not sure.

    Votes: 1 2.2%
  • Sure. But eventually I may have to find someone less independent.

    Votes: 4 8.9%
  • Sure, she can have all that alone time. I can find other things to do.

    Votes: 38 84.4%

  • Total voters
    45

hyperdog

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How do you feel about dating someone who generally likes to spend time alone doing her personal stuff? Whether it be work, studies, or hobbies. It does not necessarily mean that she does not like you very much. In fact, she may be very much in love with you, but she MUST have her regular alone time (say 4 hours per day, on top of a full-time job) to do her things that do not involve you because that is just her personality.
 

alwayslooking

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sounds great and the recipe for a long relationship as long as you're still getting fucked as much as you want to
 

hyperdog

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sounds great and the recipe for a long relationship as long as you're still getting fucked as much as you want to
Ok, sure. Let's say that she will give you the sex you need. BUT, since she is very busy doing her personal stuff, I think it will have to be at HER timing, not yours.
 

blackrock13

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Define own stuff and independant How much do/will you spend with you per week two days one day 12 hours, 3 hours, a couple of hours a month, More details HD. Another office worker maybe. You previous adventure has taught us you think too much and tend to hold back details.
 

hyperdog

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Define own stuff and independant How much do/will you spend with you per week two days one day 12 hours, 3 hours, a couple of hours a month, More details HD. Another office worker maybe. You previous adventure has taught us you think too much and tend to hold back details.
Ok, let's say she is spending about 4 hours per day practising her guitar, and she works full-time too. You can stay with her during those 4 hours, but don't disturb her because she needs her concentration. During her breaks, she is all yours though.
 

Hangman

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At least you're talking about character and personality now instead of physical attributes. Progress, I guess?
 

Brill

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You're lucky to find someone who isn't too clingy, encourage her growth and interests - then perhaps show her with something you've learned to do or found interesting.
 

blackrock13

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Ok, let's say she is spending about 4 hours per day practising her guitar, and she works full-time too. You can stay with her during those 4 hours, but don't disturb her because she needs her concentration. During her breaks, she is all yours though.
So it sounds like you have 4 hours to spend 'with her' each day . If it's live in, not bad for a couple of professionals. Then you have the weekends together save the 4 hour practice sessions. Welcome to modern dink life in the big city.
 

artj

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Sounds like my marriage. When I met my wife I said I work alot and I have lots of hobbies(ADD). She said fine because she likes her space. Perfect.
P.S. we are still together
 

james t kirk

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Love it.

If I'm dating someone, I'm happy to see them just on weekends frankly.

I'm so busy and sometimes I want to just crash.
 

iismee

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Personally, I need to be with somone whom I know has their own friends and hobbies. That way I won't feel obligated to be their sole source of relaxation and entertainment. I expect that person to also expect the same of me. There is me time, you time and us time.
 

capncrunch

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Those who truly are strong and independent, whether male or female, won't advertise the fact. So if there's someone I'm interested in who brings up the "strong and independent" line within the first hour, I'd bet my last gallon of gas that she's another clingy attention-whore.

For me personally, my ideal relationship is with someone who truly is strong and independent because it means that I'm not on entertainment duty all the time. My current squeeze and I only see each other twice a week and so far it's working great.

After all, we had separate lives before we were together. The relationship is supposed to add to our lives, not subtract.

Plus I've got guaranteed shagging a couple of times per week.

But it's not tonight. *checks escort reviews*
 

oil&gas

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Which area do you live in GTA?

From a central location in TO 4 hours of spare time should
provide a long enough break for you to visit one of the high end MPs
in Brampton or Mississauga. Daily 4-hr break is a godsend to
many attached hobbyists who have to sneak away during
the lunch hours for a quick relief.

You probably won't want to hobby each and every day and you may
even choose to remain faithful to your partner. Try find a hobby that can keep
you occupied in your residence in her presence. It could be gardening
if you have a backyard. If you have the will finding a new skill to pick
up could be most valuable. It could be gourmet cooking, a foreign
language etc. Making good use of the free 4 hours could improve
quality of life significantly.
 

Don

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I agree with the others that I love a girl who has her own life. I need a lot of time to myself and I've dated girls who always wanted to spend time together and it really wore me out.
 

onthebottom

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I wouldn't have it any other way, who wants a stage 3 clinger....

OTB
 

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I much prefer independent women. Very much.
 

TeasePlease

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Absolute worst is a clingy, needy chick who thinks she's independent.
 

needinit

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I did the bottom choice as I also like time to myself and this is a good balance
 
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